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2clueless is offline 2clueless Post #1  April 8,2010, 9:09am
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I've decided not to renew at EH, for now. However, I do have one match that arrived earlier this week and we'e been doing GC and he just sent me his MH/CS. My membership is over today, I'm guessing at midnight tonight. I've never gotten too far on the communication path so I'm not well versed on the options and sequence. WWYD?

Option A
I'm thinking of requesting fast track, telling him that I'm not renewing and offering my personal email address to continue dialogue if he so chooses. However, I know that sometimes people do reject fast track requests and if he does reject fast track and I am in non paying status then our communication is finito until the next FCW.

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If I send him my MH/CS then will I also have the chance to send him my second round of questions? Is it possible to write in questions at that stage? I could write in one of the question boxes something like "Might you be willing to communicate off site? My membership ends today" and then leave my email address.

I am not willing to just join again. What say ye?
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2clueless wrote :
I've decided not to renew at EH, for now. However, I do have one match that arrived earlier this week and we'e been doing GC and he just sent me his MH/CS. My membership is over today, I'm guessing at midnight tonight. I've never gotten too far on the communication path so I'm not well versed on the options and sequence. WWYD?

Option A
I'm thinking of requesting fast track, telling him that I'm not renewing and offering my personal email address to continue dialogue if he so chooses. However, I know that sometimes people do reject fast track requests and if he does reject fast track and I am in non paying status then our communication is finito until the next FCW.

Option B
If I send him my MH/CS then will I also have the chance to send him my second round of questions? Is it possible to write in questions at that stage? I could write in one of the question boxes something like "Might you be willing to communicate off site? My membership ends today" and then leave my email address.

I am not willing to just join again. What say ye?
If I remember the sequence correctly: If he has sent you his MHCS and it is your turn to send your MHCS then he will read your MHCS and send you his Second Questions.

Your subscription will end at midnight California time.

What I would do in this situation would be to send MHCS to continue the Guided Communication process in the hope that he will get to the Second Questions part. I would also request Fast Track at the same time and put your personal e-mail in the request message along with that your subscription is ending today. This gives you two avenues to hopefully complete to the point that you can continue communicating after your subscription ends.

Just a late FYI. If you write your own answers in First Question you can give a personal contact even at that point. Since the Second Questions are write in answers you can certainly put your contact in at that point. Also at Second Questions you can choose to write your own questions so you can even put your contact information into one of your questions.

All the best of luck, I hope that you are able to continue communicating with this match and that it works out for you.
 
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Thanks for the feedback. I am an undying optimist. I will respond back to the guided communication and then also request fast track. Somehow I thought that one precluded the other.

I have a tendency to make everything into a sign. The match that arrived on Valentine's Day: A sign! The match that was matched with me on two boards: A sign! The match that arrived the week I decided to quit: A sign! Lol. I hope it works out, if not, no harm no foul.
 
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You could also send the fast track request AND update your profile to state that you are no longer a paying member. He will see the update on his front page and then may be more inclined to accept the e-mail. Be sure to include some contact info in your e-mail.
 
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2clueless wrote :
Thanks for the feedback. I am an undying optimist. I will respond back to the guided communication and then also request fast track. Somehow I thought that one precluded the other.

I have a tendency to make everything into a sign. The match that arrived on Valentine's Day: A sign! The match that was matched with me on two boards: A sign! The match that arrived the week I decided to quit: A sign! Lol. I hope it works out, if not, no harm no foul.
If you respond in Guided Communication and then send a Fast Track request as a paying member your match should be able to see both. If he is opposed to accepting your Fast Track request then he would not see your message but you would still be in GC until your subscription expires. I am presuming from what you have said that your match has been responding promptly so hopefully which ever direction this goes you will be able to get to a point of providing your contact information.

Now if I could get just one of my 64 matches would respond back.
 
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I think the fast track is a fine idea.

Another idea is to just pay another month. Once a subscription ends, I think it continues month-to-month at the same rate as you purchased (e.g., about $20 / month.)

While I respect the logic of economy, I would be very sceptical about paying to meet a woman to cheap / poor to use the dating site for another month.

If you really like the match, $20 is minimal.
 
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I had a month to month membership so I paid a higher rate than the longer term membership offers: my choice. Between my three non consecutive monthly memberships I could probably have had a year membership. It's not the money although I appreciate your observation that the guy could interpret it as cheapness or disinterest. He certainly could. But I would hope he would just ask me why I've moved on.

I'm simply letting my site memberships peter out and taking a breather. Spring has sprung and my hobbies gear up at this time and I am focusing elsewhere for romantic potentials. For now. I'll be back as Arno would say!

Anyhow, the Email has been sent. I appreciate the advice.
 
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Epic fail. He wrote back within the EH system stating that he'd love to keep communicating and asked me to send him my number. Well, I don't have anyway of doing that without resubscribing.

Dun dun duuuuuuuun. Will he use the yahoo addess I provided to him sooner or later? Does she care enough to resubscribe for yet another monthly membership?
 
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Frustrating... If you are interested in reinstating there is a code for $20 for one month you can use.
 
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If you gave a personal e-mail, and he doesn't use it, I wouldn't bother going any further.

I would not give an additional, superfluous, means of communication, to glorify the demands of someone I don't even know.
 
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