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MB82x is offline MB82x Post #1  April 8,2010, 4:22am
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On eHarmony, there are settings where you can set how important some characteristics of potential matches are (such as smoker/non-smoker, religion, etc...)

One of these is for height.

However, there are only options for me to enter my height and the importance of my match's height - but no option to specify what I would like my match's height to be.

Anyway, I have my height entered as 5'5" and set my "importance" to either the highest or second highest setting - figuring it would match me with women around my height (pref. 4'10" - 5'5"). The result was, I found myself matched with women of all different heights - 5'3" up to 6'0". I was getting very few matches.

Today, I changed the setting for height to "not at all important" and then asked for more matches. Immediately, I had about 8 new matches... and their heights were all 5'0" to 5'3"...

I'm very confused about the logic here. Anyone?
 
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By having the importance of height setting on not important, you will get more matches.

Your problem is you're 5'5" and most of the women out there in eH fantasyland will only date guys taller that them when they are wearing high heels.

When filling out their profile information they may SAY height isn't important, and the 'regulars' here will say it's not important, the reality is IRL it ain't looking good.
 
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there is no logic. my tall female friend kept getting matched with guys 5'3" and i kept getting matched with guys over 6 foot.
 
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Yeah, being a short guy really does limit your options...

I have a female friend who is very short, and she once remarked "I'll only date a guy if he's taller than 6'2"."

I replied, "You're like 4 foot 9!"

She replied, "No, I'm 4 foot 11."



Maybe I should just start dating midgets, so I can qualify as tall, dark and handsome.

Or at least talk, and somewhat average looking.
 
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tweet37 wrote :
By having the importance of height setting on not important, you will get more matches.

Your problem is you're 5'5" and most of the women out there in eH fantasyland will only date guys taller that them when they are wearing high heels.

When filling out their profile information they may SAY height isn't important, and the 'regulars' here will say it's not important, the reality is IRL it ain't looking good.
Very well said and very true. It is the very rare girl for whom a short guy is remotely acceptable.
 
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I have heard that the way the height setting works, at least in theory, is:

If you are a guy and you set your height Importance to the most Very Important then you would be matched to girls who are your height or less. For the girls the opposite is the case and they would be matched to guys that are their height or taller.

Now the Importance setting is not linear so if you move just a bit off Very Important you have a large range change. Your experience is sort of showing this to be true. However, I can't explain why when you made height not important at all you then got matches who were in the height range that you desire. Maybe just that they came up at that time.

I am even shorter than you and have my Importance setting a bit down from Very Important and mostly get matches in the 5'6" and taller range and regularly to 5'10". Every now and then I get one at 6'0".
 
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scarlet13 wrote :
there is no logic. my tall female friend kept getting matched with guys 5'3" and i kept getting matched with guys over 6 foot.
And I'm over 6'1" and all I got was short chicks. So, yeah, there ain't no logic.
 
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If the site were designed logically, it would let you specify the height range you want, just like you can do for age. Then even the women who want shorter guys and the men who want taller women could at least specify that.

Sometimes I wonder who makes these decisions; it's like they're not thinking at all.
 
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I'm pretty sure it doesn't matter. I'm 5'10 and I had my height preference at one below 'most important' and I was getting men who were 5'5 and 5'6, so I set it to 'most important', and I still get men at that height...a LOT of them.
 
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Short men need lovin' too!
 
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