Using email (aka Fast track) to test if one is a member


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cal_dude is offline cal_dude Post #1  April 7,2010, 5:33pm
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I just couldn't bring myself to close some interesting yet non-responsive (for quite a while) matches. I couldn't tell if they were members since many anonimyze their views. So I fast tracked several as a test. Three looked at my email, but didn't reply anything back. Conclusions: they are members; just not interested in communication; and can be safely closed soon once given some more time.
 
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Disagree.

1. Every profile is a member.

2. Not every member is a paying member. Only paying members can respond to your communication. Most members are non-paying members, about 90% in my (and many others) experience.

3. Not all members are active. Most non-paying members are also non-active.

I am not sure how you are determining that a match has read your eHarmony mail message (Fast Track request). If you are going by the fact that they show up in your Who's Viewed Me that only indicates that they received notice of you having sent a communication and they viewed your profile. If they are non-paying members I don't believe that they can read your message.

In fact by having sent a Fast Track request you may well have shut yourself out of actually communicating with that match unless they decline the request (which if they are non-paying members they can't do).
 
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I'm probably missing something, but how can you tell that they looked at your email? Thinking maybe I should do this....
 
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When a match accepts the email request, the status becomes 4-Eharmony Mail.
 
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I did this too, sent out three fast track emails. so far none of them has opened the email or looked at my profile, not even anonymously because the anonymous count has not changed.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :

In fact by having sent a Fast Track request you may well have shut yourself out of actually communicating with that match unless they decline the request (which if they are non-paying members they can't do).
A valid point. This is an experiment, not a strategy. Results would vary for everybody. But for me it seems 3 out of 5 accepted the message, followed by silence. Just pondering those 3, not the other 2 I might have shut out if they ever come back (do they?).

P.S. I forgot to mention, and I just realized it for myself. Ones I've decided to include in this experiment had some stuff changing in their profiles, so I suspected they were members.
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You also have to realize that when you receive an e-mail request it can be hard to tell that the first e-mail is already there.

You may also have run across the ladies who are tired of e-mail requests and don't respond and hold that e-mail "hostage" so you can't contact them at all.

I truly don't understand why they don't just decline the e-mail and either initiate the first questions, close you or maybe just wait for you to send the first questions.
 
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AndieIsMe wrote :
You also have to realize that when you receive an e-mail request it can be hard to tell that the first e-mail is already there.

You may also have run across the ladies who are tired of e-mail requests and don't respond and hold that e-mail "hostage" so you can't contact them at all.

I truly don't understand why they don't just decline the e-mail and either initiate the first questions, close you or maybe just wait for you to send the first questions.
No, they don't hold hostage... My bad explaining initially. so here I go: 1) I send 1st questions and a nudge in a week or two. 2) I can see her profile being updated. 3) I know that some of matches interesting to me don't stay on EH for many months, so 4) I send a fast track/ email request, 5) she accepts it but answers nothing, 6) as a result I can keep sending her emails since the email communication is open now, but what's the point if she didn't reply to the first one? I'm persistent not desperate (maybe in a few month, who knows? )
 
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AndieIsMe wrote :
I truly don't understand why they don't just decline the e-mail
Because reading the email is just like driving by the scene of an accident. Ya.. just have to look!
 
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
Because reading the email is just like driving by the scene of an accident. Ya.. just have to look!
LOL. So what should we call these people...rubbernecks? Gapers?
 
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