Cutie29 is offline Cutie29 Post #1  April 7,2010, 4:45am
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I have not received any emails from anybody. Its been a few days since I first signed up. Is this normal? All I have received is closed communication emails.
 
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MicMan is offline MicMan Post #2  April 7,2010, 5:03am
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Cutie29 wrote :
I have not received any emails from anybody. Its been a few days since I first signed up. Is this normal? All I have received is closed communication emails.
I'm going to guess what you mean is that you aren't getting communication from your matches. That isn't unusual at all. Some posters on here have gone months without getting communication.

Are you initiating contact with any of your matches? Online dating is a numbers game and you should be trying to communicate with any matches that interest you.

Also, be prepared to temper your expectations somewhat. Just like you might not be interested in every match that initiates with you, matches you initiate with may not be interested in you.

Have you completed your profile and posted pictures? Incomplete profiles and a lack of pictures can keep the closes coming.
 
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greg75 is offline greg75 Post #3  April 7,2010, 6:10am
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This is absolutely normal. I've been on EH since December, and have only had one member who I talk to on the phone. We have never went out because she always comes up with reasons why we can't. So, while I don't mind having a "phone" buddy, I'm not asking her out anymore. So, don't go into EH expecting tons of success. At the same time, I know others who have had date after date and have to close matches because they don't have time to talk to all of them. I guess it just depends upon the luck of the draw.
 
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Hi Cutie29,

Welcome to eHarmony Advice and to our Singles site.

Even though you have only been on our Singles site a few days, we know it is hard to be patient. After all, you want to find your soul mate as soon as possible! However, finding that special match, even on eHarmony, is a process that takes time.

But there are certainly things you can do to increase your chances of having a positive eHarmony experience; so I'm glad you found our site so you could get support and advice.

Your profile is what introduces you to your matches and facilitates communication; so, along with MicMan, my first recommendation is that you review your About Me answers and photos to ensure that they are the best they can be. I encourage you to take advantage of our Advice site articles and Profile Workshops to help with this effort. Here are some links you may find useful:

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http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...sted-here.html (eHarmony Profile Workshop Threads (Links listed here))
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Also, along with MicMan, if there are no "red flags" on a match's profile, I encourage you to trust the process and initiate communication. There is a reason you received each match and there is no secret as to why everyone is on eHarmony; so make the most of your subscription time and dive in!

Lastly, even with all your best efforts, there will be highs and lows to your search. To help our members stay positive and have the best eHarmony experience possible, I shared my Using eHarmony: 5 Must Read Tips. I hope you'll take a look at them and that they inspire you to keep an open heart and mind throughout your eHarmony search.

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Hi Cutie,
Don't be shy about initiating contact with your matches ... if you read these discussion boards you will find that most men really like it when women do that.

Good luck!
 
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Sassafras54 wrote :
Hi Cutie,
Don't be shy about initiating contact with your matches ... if you read these discussion boards you will find that most men really like it when women do that.

Good luck!
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Cutie29 wrote :
I have not received any emails from anybody. Its been a few days since I first signed up. Is this normal? All I have received is closed communication emails.
When I first signed up it was 7 1/2 months before I had any response to my request for communication. And several months before I had a match close me. At least if your matches close you there is some indication that you are getting matches that are real live people. Most (about 90%) of your matches are going to be non-paying members who can't respond. And most non-paying members are also non-active which means they will not view or close you.
 
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Thanks for this thread. I'm a new EH member and I began to get a little frustrated by the lack of any response to communication. But I hadn't thought about the fact that many matches are likely nonmember profiles that can't or won't respond. I'm signed up for 3 months to give this a try. I'm hoping I can at least get some communication in that time.
 
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It really helps to have at least one or two pictures on your profile that show you smilling and a completed about me section, however when completing the about me section try to avoid phrases or sentences such as I'm passionate about life or I just like to have fun or I'm new here and just trying this out. All of these are to original and might deter people from contacting you.
 
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