Be hard on my profile --- I can take it.

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MY PROFILE:

The one thing Timothy is most passionate about: According to my little girls, I am the "best Daddy in the whole world." I have two amazing and beautiful little girls and I am very passionate about exposing them to a great diversity of people and experiences so they live enriched lives and can eventually decide for themselves who they want to be.

Nice. Disclosure of children from a previous relationship and a explanation of parenting style in the same paragraph. Obvious affection too.

The most important thing Timothy is looking for in a person is: I don't believe there is a single quality rather a multitude of qualities that would generally define the person for whom I am looking. TOP PRIORITIES: someone who is physically attractive (to me), very well-educated, affectionate, adventurous, open-minded, maternal (and also willing to love my 2 little girls; I acknowledge an "instant family" is a lot to ask), rational, honest and financially responsible.

Not so very sure about the inclusion of "financially responsible". Granted it appears on a large proportion of M.H./C.S. lists I see among my matches, but it jars a little here.


Occupation: Ecommerce / Online Marketing
Age: 39
Height: 6' 1"
Wants Kids: Maybe
Ethnicity: White, non-Hispanic
Religion: Spiritual, but not religious
Drinks: About once a week
Smokes: Never

I don't intend any attack by this. I have never seen this occupation before. Does this mean spa mmer ? I did a double-take. I mean someones got to do it, and you do it to support your family, but....I feel conflicted.

The most influential person in Timothy's life has been:

My maternal grandfather whose life story should, in my opinion, be in print. He grew up on a German farm in Wisconsin where he walked 3 miles to and from school in the snow (uphill both ways), put himself through law school, built a respected law firm and eventually sat on the bench for 25+ years. He taught me to NEVER give up and to persevere against all odds.

They farmed Germans ? Nice, Good.

The three things which Timothy is most thankful for:

• My two little girls, Carly and Casey --- they are 5 and 3, respectively.
• My parents --- they are extremely accomplished in their fields of work and have proven to be exceptionally good role models.
• My education --- the combination of Greenhill, Interlochen and Emory University (undergrad + grad) has been invaluable to me.

Not entirely sure about the specification of educational history. Firstly, combined with your age and therefore likely graduating class, this may create some privacy issues. Secondly does it seem a little like name dropping ? "My education." alone would seem under-explained though.

Three of Timothy's best life-skills are:

• Creating romance in a relationship
• Using humor to make friends laugh
• Raising and/or caring for children

Good

The one thing Timothy wishes MORE people would notice about him is:

My passionate / intense side probably makes it harder for someone to understand that I am really a sensitive person --- that is, until they really get to know me.

Synonyms. "Intense" may be less desirable than something like "enthusiastic".

The things Timothy can't live without are:

• My chocolate English Lab, "Smuckers"
• The ocean
• Good red wine
• iPhone / MacBook Pro
• Cold, fresh milk

Overall, good. The 1st, 3rd and 5th stand out. They are evocative.

The first thing people notice about Timothy is:

I'm easy to talk to especially when I find an interesting commonality.


Many peoples least favourite question, along with "One thing only my best friends know about me". Your response ,though not bad ,is something of a syllogism. You could say more here maybe ?

Some additional information Timothy wanted you to know is:

I had the privilege of living in the Bay Area for 7 years after grad school --- both in San Francisco and Napa Valley. I didn't take a single day for granted working and living in the greatest city in the U.S. --- every weekend was essentially a vacation. As you might imagine, relocating back to Dallas (where I grew up and where my family is based) was a bit of a challenge after becoming accustomed to a CA state of mind and having access to everything within a couple hundred mile radius of SF.

Okay. I have seen this in a number of American profiles. Australians don't feel the same need to elegize place, I think. I do see "Living in Australia" sometimes, in the 'Three things I am thankful for' or 'Five things I can't live without' sections, but never locality.

Timothy typically spends his leisure time:

On a day-to-day basis, I'd rather be doing almost anything outside including mountain biking, gardening, home projects (e.g. building a redwood deck or a tree swing), grilling, building a fire pit, etc.....my list would include far more adventurous activities if I were still living in the Bay Area.....going on a "hike" in a Dallas mall isn't exactly appealing to me.....actually even BEING in a mall is probably closer to the bottom of my list Less occasionally, you will find me heading to the beach as much as time will allow (will be more specific offline).

Orientation more toward natural rather than material values. Tick

The last book Timothy read and enjoyed:

Kitchen Confidential by Anthony Bourdain. No literary work has been more transparent to what REALLY happens behind the scenes in the restaurant business. Definitely appreciate Anthony's style of humor and exquisite command of the English language.

This piqued my curiosity. Good.

Timothy's friends describe him as:

• Affectionate
• Passionate
• Articulate
• Intelligent
  
  No problem here
  

Looking for any and all constructive criticism!

Thanks to everyone compelled to comment.

-Tim

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MY PROFILE:

The one thing Timothy is most passionate about: According to my little girls, I am the "best Daddy in the whole world." I have two amazing and beautiful little girls and I am very passionate about exposing them to a great diversity of people and experiences so they live enriched lives and can eventually decide for themselves who they want to be.

To me this comes across as a bit heavy handed on children. Every parent dotes on their kids, but when you bring it up like that, I get this impression that you have no room in your life for anyone else. If I were to date you, I'd just be a handmaid to your daughters' whims - not exactly a healthy relationship. Also, given your age, a lot of women are still interested in having their own family so you may want to put under additional information whether or not you are open to that.

The most important thing Timothy is looking for in a person is: I don't believe there is a single quality rather a multitude of qualities that would generally define the person for whom I am looking. TOP PRIORITIES: someone who is physically attractive (to me), very well-educated, affectionate, adventurous, open-minded, maternal (and also willing to love my 2 little girls; I acknowledge an "instant family" is a lot to ask), rational, honest and financially responsible.

The laundry list comes across as "I'm looking for a super woman to support me financially and to be instant mom to my daughters." combined with your first paragraph I would close you out at this point.



Occupation: Ecommerce / Online Marketing
Age: 39
Height: 6' 1"
Wants Kids: Maybe
Ethnicity: White, non-Hispanic
Religion: Spiritual, but not religious
Drinks: About once a week
Smokes: Never



The most influential person in Timothy's life has been:

My maternal grandfather whose life story should, in my opinion, be in print. He grew up on a German farm in Wisconsin where he walked 3 miles to and from school in the snow (uphill both ways), put himself through law school, built a respected law firm and eventually sat on the bench for 25+ years. He taught me to NEVER give up and to persevere against all odds.

The attempt at humor is a bit awkward. It's like you admire him and mock him at the same time......
The three things which Timothy is most thankful for:

• My two little girls, Carly and Casey --- they are 5 and 3, respectively.
• My parents --- they are extremely accomplished in their fields of work and have proven to be exceptionally good role models.
• My education --- the combination of Greenhill, Interlochen and Emory University (undergrad + grad) has been invaluable to me. Name dropping is a huge turn off

Three of Timothy's best life-skills are:

• Creating romance in a relationship
• Using humor to make friends laugh
• Raising and/or caring for children

The one thing Timothy wishes MORE people would notice about him is:

My passionate / intense side probably makes it harder for someone to understand that I am really a sensitive person --- that is, until they really get to know me.
The things Timothy can't live without are:

• My chocolate English Lab, "Smuckers"
• The ocean
• Good red wine
• iPhone / MacBook Pro
• Cold, fresh milk

The first thing people notice about Timothy is:

I'm easy to talk to especially when I find an interesting commonality.
Some additional information Timothy wanted you to know is:

I had the privilege of living in the Bay Area for 7 years after grad school --- both in San Francisco and Napa Valley. I didn't take a single day for granted working and living in the greatest city in the U.S. --- every weekend was essentially a vacation. As you might imagine, relocating back to Dallas (where I grew up and where my family is based) was a bit of a challenge after becoming accustomed to a CA state of mind and having access to everything within a couple hundred mile radius of SF.
Sounds like you are stuck in the glorious past and currently bitter and disenchanted about your present living situation. Tells me that you are a glass half empty type of a person. Huge turn off.

Timothy typically spends his leisure time:

On a day-to-day basis, I'd rather be doing almost anything outside including mountain biking, gardening, home projects (e.g. building a redwood deck or a tree swing), grilling, building a fire pit, etc.....my list would include far more adventurous activities if I were still living in the Bay Area.....going on a "hike" in a Dallas mall isn't exactly appealing to me.....actually even BEING in a mall is probably closer to the bottom of my list Less occasionally, you will find me heading to the beach as much as time will allow (will be more specific offline).

Again more bitter negativity about your current life and being stuck in the glorious past.
The last book Timothy read and enjoyed:

Kitchen Confidential by Anthony Bourdain. No literary work has been more transparent to what REALLY happens behind the scenes in the restaurant business. Definitely appreciate Anthony's style of humor and exquisite command of the English language.
Timothy's friends describe him as:

• Affectionate
• Passionate
• Articulate
• Intelligent

I do hope that I wasn't too hard. I liked your profile. The only areas I would change are 1) your occupation, but then that's what you do isn't it ?

and 2) your 'First thing people notice about me', response. It could be stronger.