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So let's say you've come up with original questions for the 3rd stage of guided communication and a match responds to them and sends the exact same questions to you to answer. Does it show a lack of something that they copied your questions or does it show that they think your questions are good? Opinions?
 
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So let's say you've come up with original questions for the 3rd stage of guided communication and a match responds to them and sends the exact same questions to you to answer. Does it show a lack of something that they copied your questions or does it show that they think your questions are good? Opinions?
Could be either. Why don't you answer the questions and then ask him why he used the same questions as you did in OC?
 
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bella8bella wrote :
So let's say you've come up with original questions for the 3rd stage of guided communication and a match responds to them and sends the exact same questions to you to answer. Does it show a lack of something that they copied your questions or does it show that they think your questions are good? Opinions?
I guess it would depend on how good the copied questions were, but all else equal, I'd think this is indicative of laziness and profound lack of creativity.

The copier probably thinks they're being cute, but this strikes me as obnoxious.
 
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My initial reaction was that it is laziness on his part. Almost as if a person couldn't take the time to even select the pre-made question options. I only came up with 2 on my own and the 3rd was one of the eharmony options. He sent me back the two I came up with and the same eharmony question I chose. Maybe he wants to compare answers. I could be touchy since I had a match take an item from my profile and put it on his a few weeks ago. I guess I'll just copy his answers and send them back to him (kidding!)
 
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Hmmm, I wonder if it's the same guy who copied Southpaws profile?
 
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He didn't copy my profile - just my questions. However there is another match I have that copied a very specific thing I have in my can't live without section, which I found pretty toolish. I wonder if some people are lazy or if they just have no personality/can't think for themselves.
 
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I wouldn't read much into it. Now if he never comes up with his own questions in open communication then I would be annoyed.
 
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Hmm, I would prefer to see original questions because I think what you want to know about a person depends highly on what's in the person's profile and what additional information you seek to determine if you want to take communication further.

That said, it's possible that he was hoping to find out the same information about you that you were about him.
 
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Could be almost anything.

Possibly he thought those were questions that interest you, since you asked them, and thought it would be a way to connect.

I wouldn't jump to a negative conclusion about it. Did you like his answers?
 
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Maybe he really liked your questions. Maybe he feels turnabout is fair play.

You can either keep going with this, over-analyze this and speculate about it without basis and frustrate yourself or just flat out close.
 
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