MAK1021 is offline MAK1021 Post #1  April 4,2010, 10:19am
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I have been on EH for about 3 mos. I have closed over 300 matches and really not had any that I was really excited about....until this one guy. Now, I realize it's impossible to really know someone just from their profile or some correspondence. But...I just really liked this guy from all his profile said and he had the best responses to my questions. We did get to open communication, but I was noticing it was taking him about 2 wks to respond to my emails. Each time he'd respond, he'd apologize saying how sorry he was for the delayed response and how he'd been so busy. Well, the last response I got from him, again, he said how sorry he was for the delayed response and that this had made him realize that maybe this wasn't the best time for him to be pursuing a relationship since he can't give a relationship the time he feels it deserves. He went on to say how he knew people joined EH to find that special someone, but wondered if I was interested in being friends, so that when life became more normal, we could see if the timing was right and about pursuing more. He then gave me his personal email address.

Initially, I was really impressed with his maturity about it and felt like this was really honest. I sensed a genuine interest in me, otherwise, why would he give me his personal email address. Also, he must have either ended his subscription or suspended it for a time because all his profile pics disappeared. The profile is still there, but just looks inactive. So...again, I feel like he's legit. But...I don't want to be stupid either. I did send him and email saying sure, friends was fine. But he never responded. That was a month ago. This may have been a mistake, but I did send him a basic e-card wishing him a Happy Easter and we entered into some dialogue, but that was about it. Now, I'm resigned to not doing anything more until he makes the first move - I think that's fair.

Question is - I'm not sure if there's real interest there and he really is just THAT busy or if I'm being given the runaround because "he just not that into me." Thoughts?
 
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Faraday is online now Faraday Post #2  April 4,2010, 1:52pm
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When a guy likes a girl...she knows. If you're questioning it...he's just not that into you (but you knew this because of your thread title). Be polite and sweet when he writes you but don't wait around...go live your life, meet new people and hopefully he'll come around. Good luck!
 
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Thanks girl - yeh, moving on, just bummed...I hate boys!
 
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Faraday is online now Faraday Post #4  April 5,2010, 7:35am
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My facebook status yesterday was "boys are dumb- throw rocks at them"...I feel ya
 
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Easy dose it on the rock throwing. you should have picked up on it from the first E mail if you dont get a response in 24 hours then forget it. Either they are not serious enough about the whole process or just buying time while they entertaine some other thought. Only respond to those who respond to you. No waiting we're not getting any younger.
 
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Easy now....no one said I was "waiting" for anyone...just simply wishing. It's not like I'm watching the phone or turning down going out with anyone else.
 
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you answered your own question hon---he sounds like he's probably dating someone and wants to put a place card on you just in case it doesn't work out---generally men never seem to busy to want say sex for example
 
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A week is rediculous, no matter how busy you are. When they like you and aren't just using you as a backup card, they will be excited to hear from you, and nearly always respond in under 48hrs. When it comes to losing 5 minutes of sleep or talking to a girl I'm interested in, sleep always ends up losing out.
 
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computerfox is offline computerfox Post #9  April 21,2010, 6:50pm
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I can tell you that for some of the emails I receive, it can take me up to a week to respond simply because I want to put some thought and time into answering their questions in the email. Also take a look at his occupation. If he is a graduate student, pre-med student, or any other occupation where he (and many others in that field) would be married to it. In that case he is being completely honest.

It is very possible that he's just keeping you on hand while he dates around, but you really don't know for sure.
 
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when we finally get to a point where the profile and answers appear to be WHAT WE WANT we do hope that the person on the other end is feeling the same way. Unfortaunately that is seldom the case and the sooner we can determine that the better.
The whole EH deal is about connections and if someone is taking more than a week to respond I would say that you can put a X to that person. No matter how busy they are they will find the time throughtout the week.

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