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I think my profile gives a very good impression of who I am and who I want to meet. I have no negative comments (as far as I can, and a few others) can tell. So, why do the yoga practicing, vegan, environmentalists keep trying to contact me? I'm going to post almost everything except for the best friends part, because I cannot change it. I also realize some of this may seem out of order, I copied and pasted from the "My Profile", not from how others see my profile.

What are you most passionate about?

Rifles and target shooting are my newest favorite thing. Once I have my ducks in a row I may even buy myself a nice rifle. Since junior high I have been an avid writer. This is something I let go for a few years and would like to dedicate some energy to. But I think the guns will come first.

What are the THREE things for which you are MOST thankful?

My son & family
Friends
Where I grew up. It's beautiful here.

How do you typically spend your leisure time?

On the computer. Taking my walks. Out with friends, new and old. Cooking and then cleaning up the huge mess I make in the kitchen.

Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and why?

My son. I would hate to think of where I would be in life without him. He changed me just by being born.

What is the most important quality that you are looking for in another person?

Genuine. I don't want or need someone that pretends they are interested in the same things I am. Be who you are and if we click, great!

Other than your appearance, what is the first thing that people notice about you?

You will see that I am friendly, smile a lot, flirt a lot. I try to be funny and not stuck up. This isn't true when I'm meeting a date (I get nervous some times). A new friend recently called me "bubbly". Not sure I care for the word, but I guess it works.

What is the ONE thing that people DON'T notice about you right away that you WISH they WOULD?

My style of dress can be semi-professional. This does not mean I don't like the dirt and mud. You will find snow boots and hiking boots in my closet as well as heels and dress boots. My country girl side wants to come out and play again.

What are five things that you "can't live without?"

My son
Books
Chocolate
Sushi
Walking shoes and MP3 player for walks

Describe the last book that you read and enjoyed. What was it about? What did you like most about it?

Message in a Bottle. It was good and sad. I cried at the end. Much better than the movie.

I need to get to the library soon and get some more.

Is there any additional information you would like your matches to know about you? (Side note on this. I know there is one thing in here people might take as "negative". Also, I can't seem to get line breaks in this section. It is already pushing the limit on number of characters.)

I'm ready to find my perfect mate and may even consider relocating for the right person. If I meet the right guy the pace might speed up a bit. My eyes are looking towards something more traditional. The details aren't important. What is, is that I'm looking to be at home more. This is definitely a topic for discussion. Recent changes have made it possible for me to consider going back to school. I talk WAY too much and WAY too loud. If you don't find this "quality" endearing or something close to it, we're probably not a good match. Gosh, there's so much more. I guess it will all have to wait until we talk in person. I am a paid member.
 
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AndieIsMe wrote :
What are you most passionate about?

Rifles and target shooting are my newest favorite thing. Once I have my ducks in a row I may even buy myself a nice rifle. Since junior high I have been an avid writer. This is something I let go for a few years and would like to dedicate some energy to. But I think the guns will come first.

I can truthfully say I haven't ever seen this answer before - and I seen a lot of profiles!

I'd rather see one topic, with an explanation and examples, please. Especially, some language which connects how your participation in that topic is inviting to your targeted (sorry!) men.
 
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How do you typically spend your leisure time?

On the computer. Taking my walks. Out with friends, new and old. Cooking and then cleaning up the huge mess I make in the kitchen.

On the computer ought to have more explanation: posting, reading, research, news, entertainment, games? Ditto out with friends ... what kind of cooking?

For each statement, can you craft a brief story with imagary?
 
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AndieIsMe wrote :
What are you most passionate about?

Rifles and target shooting are my newest favorite thing. Once I have my ducks in a row I may even buy myself a nice rifle. Since junior high I have been an avid writer. This is something I let go for a few years and would like to dedicate some energy to. But I think the guns will come first.

I agree with D_L, you could expand a bit on the rifle shooting (which is awesome, by the way - I've wanted to get back into pistol and rifle shooting). Why do you like it? Examples are good too. And if you go hunting, you might want to indicate that as you might stop getting the vegan environmentalists

Unlike D_L, I'm ok with having two things since you make it pretty clear that you prefer the rifle shooting. But then again, I have two in mine, so I'm a bit biased


What are the THREE things for which you are MOST thankful?

My son & family
Friends
Where I grew up. It's beautiful here.

I think you could expand on the first two, they're pretty generic.

How do you typically spend your leisure time?

On the computer. Taking my walks. Out with friends, new and old. Cooking and then cleaning up the huge mess I make in the kitchen.

Agree with D_L

Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and why?

My son. I would hate to think of where I would be in life without him. He changed me just by being born.

I would expand on this as well. Why has you son been so influential? How has your life changed?

What is the most important quality that you are looking for in another person?

Genuine. I don't want or need someone that pretends they are interested in the same things I am. Be who you are and if we click, great!

Other than your appearance, what is the first thing that people notice about you?

You will see that I am friendly, smile a lot, flirt a lot. I try to be funny and not stuck up. This isn't true when I'm meeting a date (I get nervous some times). A new friend recently called me "bubbly". Not sure I care for the word, but I guess it works.

Coming from a girl's perspective, I'd be careful with saying you flirt a lot. But this might be attractive to guys...

What is the ONE thing that people DON'T notice about you right away that you WISH they WOULD?

My style of dress can be semi-professional. This does not mean I don't like the dirt and mud. You will find snow boots and hiking boots in my closet as well as heels and dress boots. My country girl side wants to come out and play again.

I like this

What are five things that you "can't live without?"

My son
Books
Chocolate
Sushi
Walking shoes and MP3 player for walks

Describe the last book that you read and enjoyed. What was it about? What did you like most about it?

Message in a Bottle. It was good and sad. I cried at the end. Much better than the movie.

I need to get to the library soon and get some more.

You could expand on this as well. Why was it good? Why was it sad? What was it about?

Is there any additional information you would like your matches to know about you? (Side note on this. I know there is one thing in here people might take as "negative". Also, I can't seem to get line breaks in this section. It is already pushing the limit on number of characters.)

I'm ready to find my perfect mate and may even consider relocating for the right person. If I meet the right guy the pace might speed up a bit. My eyes are looking towards something more traditional. The details aren't important. What is, is that I'm looking to be at home more. This is definitely a topic for discussion. Recent changes have made it possible for me to consider going back to school. I talk WAY too much and WAY too loud. If you don't find this "quality" endearing or something close to it, we're probably not a good match. Gosh, there's so much more. I guess it will all have to wait until we talk in person. I am a paid member.
Overall, I couldn't tell you why the yoga-practicing, vegan environmentalists are contacting you since nothing in your profile screams that to me. But many of those types seem pretty down to earth guys and your profile does make you seem down to earth (which, IMHO, is a good thing).

And I realize you weren't necessarily looking for a profile review, but by providing more info you could start attracting people who are more your type. Or maybe you're suppressing your vegan environmentalist side and this is Freud's sense of humor...
 
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Actually, the leisure time section was one that I had been eyeing for a change.

Thanks for the input.
 
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Funny thing, I want to add something to the rifle part, and I've been told it's unusual. In fact, almost every guy that I've spoken to that knows I have a thing for guns says it's different, which in turn, is good. I really stick out among all the other lovely ladies online. Anyway, I also really like it when a guy is a member of the NRA. Yeah, a bit silly, but I actually let out a bit of a squeal when one guy opened his wallet to show me pics of his kids and I spotted his card. We both kinda laughed about it.
 
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AndieIsMe wrote :
So, why do the yoga practicing, vegan, environmentalists keep trying to contact me?

What is the most important quality that you are looking for in another person?

Genuine. I don't want or need someone that pretends they are interested in the same things I am. Be who you are and if we click, great!
Maybe because they're the most open minded and genuine people who are viewing you? (or at least they think they are)

What do you have against environmentalist vegans, anyway?
 
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I think my profile gives a very good impression of who I am and who I want to meet.
Overall it appears you wish to meet someone who is well off enough and willing to handle a stay at home mom and her child. Which is ok, but this limits your options considerably.

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My eyes are looking towards something more traditional. The details aren't important. What is, is that I'm looking to be at home more. This is definitely a topic for discussion.
Unfortunately, this is a red flag for many financially secure guys, and without more information than you have given in your profile, is part of the reason you are not making it to first base. It may be better to avoid stating this in your profile, and wait for things to go a few steps further before "discussing" this.

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Recent changes have made it possible for me to consider going back to school.
This hints of unemployment or underemployment. This is also too open ended and does not give a potential mate any insight into what your academic aspirations are. If your intention is to go to law school or nursing or pharmacy school, which all hold potential of strong incomes, this would be good. If you are undecided about your options, and your academic background is not very strong, it is not so good. Is your expectation your new mate will pay for the schooling?

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I talk WAY too much and WAY too loud.
A big Turn Off for many men and much too frank of a statement for a profile. If this trait is such that anyone else has ever commented about it in the past, try to tone it down a couple of notches, and let a date figure out on his own if he is ok with this aspect of your personality.

Your profile is your first impression, so you should accentuate the positive, and not be so candid you shoot yourself in the foot and be ignored or closed out before making it to first base with those you seek.

As already stated, the bottom line is you appear to want a guy who is willing and able to support you as a stay at home mom, at least for the time you are in school.

While it is entirely possible, you have to beat the odds with a better strategy, and the first would be to consider making some changes to your profile. Its not bad, just needs a little polishing up to encourage a few more nibbles of the kind you seek...
 
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What are you most passionate about?

Rifles and target shooting are my newest favorite thing. Once I have my ducks in a row I may even buy myself a nice rifle. Since junior high I have been an avid writer. This is something I let go for a few years and would like to dedicate some energy to. But I think the guns will come first.

Maybe provide a little more detail on both the writing and target shooting. Like DL said tell a story about how those makes you feel

What are the THREE things for which you are MOST thankful?

My son & family
Friends
Where I grew up. It's beautiful here.

Maybe put the your son family and friend into one.And give another thing

How do you typically spend your leisure time?

On the computer. Taking my walks. Out with friends, new and old. Cooking and then cleaning up the huge mess I make in the kitchen.

Expand a little on these..
What do you do on the computer
Where do you take walks

I like the kitchen answer.. maybe just a little re-wording
I'm always whipping up something in the kitchen.Which usually requires a good deal of cleaning up afterwards..



Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and why?
My son. I would hate to think of where I would be in life without him. He changed me just by being born.

Fine

What is the most important quality that you are looking for in another person?

Genuine. I don't want or need someone that pretends they are interested in the same things I am. Be who you are and if we click, great!

I would re-word this..
Being genuine is a quality I look for.. blah blah



Other than your appearance, what is the first thing that people notice about you?

You will see that I am friendly, smile a lot, flirt a lot. I try to be funny and not stuck up. This isn't true when I'm meeting a date (I get nervous some times). A new friend recently called me "bubbly". Not sure I care for the word, but I guess it works.

This is okay.. but the way it's written.. Sounds like you wouldn't be smiling or flirting or funny at all when first meeting someone..
I would take this as you'd be a little stand-offish until you warm up..

What is the ONE thing that people DON'T notice about you right away that you WISH they WOULD?

My style of dress can be semi-professional. This does not mean I don't like the dirt and mud. You will find snow boots and hiking boots in my closet as well as heels and dress boots. My country girl side wants to come out and play again.

Good stuff here..I think it just needs to be rearranged. The first line would ctach my attention..

That my country girl side wants to come out and play! Just because my style of dress can be considered 'semi-professional". Doesn't mean I won't play in the mud and get a little dirty. If I let you peek into my closet, you'd find my snow and hiking boots right besides my heels and dress boots.


What are five things that you "can't live without?"

My son
Books
Chocolate
Sushi
Walking shoes and MP3 player for walks

I would try to expand on these..
The wonderful hugs I get from my son
Chocolate.. A cure for just about anything
Sushi.. I'm craving a good dragon roll!


Describe the last book that you read and enjoyed. What was it about? What did you like most about it?

Message in a Bottle. It was good and sad. I cried at the end. Much better than the movie.

I need to get to the library soon and get some more.

This is fine..

Is there any additional information you would like your matches to know about you? (Side note on this. I know there is one thing in here people might take as "negative". Also, I can't seem to get line breaks in this section. It is already pushing the limit on number of characters.)

I'm ready to find my perfect mate and may even consider relocating for the right person. If I meet the right guy the pace might speed up a bit. My eyes are looking towards something more traditional. The details aren't important. What is, is that I'm looking to be at home more. This is definitely a topic for discussion. Recent changes have made it possible for me to consider going back to school. I talk WAY too much and WAY too loud. If you don't find this "quality" endearing or something close to it, we're probably not a good match. Gosh, there's so much more. I guess it will all have to wait until we talk in person. I am a paid member.
I wouldn't think this is negative..I read it loud and clear..There might be a better way to get across your point.. I would consider a rewriting this section. It doesn't flow for me. The "talk way too much way too loud" doesn't bother me! I am just not a fan or profiles asking the reader to close if you don't like.. wasted space imo..
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AndieIsMe wrote :
So, why do the yoga practicing, vegan, environmentalists keep trying to contact me?
Send them here! I NEVER get hippies and I heart them! (or when I get hippies they close me *shrugs*) Lol, I ALWAYS get the extreme sport guys that love gun collecting...I wish we could trade
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I know I'm not the target but I like your profile- I think with a bit of re-wording it will be great. Good luck AndielsMe!
 
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