JKay215 is offline JKay215 Post #1  April 2,2010, 2:59pm
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I've been connecting and emailing someone for a couple weeks who still doesn't post a pic..makes me feel shallow to say I'm unsure how long I can stay interested...supposed to have "scanner issues"..if not fixed this weekend I'm wondering how I'll proceed..any advice out there?
 
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Has your match tried using a phone that has a camera? Either their own or a friends? Maybe suggest that and see where that takes you. If its still a "problem", this would definately make me wary of the person that I was communicating with and think that there was something to hide.

I honestly close out matches instantly that have no photos. I'm not shallow, I just feel that if I'm upfront with my appearance...they should be too.
 
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I go ahead and meet women with no photo.

Since the most-attractive women I've met had no photos, I get to laugh all the way to the bank.
 
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would very much appreciate it if the rain would stop, now! Thanks!

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JKay215 wrote :
I've been connecting and emailing someone for a couple weeks who still doesn't post a pic..makes me feel shallow to say I'm unsure how long I can stay interested...supposed to have "scanner issues"..if not fixed this weekend I'm wondering how I'll proceed..any advice out there?
I won't meet a guy if I don't know what he looks like. It's not because it's me being shallow, it's because I've put myself out there, and if he can't do as much, then how serious is he about finding a relationship? Sooner or later someone is going to see him, so why not make it sooner? Besides, and I've said it on other threads before, how will I know who I'm meeting if I don't know what he looks like? To me, holding that picture back is playing a game, and I'm just not playing. Granted, he may legitimately have a scanner issue, but that makes me wonder how old the picture is that he's planning to use, too. (Sorry, I'm in skeptical mode tonight.)

I think alittledistraction gave a good suggestion regarding the whole cell phone thing. If that's not an option, doesn't he have a digital camera or have a friend who has a digital camera? Nothing to scan there, and he can even have a friend take the picture (friends have a way of taking the best pictures of us, I think) and help him upload it, if need be.
 
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brneyedangel wrote :
(Sorry, I'm in skeptical mode tonight.)

Do you need a Kiss?
 
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would very much appreciate it if the rain would stop, now! Thanks!

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Do you need a Kiss?
You can't kiss this and make it better, I'm afraid. Thanks anyway.
 
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Thanks..you've given me some good advice as well as some good ways to word things when I bring this up TODAY!
 
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D_Lion wrote :
I go ahead and meet women with no photo.

Since the most-attractive women I've met had no photos, I get to laugh all the way to the bank.
I have had the experience where this was the case. Of course I just had a match put up photos after MHCS and it was time. Made a hippopotamus seem petite.
 
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I won't meet a guy if I don't know what he looks like. It's not because it's me being shallow, it's because I've put myself out there, and if he can't do as much, then how serious is he about finding a relationship? Sooner or later someone is going to see him, so why not make it sooner? Besides, and I've said it on other threads before, how will I know who I'm meeting if I don't know what he looks like? To me, holding that picture back is playing a game, and I'm just not playing. Granted, he may legitimately have a scanner issue, but that makes me wonder how old the picture is that he's planning to use, too. (Sorry, I'm in skeptical mode tonight.)

I think alittledistraction gave a good suggestion regarding the whole cell phone thing. If that's not an option, doesn't he have a digital camera or have a friend who has a digital camera? Nothing to scan there, and he can even have a friend take the picture (friends have a way of taking the best pictures of us, I think) and help him upload it, if need be.
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"scanner issues" that are not resolved quickly are more often than not baloney.

One date I met on blind faith with scanner issues, I realized why her scanner wasn't working. Although she was otherwise nice, the chemistry wasn't there.

But I do not automatically write someone off for lack of a photo. If I see other qualities I consider important, I may occasionally respond. Ultimately, it's a sum of the parts thing, as it should be....

Lack of a picture does not always mean the other person is trying to hide imperfections, but may be trying to keep their online presence as low key as possible.

Many folks in professional fields prefer to keep their dating needs as private and discreet as possible. Although I post my pics, I am always leery of someone walking up and saying "hey, I saw your pic and your profile on eHarmony".

I agree that communicating with those without photos can occasionally turn up a hidden jewel. The added benefit is a lot less competition than if they would have posted a darned good looking picture. More often than not, this is not the case. But as with any good investment portfolio, its worth taking a look at the longshots.
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