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schoobs2731 is offline schoobs2731 Post #1  April 2,2010, 1:30pm
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If girls accept my email but don't respond back with their own, do I just wait it out,do I assume they aren't interested, do I email them again after a bit?
 
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If girls accept my email but don't respond back with their own, do I just wait it out,do I assume they aren't interested, do I email them again after a bit?
How long are we talking about here? a day, three, a week?

It is possible that she didn't realize the email is there when accepting it. When you accept EH mail or OC, the email is right there in the same window and new users sometimes miss it.

Did you go straight to eharmony mail, or is this Open Communication after the GC process? It makes a difference on whether or not you can send another email.

The other possibility is..They prefer the guided communication process at first over straight email..
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People also do whatever they can to avoid hurting your feelings. It's totally possible that accepting your email and not responding is a better "rejection" than rejecting your email is. Definately depends on timing though, and I'd wait at least a week to make sure, and maybe try the GC if you hadn't done that already.
 
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Hischoobs2731,

It sounds like you invited your match to skip the "Getting to Know You" communication stages and you got a "Congratulations! Match's name has accepted your eHarmony Mail request. You can now freely write email messages to Match's name" message.

If that's the case, I think it's fair to assume that she's interested; but, as TrekRyder10 said, may be new to the site and not sure how to proceed.

Even if it's been just a day or so since she accepted your request, I don't think there's any harm in sending a short message saying you're happy she accepted your request, share a little about what's going on with you and/or ask how she's doing and let her know you look forward to hearing from her.

If I totally misread your post , please claify what's going on so you can get the help you need.

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I think it depends on how long ago she accepted the email. I'm bad about reading the email and then responding later, as in a day or two or a few.
 
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schoobs2731 is offline schoobs2731 Post #6  April 2,2010, 3:21pm
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I guess it's only been a few days (like 3 or so). I haven't been on the site very long. I just didn't know if that was a "nice rejection" or if I should actually try to communicate again.
 
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If I recall correctly, in order to view the email, you have to accept open communication. I have had this happen in the past, that I accepted communication, but then was not interested for whatever reason.

So I'm guessing that's the case here. I wouldn't send her a follow up message. She got your first message. If she wants to respond, she will. If you don't hear back within a week, I think you're safe to close.

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If you requested to go to eHarmony mail instead of going through the Guided Communication it is likely your match is not aware that the message is there. I would suggest sending another message.
 
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Hi schoobs2731,

Since your matched accepted your request just a few days ago, she may have been waiting for the weekend to send back a nice message!

There are many reasons why you may not have recieved a response yet, but it would be a shame if it was because your match was a new member and just wasn't sure how to proceed or she had a hectic week.

It's totally your call, but I still say there is no harm in sending a short message before closing the match. That way you won't have any regrets later, and, if she doesn't respond, you can better assume she's not interested in communicating and move on.

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Schoobs, what did you say in your e-mail? Could you have asked too little or too much? Did you just make it a short blurb about "how's the weather?" I'm just asking because almost every request for e-mail I get is about two sentences long and ask me NOTHING about myself. It's annoying and I really don't like having to ask questions of someone who appears to want to know nothing about ME.
 
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