I found a potentially great match, but wonder if I revealed too much in my About Me

HI all,
I could really use some advice here. I believe honesty is one of the greatest foundations of any healthy relationship, but I am worried if I shared too much in my About Me.

I recently moved to a new state/city about 2 months ago now. i had been on eHarmony after my last relationship ended five years ago. I've been on a few dates that I met here, but nothing ever came out of it. So I decided to go eHarmony another shot since I'm new to the area.

I revamped just about EVERYTHING in my About Me when I reopened my account. One of the riskiest things I did was admit to making some mistakes in the last year or so that I'm not proud of. In the "What am I looking for in another person" box I mentioned that life has been rough over the last couple of years and that I had made mistakes, and then went on to say, I have prayed for forgiveness and believe in my heart that God has forgiven me. I said I'm looking for someone who is understanding and forgiving. While I believe the mistakes are not first date material, I also believe in honesty, and there will come a time that I will need to come forward with the truth. My first question is, should I have left that part out of my About me? I am questioning this because I got to open communication with one person pretty quickly, and I let the cat out of the bag a little early and she closed the match.

I also have a second question I could use advice on. There is one person I am communicating with that really stands out above the rest of the crowd. She was the first match I received two months ago when I moved. I genuinely thought by what I read about her that she was a smart, intelligent person, whom I would really like to get to know better. So I made the first communication attempt. She responded the next day and answered my questions. I responded to her first questions the same day. Not too long after that we shared our Must Haves/Can't Stands. I was quite surprised when I found out that both of us have very similar Must Haves/Can't Stands. A week went by without a response, so I gave her a "nudge". I waited and waited and by the time three weeks had gone by with no response, I decided to skip ahead to eharmony mail. I complimented her on a very well written profile that made her seem like someone I would genuinely be interested in getting to know better etc etc. Then, since we had skipped the 2nd questions phase, I decided to ask her a couple of questions in my email. One of them was about my mistakes (without going into details). I simply asked her how understanding and forgiving she would be with someone like me.It has been 2 weeks since I emailed her and still no response, yet she hasn't closed the match! Am I rushing to conclusions, or did I reveal too much too soon?

You might feel like 'God' has forgiven you (and, yes, I'm a heathen atheist, so I have to put 'God' in quotes) ...but you apparently haven't forgiven yourself.

I can't imagine what this 'sin' of yours was ...but, you seem quite intent on making yourself pay for it (possibly for the rest of your life) by seeing to it that everyone you meet knows about it (without going into details).

If you want to put yourself in purgatory for whatever this 'mistake' was ...go ahead ...just don't expect anyone to join you there. You obviously need to 'come clean' about it, and that's probably exactly what you should do - to someone who cares (like a therapist), not a_random_person you met online.

Honestly, I'd run in the other direction too if a woman was to come up to me practically off the street and said, "I can't tell you why, exactly, but how forgiving and understanding are you about past mistakes?" ...at the very least, it whispers "Drama" ...at worst, it screams "this is a situation/person I don't want to get involved with".

I don't really want to know what you did, but unless you killed or raped someone, something tells me this 'mistake' of yours is more of a mole-hill than a mountain.

You might feel like 'God' has forgiven you (and, yes, I'm a heathen atheist, so I have to put 'God' in quotes) ...but you apparently haven't forgiven yourself.

I can't imagine what this 'sin' of yours was ...but, you seem quite intent on making yourself pay for it (possibly for the rest of your life) by seeing to it that everyone you meet knows about it (without going into details).

If you want to put yourself in purgatory for whatever this 'mistake' was ...go ahead ...just don't expect anyone to join you there. You obviously need to 'come clean' about it, and that's probably exactly what you should do - to someone who cares (like a therapist), not a_random_person you met online.

Honestly, I'd run in the other direction too if a woman was to come up to me practically off the street and said, "I can't tell you why, exactly, but how forgiving and understanding are you about past mistakes?" ...at the very least, it whispers "Drama" ...at worst, it screams "this is a situation/person I don't want to get involved with".

I don't really want to know what you did, but unless you killed or raped someone, something tells me this 'mistake' of yours is more of a mole-hill than a mountain.

The mistakes were just a couple misdemeanor DUIs for which I lost my license for one year. I understand your opinion though Biker. I know you say you're an atheist, and I respect that. I'm getting a lot of people saying that I haven't forgiven myself. The truth is though, I have been sober since the day I set foot in jail, and yes I have forgiven myself. I just want to know that it's not a "deal breaker".

I wouldn't mention mistakes in your profile- all that does is give people a reason to close you, especially when you're vague about what the mistakes were.