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Have you ever run across a match with a first name that instantly turns you off? For example, the person has the same nameas an ex, someoneyou can't stand,or is obviously using their (rather bizarre) nickname? Would you be willing to give the person a chance if their profile was interesting, or would the name hurdle be too much to get past?

I ran across someone named "Diego" which instantly made me grimace, because it reminded me of an old co-worker who was a complete MORON. I was 99% sure I would have to close the match because of this, and fortunately, I wasn't interested in their profile, so whew! I also ran across the nickname "Snake" which creeped me out...so did the profile! :P

- May 25th, 2008, 06:33 am
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Yes, I just got a match yesterday (probably a free weekender) who says his name is Socrates. But it's his profile that turns me off more than his name. He mentions in several areas (and in all caps) that he HATES FAT PEOPLE and he's not interested in THEIR OPINION of whether or not they are fat. He would accept a BMI index or something from a standard chart indicating they were in the right weight range for their height! I am not kidding! I am not fat, but would not respond to this attitude for love nor money! Of course, you have to request HIS picture! And even if he had not had this ridiculous diatribe, I would have been turned off by the name Socrates - sorry, but it's weird and sounds fake.
- May 25th, 2008, 06:51 am
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I received a match the other day...name listed..."Pooflo". As if. Closed.
- May 25th, 2008, 06:58 am
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I almost reflexively closed a match who had the same name as my ex. Thought better of it, and realized I was being silly.



Yeah, there are some names that I wince at when I see them. I'm not fond of Ronald, Harvey, or Maurice (they remind me of grumpy old guys with suspenders over undershirts and huge beer bellies - and yes, I know those are horrible stereotypes), but I try not to hold it against them. I do, however, have serious doubts about guys who use nicknames (like Scooter, Putter, or Maddog) as their profile names. If it's in their "about me" section, I don't mind, but c'mon! I want to know him by the name I'll be using, not what their 6th grade buddies called him.
- May 25th, 2008, 07:08 am
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Oh, same here, NancyG! Some names just give you a bad stereotypical image (i.e. the name Bertha is probably a turn off for most men)...Ihad troublegetting past the first name "Hubert." And dammit, the guy lives in my area!But I went ahead and sent him a first set of questions, but he never replied, so probably for the best.

Laughing about CanadianChick's comment...oh my goodness! I can only imagine the fetish described in his profile! Which reminds me, I ran across a guy whowrote in ALL CAPS in his About Me section he had a FOOT FETISH. I don't mind a guy who likes a cute pair of feet, but to mention that right off the bat? Ewww. To make matters worse, he mentioned it two more times in his profile...I got the message, buddy! I couldn't close that match fast enough!
- May 25th, 2008, 07:38 am
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Today I received a match who's name was listed as BUDDAH1. I'm assuming it's not really his name;well, one can hope!
- May 25th, 2008, 08:17 am
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I had one this weekend who's name was :GODSHUNGGIFT...space it out people and you got yourself a free weekender.
- May 25th, 2008, 09:40 am
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lol. My co-worker is Vietnamese. He husband's name is Hung. It is a Vietnamese name. Of course, we make jokes about it.

With the exception of "God'sHungGift", why would you close out a match because of their name? Are you saying you have emotional baggage that you need to eliminate because of an X? I know a woman that has that same name as my X. Should I treat her differently because of her name? Nope.

I look at the picture and I read the profile to see if there is chemistry. A name is just a name.
- May 25th, 2008, 01:11 pm
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I've always wondered what my matches think of my name. I do mention in my profile that it's pronounced like "tea."
- May 25th, 2008, 03:21 pm
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IcedThi wrote :
I've always wondered what my matches think of my name. I do mention in my profile that it's pronounced like "tea."
I really like your name, Thi. I've never met anyone with that name before, actually.
- May 25th, 2008, 04:17 pm
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