BillSut is offline BillSut Post #1  April 1,2010, 2:37pm
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I've had this happen several times. I'm going through the process with a match and at sometime during the process the match stops communicating. It just stops. No closed match, no response, nothing. If they lose interest, why don't they just close the match. This last one received my second set of answers and then stopped right before she was to send me the first open communication. That was a week ago. Have any of you ladies done this and why? Why not just close the match?
 
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livenlearn is offline livenlearn Post #2  April 1,2010, 3:04pm
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Could be they were only here for a free weekend and can no longer comunicate with you. You could leave it till the next free weekend. Or close it yourself.
 
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Or their subscription ran out.
 
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MicMan is offline MicMan Post #4  April 1,2010, 3:59pm
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Welcome to the wonderful world of poofing. You're not the only one to experience this behavior.
 
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Maybe they got to GC faster with another match and are concentrating on them? Maybe they are living their life and dealing with things? Depending on what kind of time line your are expecting replies, you may be just a teensie bit inpatient.
 
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Thank you for your responses. I don't think it was a free weekend because we matched several weeks earlier. She initiated communication but I wasn't a member and was getting over another relationship. I finally decided to rejoin eharmony just to talk to her because she seemed like a good person. I suppose her subscription could've run out. I'm not being impatient, just wondering why the abrupt stop since it went quickly to that point. I will wait for her just like she did for me. Thanks again.
 
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Mr79percent is offline Mr79percent Post #7  April 1,2010, 6:19pm
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Believe it or not, there are some women who will not close once they make a decision you are not "the one". One of my dates explained she didn't close people because she thought it was cruel, and she didn't want to be mean. I tried to argue that "not closing" was more cruel. Afterall, who likes the waiting game? Alas, since men are expected to initiate the first couple of dates, women are very familiar with the "waiting" game. I think deep down in their psyche they like distributing retribution.
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BillSut wrote :
Thank you for your responses. I don't think it was a free weekend because we matched several weeks earlier. She initiated communication but I wasn't a member and was getting over another relationship. I finally decided to rejoin eharmony just to talk to her because she seemed like a good person. I suppose her subscription could've run out. I'm not being impatient, just wondering why the abrupt stop since it went quickly to that point. I will wait for her just like she did for me. Thanks again.
Maybe she doesnt know she now is the one to send you an e-mail?
I am not sure because I have never done this. But can you now switch to fast track?
 
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