proudgeek is offline proudgeek Post #1  April 1,2010, 10:17am
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Hey, do you get the feeling that most of the womens' profiles on eHarmony are "BS" profiles? Not saying that they are fake profiles, but that they are "BS" profiles. For example, look at this one:

The most important thing Sheri is looking for in a person is: "I need a man who is honest, dependable, respectful and affectionate."

That basically sums up 95% of the womens' profiles I have seen on EH. However, after meeting a few of these women, turns out they're not being honest. They really want a super-handsome, RICH, bad-boy type that's 110% devoted to them and 180-degrees opposite of all those characteristics they described in their profile.

I really do wish that women would WRITE FROM THEIR HEART not from their HEAD. There's a HUGE difference, and women, as emotionally complex as they are, can't seem to discern this. It's starting to look like borderline LYING.

What do you think? Do I have something, or am I just a slight bitter person who's Out Of Time and sick of the superficial BS?
 
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Hey, do you get the feeling that most of the womens' profiles on eHarmony are "BS" profiles? Not saying that they are fake profiles, but that they are "BS" profiles. For example, look at this one:

The most important thing Sheri is looking for in a person is: "I need a man who is honest, dependable, respectful and affectionate."

That basically sums up 95% of the womens' profiles I have seen on EH. However, after meeting a few of these women, turns out they're not being honest. They really want a super-handsome, RICH, bad-boy type that's 110% devoted to them and 180-degrees opposite of all those characteristics they described in their profile.

I really do wish that women would WRITE FROM THEIR HEART not from their HEAD. There's a HUGE difference, and women, as emotionally complex as they are, can't seem to discern this. It's starting to look like borderline LYING.

What do you think? Do I have something, or am I just a slight bitter person who's Out Of Time and sick of the superficial BS?
PG, I thought this was common knowledge. For any man's profile, under what he's seeking in a partner add "AND VERY HOT" to whatever it is he says he's looking for, and for any woman's profile add "AND VERY TALL RICH AND GOOD LOOKING AND DEVOTED" to theirs.

There are just some things that are universal and aren't even worth writing down.
 
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ami1uwant is offline ami1uwant Post #3  April 1,2010, 10:26am
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I have experienced it too....many women are looking for fantasy man that doesnt exist and they pass over their 80% matches where they find silly reasons to end it or they overanalyze anything that actually is possible and blow it.

They do not want to "settle" because they feel empoweres to have their dream catch that just doesnt exist.

Yes their profiles of what they want are not at all unique where you look at peoples profiles and 90% of the matches are very close to idnetical in what they want.
 
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Can_I_just_be_Jo is offline Can_I_just_be_Jo Post #4  April 1,2010, 10:28am

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proudgeek wrote :
Hey, do you get the feeling that most of the womens' profiles on eHarmony are "BS" profiles? Not saying that they are fake profiles, but that they are "BS" profiles. For example, look at this one:

The most important thing Sheri is looking for in a person is: "I need a man who is honest, dependable, respectful and affectionate."

That basically sums up 95% of the womens' profiles I have seen on EH. However, after meeting a few of these women, turns out they're not being honest. They really want a super-handsome, RICH, bad-boy type that's 110% devoted to them and 180-degrees opposite of all those characteristics they described in their profile.

I really do wish that women would WRITE FROM THEIR HEART not from their HEAD. There's a HUGE difference, and women, as emotionally complex as they are, can't seem to discern this. It's starting to look like borderline LYING.

What do you think? Do I have something, or am I just a slight bitter person who's Out Of Time and sick of the superficial BS?
Yeah the guys profiles are BS as well. I have a thread burried here somewhere called like lying for honesty or something like that. Basically the majority of men's profiles say they want an honest woman and then go on to close the honest women. More so they said things like they can't live without their kids and their relationship with god. I refuse to believe this is true for 95% of the profiles I read. It was just what they think the women want to hear. I said I couldn't live without food, water, air, shelter, and internet.

I can't remember what I put for what I wanted in a man. I think the BS profiles caused me to put something like a man who values honesty. Meh, love that it is in my past.
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Hmmnnn - can't really say proudgeek, as I don't know all those women with whom you have been matched.

Mine isn't BS and guessing other women will post and say theirs aren't either...

On the other hand, it is pretty easy to observe that there are more than a fair share of cynics, conclusion jumpers and bitter daters just from reading these boards -- and that alone can really color the reading of any profile.
 
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Somewhat on point, but I think that one of my favorite women's profiles was something to the effect of: "Well, I did not know what to write in my profile, so I checked to see what other women are writing in their profiles. Apparently, we are all the same woman and looking for the same man."
 
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hankscorpio wrote :
PG, I thought this was common knowledge. For any man's profile, under what he's seeking in a partner add "AND VERY HOT" to whatever it is he says he's looking for, and for any woman's profile add "AND VERY TALL RICH AND GOOD LOOKING AND DEVOTED" to theirs.

There are just some things that are universal and aren't even worth writing down.
Well sheesh. I guess I'm just naive
 
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TXButtercup wrote :
Hmmnnn - can't really say proudgeek, as I don't know all those women with whom you have been matched.

Mine isn't BS and guessing other women will post and say theirs aren't either...

On the other hand, it is pretty easy to observe that there are more than a fair share of cynics, conclusion jumpers and bitter daters just from reading these boards -- and that alone can really color the reading of any profile.


The problem is that few hold to their profile.

How many women would get responses if they stated in their profile "I am looking for a rich and wealthy man"?
 
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Well sheesh. I guess I'm just naive
Well it's not what absolutely must be there, it's just what people want.

It's not like every woman marries a tall rich devestatingly handsome guy, and every guy doesn't marry a bouncy lingerie model.

Everyone's just trying to find someone they at least find attractive who also reciprocates enough feeling for it to work.

Take heart, young warrior.
 
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proudgeek is offline proudgeek Post #10  April 1,2010, 10:42am
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TXButtercup wrote :
Hmmnnn - can't really say proudgeek, as I don't know all those women with whom you have been matched.

Mine isn't BS and guessing other women will post and say theirs aren't either...

On the other hand, it is pretty easy to observe that there are more than a fair share of cynics, conclusion jumpers and bitter daters just from reading these boards -- and that alone can really color the reading of any profile.
I have to respectfully disagree somewhat. I joined EH with boundless optimism (same way I went into my last marriage) only to find that things are just as ugly and fake here as they are in the real world.

For example, for some ungodly reason I was being matched with all these people who don't have kids, and who - from they way I get closed out quickly - don't want to date a dedicated father. Ok so this past weekend I took out all the pictures of me and my kid. Lo and behold! I got more people contacting me since Monday than I had for almost 2 weeks straight.

But guess what. When they read my profile AGAIN, or they realized I had a daughter, guess what happened? A few polite ones commended me on being so involved with my child, then promptly disappeared. The others weren't so nice, but simply Closing me out with a "Reason: Other".

That's just one example.

What do you think? Bad eHarmony matchmaking algorithms? Pure unadulterated hypocrisy? I *know* for a fact that I'm not a deadbeat loser or super-ugly so it can't be that...
 
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