NJGal829 is offline NJGal829 Post #1  March 31,2010, 7:38pm
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Hi everyone,

I've been engaged in open communication wth a guy Ilike since March 16; we were matched on March 11 ( he initiated conversation) and proceeded to breeze through guided communcation).

Up until now, I've been enjoying our dialog, but I am feeling a little impatient! Everytime I receive a new response from him, I anticipate him asking me if I'd like to speak over the phone...but nothing yet!

Am I trying to move too quickly? Should I just wait for him to be ready, or should I approach him about having a phone conversaton...

I am concerned about making a mistake...I don't want to jeopardize this pleasant banter and promising connection.

Thanks for your advise!
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Tom_2010 is offline Tom_2010 Post #2  April 1,2010, 2:59pm
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Since you feel that you have a good connection going with him, I would just drop your phone number in a message and tell him that it's OK if he calls you. He will.
 
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Yes, just send him your number or ask for his.
 
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I think you'd find some here that would argue you are moving too slowly.

If you're not confident enough to come right out and say something like "here's my number, give me a call" how about trying something like "I'd love to hear your voice." He really should get the message.
 
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I would definitely give him your number. I was in the same situation with the guy I'm dating now. We had talked over open communication for about three weeks and I was sick of waiting so I gave him my number and suggested we talk on the phone. Best of luck!
 
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Hi HNJGal829,

Seems like the concensus is that you should go for it and broach the subject in some way.

I really like MicMan's suggestion to say that you'd love to hear his voice.

Hope you let us know what you decide to do and how it goes.

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I prefer to meet without speaking on the phone - however, I would have suggested doing so at about the second or thind message (assuming distance was not a factor.)

If you'd like to use the phone, sending your number, or asking for his, is a fine way to do it.

I do not see any harm in moving the process faster.
 
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