southpaw09 is offline southpaw09 Post #1  March 31,2010, 7:33pm
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I recently closed a match because I didn't like some of the things that were stated in my match's profile. He sent me a closing statement, so I read it. When I viewed his profile again, I realized that he had changed his profile to match mine almost exactly. I know we all pick up pointers from reading someone's answers, but to copy them verbatim is unbelievable! That is plagiarism! I thought the whole idea of answering the questions on the profile was to let everyone know who you really are and how you feel. To copy someone else's profile answers word for word is ridiculous! What do you think about that?
 
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I wouldn't go so far as to call it plagiarism, but I would say it's good you closed him: obviously he's incapable of original thought. There are all kinds of people out there, and not all of them are fine, upstanding people. You're going to have to weed them out, just as you did with him.

Hopefully you'll have better luck in the future!
 
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Would make me wonder if his previous profile was his own. Maybe it was of another match who closed him and he is just copying them in the hopes of attracting someone. It is weird to say the least. I'd be happy he closed me if I were you.
 
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Dear southpaw09,

The expectaion is that members are truthful in whatever they post on their profile; so members shouldn't be copying their match's profile answers verbatim into their own profile.

Anytime a member has concerns about a match's behavior, we recommend that they close the match and e-mail us at matchconcerns@eharmony.com. Glad to hear that you have taken the first step, but if you haven't taken the second, I encourage you to do so.

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It doesn't make much sense, because once he changes it to match yours, it's going to look less like anyone else's... but then that's assuming people are even looking for a profile similar to theirs.

I find it odd that you bothered to read his profile again after you closed him. What was the point of that?
 
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Mrflyer, just a quick point about someone asking to re-open a match. Would you do it without looking at their profile? Probably not. I don't either. Most of the time I look at the profiles again just to be sure I wasn't hasty in closing them. Maybe I missed something or they added pictures or more information. You don't get the updates on closed matches like you do your open matches.
 
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Mrflyer, just a quick point about someone asking to re-open a match. Would you do it without looking at their profile? Probably not. I don't either.
Why would I reopen a match? If I were interested I wouldn't have closed her in the first place. I don't think I've ever had one ask to be reopened.
 
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Mrflyer, I read his profile again because he requested that I re-open. When I saw that he copied mine, it made me wonder how many really good profiles I had read in the past that were actually not "originals". Everyone should be able to think for themselves and answer questions without "borrowing" material from others. That's just creepy.
 
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Why does it even matter that she looked at his profile?

Just wondering.
 
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What a bizarre experience for you!

I think I might report that to EH. Unless he's your alter ego he has to be lying on his profile now.
 
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