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hankscorpio is offline hankscorpio Post #1  March 31,2010, 5:27pm

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My eH account ran out last week, and I didn't bother to close anyone out at all - the 25 or so people that I had sent communications to I just left in the purgatory they were all in. (most for a month or more)

And in the last week since the account lapsed, two of those people decided now was the time to answer my first sets of questions. (I deleted all of my pictures except for one group one... and didn't say who I am in the group - evil, I know - and deleted all of my profile and put various pieces of famous prose in the spots. I also changed the ticker box parts of the profile to random stuff instead of leaving it what it was.)

The interesting part to me is that apparently I'm more appealing when there's really nothing there about me at all.

Anyone else have this sort of thing happen?
 
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melman is offline melman Post #2  March 31,2010, 5:49pm
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When my subscription ended, I took most of the content and all of the pictures out of my profile, and left a statement as to when I went inactive.

Some matches still sent First Questions, long after that.
 
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Just goes to show you some people don't read profiles. Do the no paying member thing and send an ice breaker. Maybe they'll come here and complain and you'll be able to meet via this site.
 
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hankscorpio is offline hankscorpio Post #4  March 31,2010, 8:10pm

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Just goes to show you some people don't read profiles. Do the no paying member thing and send an ice breaker. Maybe they'll come here and complain and you'll be able to meet via this site.
The funny part is that these aren't new people. These are people that I got as matches back in February. People I sent communication to, and they looked then subsequently ignored it - most likely because they're the sort that just never bothers to close people they're not interested in.

Now that my profile is basically a blank slate they answered the questions. For about five minutes I wondered if I should re-up to eH to see what was said. Then I realized there wasn't a point to that. These people obviously have no interest in me as shown to how they ignored the original questions and nudge at FCM time. Their responses to the communication were probably something like "HEY, WERE THT PEOM FROM???" Though I'll be sure to remember to look at them once the FCM rolls around for a laugh.
 
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AndieIsMe wrote :
Just goes to show you some people don't read profiles. Do the no paying member thing and send an ice breaker. Maybe they'll come here and complain and you'll be able to meet via this site.
See, I don't understand this pessimistic viewpoint at all.

How do you know they didn't read your Profile?

Perhaps they really like your Profile, and even though you mention you are no longer a member, they are hoping you might see their Profile and rejoin.

I know I have done this in the past.

There have been clues on a Profile that they are probably not a paying member anymore, but yet I really liked their Profile.

So I initiate contact figuring that maybe she will come back some day and be interested, or maybe the next FCW she will come back.
 
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ScottK wrote :
See, I don't understand this pessimistic viewpoint at all.

How do you know they didn't read your Profile?

Perhaps they really like your Profile, and even though you mention you are no longer a member, they are hoping you might see their Profile and rejoin.

I know I have done this in the past.

There have been clues on a Profile that they are probably not a paying member anymore, but yet I really liked their Profile.

So I initiate contact figuring that maybe she will come back some day and be interested, or maybe the next FCW she will come back.
I've taken this approach too. I remember I did get one match that said she was not a member respond and it wasn't during a FCW. She eventually poofed, so nothing became of it, but there was an initial response.
 
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ScottK wrote :
See, I don't understand this pessimistic viewpoint at all.

How do you know they didn't read your Profile?

Perhaps they really like your Profile, and even though you mention you are no longer a member, they are hoping you might see their Profile and rejoin.

I know I have done this in the past.

There have been clues on a Profile that they are probably not a paying member anymore, but yet I really liked their Profile.

So I initiate contact figuring that maybe she will come back some day and be interested, or maybe the next FCW she will come back.
This is not a pessimistic view.

I was referring directly to what he said he experienced. If they had read his profile before, why didn't they respond before? He said he put quotes and junk in his profile after his sub ran out, nothing about HIM. Why wait til then? Why wait until it is obvious he cannot respond? Maybe they weren't paying before, and now they are. Plausible, but still, why reply when you know he changed his profile and it's a bunch of miscellaneous bits of nothing?

I say it's people who don't really want to date. They pretend to make the effort (after the fact) then complain to their friends that their matches never respond. Well, if you wait until someone puts in their profile that they are no longer paying, no wonder.

I am one to leave matches open and wait forever for responses. But, I am also one to not try to contact matches with profiles that are obviously made up carp and has nothing to do with them.
 
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Either way it's amusing in a macabre fashion. I'll be sure to update this to let you guys know if there appears to be any sane reason behind the strange behavior once the next FCM comes around.

And like Andie said, Scott, these are people who did look at my profile, twice. The second time was when the last FCM started a couple of weeks ago. As most serious eH users do I send out nudges to people when the FCM comes up to remind them I'm there in case they don't have a paid subscription.
 
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hankscorpio wrote :
The funny part is that these aren't new people. These are people that I got as matches back in February. People I sent communication to, and they looked then subsequently ignored it - most likely because they're the sort that just never bothers to close people they're not interested in.

Now that my profile is basically a blank slate they answered the questions. For about five minutes I wondered if I should re-up to eH to see what was said. Then I realized there wasn't a point to that. These people obviously have no interest in me as shown to how they ignored the original questions and nudge at FCM time. Their responses to the communication were probably something like "HEY, WERE THT PEOM FROM???" Though I'll be sure to remember to look at them once the FCM rolls around for a laugh.
Last Feb had the FCW. Maybe they finally became members?
 
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hankscorpio is offline hankscorpio Post #10  April 1,2010, 5:07pm

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Last Feb had the FCW. Maybe they finally became members?
No, they were matches from Feb of 2010, and there were two FCW after I had originally contacted them (valentine's day and St Patty's day) and I nudged them for the FCW that was two weeks ago on St Patrick's day. Just for kicks. I fully understood what most of them were about. (either inactive or not particularly interested)

Either way, member or not, they had the opportunity to communicate when it was possible for all parties. There's nothing of great significance, and no picture of some super handsome guy or anything like that to confuse them in my leftover profile. Just a distance shot of lots of people. (just to annoy anyone that tries to find anything meaningful in the profile at this point)
 
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