computerfox is offline computerfox Post #1  March 31,2010, 5:13pm
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I know that you can see who viewed your profile the past few days. I've noticed some matches who have viewed me, but I have not received any communication from them and they haven't closed me. These same matches have communicated with me for a few steps, then stop and never close me. Does this happen to other people too?
 
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computerfox wrote :
I know that you can see who viewed your profile the past few days. I've noticed some matches who have viewed me, but I have not received any communication from them and they haven't closed me. These same matches have communicated with me for a few steps, then stop and never close me. Does this happen to other people too?
It happens all the time to many of us. For those who have begun communication and just stopped or disappeared the term you'll see used all over the forums is that they've "poofed."
 
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Yes, this happens to most if not all people on eH. The mid stream stall. You may need to decide if you want to close them or not. They might be off communicating with other matches and have you on the back burner or may just be busy with their lives.

You may also want to consider that some may have just had their subscription run out. Wait until the next FCW and see if the conversation starts up again.
 
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sony12 is offline sony12 Post #4  March 31,2010, 6:33pm
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The girl I was meeting up with around October never closed me and I never closed her.

I discovered that she wasn't nearly as single as she claimed she was and I don't have any intentions of talking to her again because of that. But I never closed her because we had a good time together.

Even if we don't pursue anything serious if I had a good time with someone I tend not to close them. And I believe it is the same with the women because I have never been closed out by anyone who had a good time with me also. Closings are for people who you want to completely forget about.
 
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teena is offline teena Post #5  April 2,2010, 1:08pm
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I may get grief for this.., but I am guilty of this. Part of it is, that I want to give the guy a chance to contact me first. I feel odd always making the first move.
 
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I agree, I think a lot of girls expect the guy to make the "first move". If your in GC though and they stop, it could be a ton of different things.
 
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teena wrote :
I may get grief for this.., but I am guilty of this. Part of it is, that I want to give the guy a chance to contact me first. I feel odd always making the first move.
You're paying for a subscription...get the most out of it and contact the matches you are interested in. There are times where you have to try to create opportunities instead of idly sitting back hoping something will fall into your lap.
 
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sony12 wrote :
Even if we don't pursue anything serious if I had a good time with someone I tend not to close them. And I believe it is the same with the women because I have never been closed out by anyone who had a good time with me also. Closings are for people who you want to completely forget about.
Soooo.... just keeping them on the back burner, so to speak.

Wouldn't bother me, but if I've met someone in person and have other ways to contact them, I tend to close with the "We're communicating outside of eHarmony" reason.
 
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teena wrote :
I may get grief for this.., but I am guilty of this. Part of it is, that I want to give the guy a chance to contact me first. I feel odd always making the first move.
If you mean you stall communications mid GC then you don't know how GC works. They cannot contact you until you finish your turn. If you stop mid OC, then you are just playing a game.
 
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