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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #1  March 31,2010, 12:07pm

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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Is it just me or does it strike you as a little bit creepy when people write on their profile about how affectionate they are and how they're looking forward to sharing cuddles?

Euwwww.

Of course this is part of a good relationship and something we all want but when you're writing to a complete stranger it just doesn't sit well with me.

Anyone else think this?
 
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insertscreenname is offline insertscreenname Post #2  March 31,2010, 12:14pm
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Uh-oh! I'm creepy.

In my profile under "What only best friends know" I have written "I'm a cuddly guy. Shhh, don't tell!"

It's true and not the typical "not telling!" carp. Feedback from all the matches I've dated has been "That was sooo cute!"
 
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I don't see it as creepy. Thought has never even crossed my mind. Of course a lot of that is a matter of overall context and how it's written.
 
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insertscreenname wrote :
Uh-oh! I'm creepy.

In my profile under "What only best friends know" I have written "I'm a cuddly guy. Shhh, don't tell!"

It's true and not the typical "not telling!" carp. Feedback from all the matches I've dated has been "That was sooo cute!"
fwiw that is cute and doesn't bother me. What I understand from Trixie's post is slightly different though. They are directly addressing the anonymous matches and saying they can't wait to cuddle with them.

I'm with Trixie on this one. It's a little bit .... disorienting. If I haven't met someone yet, I don't know if I want them to touch even one hair on my head, so suggesting something physically intimate or overly familiar with me personally before I know whether I'm in that zone or can even be in that zone would definitely give me the willies.
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*PY rewriting his profile*
 
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Depends. If it was said something like, likes cuddling in front of a fire on a cold rainy day. Vs I love to grope.
 
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PY_2 wrote :
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lol PY ... do you invite yourself to cuddle every single match before you've even met and know whether they look like their picture or a hairy gorilla?
 
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #8  March 31,2010, 1:30pm

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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insertscreenname wrote :
Uh-oh! I'm creepy.
Oh, no, you're not. You actually are cute and that's probably what your dates mean, rather than critiquing your profile!

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Depends. If it was said something like, likes cuddling in front of a fire on a cold rainy day. Vs I love to grope.
There'd be something refreshingly honest about posting "I love to grope"

I am an affectionate (and gropey) partner but like Nightling, I don't want to think of touching or being touched by a stranger until I know that's how I want it to go.
 
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livenlearn is offline livenlearn Post #9  March 31,2010, 1:42pm
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trixie1868 wrote :
Oh, no, you're not. You actually are cute and that's probably what your dates mean, rather than critiquing your profile!



There'd be something refreshingly honest about posting "I love to grope"

I am an affectionate (and gropey) partner but like Nightling, I don't want to think of touching or being touched by a stranger until I know that's how I want it to go.
Well yes. Like the mental pic nightling brings of a big hairy gorilla next to that statement in a profile.
So far I havent had to face those in my matches. Whew!
 
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trixie1868 wrote :
Oh, no, you're not. You actually are cute and that's probably what your dates mean, rather than critiquing your profile!
Aw thanks Trixie! You know just what to say.

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There'd be something refreshingly honest about posting "I love to grope"
I think I agree with this!
 
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