Putting a disability in a profile?


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MusicnMath is offline MusicnMath Post #1  March 30,2010, 8:43pm
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I believe this may have been discussed before, but as I am new and naive here I am posting it again.

I am visually impaired and have a guide dog, the question here is if I should or should not include this in my profile? With this I obviously cannot drive which may be an issue... However I still can't decide. On the one hand putting it in may scare people off or what-ever. I know that it is easier for people to look past a disability after getting to know me better, which has worked in the past but I've never done something quite like this before.

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Personally for me - I did not say that I have Fibromalygia on my profile, which I do have. So I am hiding behind that issues.

I recieved a profile from a guy who stated he was dyslexia (learning disability) - which I am fine with.

I would rather the guy be upfront about any issues - I have dated a legallly blind person before. For the right person, it will not matter that you have vision problems or any other health issues.

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This has been discussed frequently. I'd rather see it upfront because I'm open about being Deaf. Now in my case a hearing loss impacts communication, which is why I have it in my profile. I'm assuming communication isn't an issue with you but your having low vision is going to come out eventually.

It's been suggested to put a positive spin on it, as I've tried to do with mine. Think about how you can word it to make yourself look positive and outgoing.
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It's important to tell about a disability in a profile because it shows ownership of one's abilities and carries a strong voice of self identity.

In fact, some of the most attractive profiles I have seen in total on eHarmony were profiles that mentioned a disability. They also commented on ability in the same context. "I am blind and have a guide dog, so I don't drive. I use assistive software to do what I want on the internet, run my business, keep in touch with friends and family and to chat with you now. Keeping me at home is the hardest task my guide dog has right now, because I'm currently ... [hobbies, pursuits, et cetera ] . I'm also, obviously, a great listener."

This immediately challenges the reader (your intended match) to consider many things about you instead of "seeing" only one thing.

What's funny is, I wonder if we can get the rest of the world to be this upfront about their own challenges. For instance, 80% of my matches on eHarmony are overweight, just as I am. Will we see a lot of profiles that mention hobbies, thrills, passions ... and at the end report, "My doctor says I need to lose 50 lbs." Hmm....
 
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