corvalueokie is offline corvalueokie Post #11  January 2,2008, 9:38pm
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At first, I had several matches with the distance being too far. To correct this go to your personal settings. You'll need to change your preferences to show distance as very important. This will dramatically narrow it down to local people. In about 2 months, I've had almost 100 matches, of the 100 matches only 1 got to the point of sending the must haves. However she never sent them, so I decided to close it. I figured if she was really interested, she would have sent them. Not finding anyone even to the degree of communicating via the phone or by e-mail, does get very frustrating. So much so, that prior to e-harmony, I stopped trying the dating thing all together. A number of years went by, and then all of a sudden someone I know found his wife on e-harmony. So I’m giving it a try myself. I paid for a year, I figured why not it's been about a decade since I've dated a women (yeah it's been that long) I have nothing to loose with trying e-harmony. I’ve found that most of the matches are what I’m looking. I think it takes time and I know for sure I’m going to give it a full year. This way I can’t say I wonder “what if” I had given it a try. I don’t like “what if’s”
 
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Not everyone that makes a profile actually purchases a subscription so they are unable to communicate. I myself don't always have a current subscription. I've let it lapse for several months at a time
and during that time I still get matches but can't communicate. Lately some people have been taking advantage of the free communication weekends that eHarmony has from time to time and some of the people that take advantage of that don't purchase a subscription either. There have also been times when I've lost interest or have a hard time answering the questions gals have sent me. I do try to be polite and close matches instead of just leaving someone hanging.
 
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It's been helpful to compare numbers - I have been on eH since Sept 07 and have gotten 235 matches - at first I had my settings very wide; willing to meet anyone anywhere, as I love to travel - but got closed (by those who even did anything) due to distance, so to lessen the rejection I narrowed my parameters substantially - now I get closed due to "distance" by some guys who only live 45 miles away!! LOL. I drive almost that far to work everyday. I've only gotten to open communication with 1 person, gotten to step 3 with two others who have both dropped the ball there. I let the membership lapse after 3 months, only communicating on free weekends, until a very interesting guy wanted communication after the weekend ended - and like a sucker, I signed up again and forked over my money to eH. Now he has just quit responding . . . I find that I never hear anything from 90% of my matches, whether I initiate contact or not, and another good percentage close me immediately on what seems like a pretext (no picure posted - well, just ask, duh - but I use that as a screen out tool myself, if they close me out because they cannot immediately see me they are probably not the kind of person I would be interested in anyway). oh, well - I now have 3 more months to make something of this. Wish me luck . . .
 
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damantid is offline damantid Post #14  January 24,2008, 5:29pm
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Coca-Cola,49223 wrote :
"I've had 201 matches to date and I've only had communication with 3??" --> You need better photos. This advice may sound strange now, but go post photos worthy of fashion catalogs, then report back here if there's still no improvement.
THANKS FOR THE ADVISE. I DO APPRECIATE IT BUT I DON'T THINK I'LL BE POSTING PHOTOS WORTHY OF FASHION CATALOGS. I'M NO MODEL AND WON'T BE TRYING TO COME ACROSS AS ONE. THOSE PICTURES ARE ME. WHAT YOU SEE IS WHAT YOU GET. SO WHEN YOU MEET ME YOU WON'T BE SHOCKED TO FIND OUT THAT I'M NOT THAT FASHION MODEL.
 
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