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Testingthewaters80 is offline Testingthewaters80 Post #1  March 21,2010, 6:39pm
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Hello board! I am new to the boards and very new to EH. Last week I was matched with an individual and we began the steps of guided communication. Seemed to be going fine, the last e-mail I sent to him was late Thursday night ... I have heard nothing since. I am giving it some time since its the weekend so maybe he was busy etc. (Though I wonder if anyone is THAT busy as to not shoot a line to someone they are genuinely interested in). So, how long do I wait before closing the match?

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You should be communicating with all your other matches. There is no reason to close a match, you can leave it open forever if you want.
 
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True, though I'm not a great initiater! I just was actually interested in this particular match so its taunting me seeing it sitting there. If he's "done" and no longer responding, I'd rather close it and file it away...
 
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couple weeks and I would close it.
 
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You can drive yourself crazy speculating about this.

I just respond to people once I see it's my turn to, and I don't worry about how long it took them.
 
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Whenever i see how long is too long questions the answer that always jumps to my mind is however long it takes you to get bored of waiting. For some it's a couple of days, for others it's weeks, the big thing though is to not sit around waiting for it on the edge of your seat.
 
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I had one small triumph today. A match I sent questions to 10 days ago answered and submitted her first questions. I think it a very good thing, therefore, that I wait 14. I had become fairly convinced that she was an N.P.M. like 5 others (probably) of the 8 currently in my Communicating list.

Yay me !!
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Hi. You don't need to leave a match open, but you also don't need to waste time on someone who isn't getting back to you in a timely manner. The benefit of closing a match is, you eliminate the guy and you don't get him mixed up with other guys who may be more interested/interesting.
 
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I'm sure there are examples all over the map on this but I've never had any success when it took longer than 3-4 days to get through everything and at least set-up a date. I and I'm sure others here have actually got through everything and met an eH match within a couple of days.

My experience has been the woman is not that interested or may be communicating with several matches if it takes longer than that. That may be why most of my relationships from eH...not all but most, have only lasted a month or so. It would be hot and heavy, great for the ego or that chemical release but there would be something about their personality, looks, life in general that I couldn't deal with any longer.

So what the heck, maybe a week or so would be acceptable.
 
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He responded, but now skyking has me thinking we are doomed

Thanks for the responses everyone!
 
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