listererik is offline listererik Post #1  March 20,2010, 9:15pm
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I know I have been on here before to rant, but I figure I'd get in a short one before sleep.

So, it's FCW again. Waiting on this one girl that I went out with to call me back, as we went out 2 weeks ago and I have already called her and texted her, both to no avail. She texted me right after the date and said she loved our date, and that we needed to hang out again, soon. I haven't heard from her since, and I doubt I will. Yay me!

Second lovely story is related to FCW. I keep meeting girls that love my personality and hate my looks. Seriously, I have been told the nastiest things by people. One girl, a month ago during the Feb. FCW told me that she was hot and I am not and people like her don't go out with people like me. Another told me that my pics were "not was what she was expecting", and broke off communication. Two made it to OC and then just closed me off once they saw my pics. A new one, this weekend, just got my pics and I doubt I'll hear from her...seriously. And this is after they seem so nice, so sincere while on email, and totally dig my personality, complimenting me constantly on how funny, how nice, blah blah blah I am.

People call men shallow, but seriously, I have seen some really blatant shallowness coming from women lately. So not my style, as I'm a nice guy and very kind hearted....blah.

Anyhow, just had to get that out there since I'm feeling down in the dumps. Thanks for reading and listening.

-erik
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love my personality totally dig my personality, complimenting me constantly on how funny, how nice, blah blah blah I am.-erik
Dont let any of the above change.
 
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Sorry Erik!

Yes, don't let it change you. There are a lot of shallow people, both genders, but also a lot who are not. I hope you find yours soon.
 
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loor is offline loor Post #4  March 21,2010, 4:09pm
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I know what you mean. I think that a lot of men are put off by my appearance. Don't get me wrong, I am no dog. I am cute, but I am no size two Barbie doll with long flowing platinum hair and a micro-mini skirt.

I don't think that I would want to date someone that was looking for that anyhow. So I just figure that the right man will come along for me eventually. I want to be with someone that loves me for ME, not just the package I come in.

Hang in there
 
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Erik.....I'm sorry. That's not very nice at all. I don't know why someone would need to post such a statement. That's ignorant!!!

There is a lady out there for you. And......one that will also find you attractive. But, like all of us, it may take some time.

One suggestion?.............Have someone take some photo's that have you looking up. Peg could give you some advice.

Good luck. I wish you well!!!!
 
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On the bright side ... you've dodged some serious bullets. Those were not kind people at all.
 
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Thank you all for the kind compliments, I really do appreciate it. Sometimes I get so incredibly frustrated with things that I just need to type it out somewhere, and I figure we are all in similar boats in our attempts at finding true love here.

I agree that I have dodged some major bullets. The thing is: will these people be happy with anybody or are they that miserable with themselves that their relationships won't turn out well with anyone, regardless of how good they look?

Also, loor, I am sure that you are great looking. Not all men want barbie dolls, especially me. There are so many types of beautiful people out there: it's a shame that more people don't notice that.

Good idea on the pics, will try to find someone to take some new ones

Anyhow, thanks for all the kind words, I really, really do appreciate them a ton! Good luck with all of your searches as well, and if you need some reciprocal advice, don't be afraid to message me!

-erik

PS-I don't plan on changing my disposition anytime soon, especially when I have such kind people reinforcing that being a good guy is really what I am best at :-)
 
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listererik wrote :
I don't plan on changing my disposition anytime soon, especially when I have such kind people reinforcing that being a good guy is really what I am best at :-)
Glad to hear it!!

Take care
 
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listererik wrote :
The thing is: will these people be happy with anybody or are they that miserable with themselves that their relationships won't turn out well with anyone, regardless of how good they look?
I tend to think that you get what you give in life. If you're going to spend your life treating others poorly, don't be surprised when you run into the same thing in your own life.

I also believe that there comes a point where it takes more than just being attractive to get by in a relationship. Sure, that's probably going to get you in the door and I certainly want to be in a relationship with a woman that is attractive to me, but for me, it also takes more than just looks to have a meaningful relationship.
 
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listererik wrote :
I know I have been on here before to rant, but I figure I'd get in a short one before sleep.

So, it's FCW again. Waiting on this one girl that I went out with to call me back, as we went out 2 weeks ago and I have already called her and texted her, both to no avail. She texted me right after the date and said she loved our date, and that we needed to hang out again, soon. I haven't heard from her since, and I doubt I will. Yay me!

Second lovely story is related to FCW. I keep meeting girls that love my personality and hate my looks. Seriously, I have been told the nastiest things by people. One girl, a month ago during the Feb. FCW told me that she was hot and I am not and people like her don't go out with people like me. Another told me that my pics were "not was what she was expecting", and broke off communication. Two made it to OC and then just closed me off once they saw my pics. A new one, this weekend, just got my pics and I doubt I'll hear from her...seriously. And this is after they seem so nice, so sincere while on email, and totally dig my personality, complimenting me constantly on how funny, how nice, blah blah blah I am.

People call men shallow, but seriously, I have seen some really blatant shallowness coming from women lately. So not my style, as I'm a nice guy and very kind hearted....blah.

Anyhow, just had to get that out there since I'm feeling down in the dumps. Thanks for reading and listening.

-erik
It happens to a lot of us. Women have read my info and liked what they read and then took off after they saw my pics. It has happened to me many, many times. This is why I have my photos ready to be viewed from the very start so women can run away immediately. The key is finding mutual attraction along with the same interests and a common lifestyle. It certainly takes a long, long time!
 
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