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Mugroar is offline Mugroar Post #1  March 20,2010, 9:49am
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I got to the open-ended questions with this one lady. I answered her questions (the third one was "Would you like to chat on XXX with me? [insert screen name]) and sent her my questions. I came back later in the day to see that she closed me down, the reason being "other."

Now, do I go ahead and attempt to message her anyway? I find it somewhat intriguing that she would give me her screen name outright, and not bother to answer my questions - maybe because she wants to just chat online? Maybe that's the reason she closed me down, because we'll be communicating outside of eH. I'm so confused, I don't know what to do!
 
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I got to the open-ended questions with this one lady. I answered her questions (the third one was "Would you like to chat on XXX with me? [insert screen name]) and sent her my questions. I came back later in the day to see that she closed me down, the reason being "other."

Now, do I go ahead and attempt to message her anyway? I find it somewhat intriguing that she would give me her screen name outright, and not bother to answer my questions - maybe because she wants to just chat online? Maybe that's the reason she closed me down, because we'll be communicating outside of eH. I'm so confused, I don't know what to do!
Make a throw-away account and chat some.

Remember it's a free communication weekend, which brings the scamming and spamming types out of the woodwork. There is a chance she's one of them and will start trying to get something from you once you start chatting. At that point you don't need to worry since you can just jettison that account and be rid of "her".
 
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TrekRyder10 is offline TrekRyder10 Post #3  March 20,2010, 9:54am
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She is probably a non-paying member who is using the FCW to communicate with you. FCW is happening right now and ends tonight.

Why confused? she wants you to contact her. You can't hide behind the EH walls forever.
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Mugroar wrote :
I got to the open-ended questions with this one lady. I answered her questions (the third one was "Would you like to chat on XXX with me? [insert screen name]) and sent her my questions. I came back later in the day to see that she closed me down, the reason being "other."

Now, do I go ahead and attempt to message her anyway? I find it somewhat intriguing that she would give me her screen name outright, and not bother to answer my questions - maybe because she wants to just chat online? Maybe that's the reason she closed me down, because we'll be communicating outside of eH. I'm so confused, I don't know what to do!
She gave you her screen name because she WANTS to talk with you. She closed you because she knows you have a common place where you can chat and you don't have to go through eH's version of 50 questions anymore. She probably now thinks you're blowing her off because you haven't bothered to show up to chat with her, so quit over thinking this, log in, and chat with her already!
 
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Mugroar is offline Mugroar Post #5  March 20,2010, 12:00pm
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Hahaha, thanks so much for the replies. I made a Google acct and invited her (I already told her what my screen name would be).

So let's see where this one goes!
 
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brneyedangel is offline brneyedangel Post #6  March 20,2010, 12:03pm
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Hahaha, thanks so much for the replies. I made a Google acct and invited her (I already told her what my screen name would be).

So let's see where this one goes!
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She gave you her screen name because she WANTS to talk with you. She closed you because she knows you have a common place where you can chat and you don't have to go through eH's version of 50 questions anymore.
Maybe, but sending mixed signals like that is a bad idea. Usually when a match closes you, it's because they don't want to hear from you. I would not advise anyone to close a match they're still interested in.
 
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brneyedangel wrote :
She gave you her screen name because she WANTS to talk with you. She closed you because she knows you have a common place where you can chat and you don't have to go through eH's version of 50 questions anymore. She probably now thinks you're blowing her off because you haven't bothered to show up to chat with her, so quit over thinking this, log in, and chat with her already!
Ahem. This sounds to me like the dating sites that are just feeders to webcam strip shows (I find that a bit disgusting). I'm 51 and suddenly I've got a dozen hot 24yr olds popping up all over my screen. Ya, right. Like matches made at the mustang ranch. (Bordello in Nevada).

ah, ya sure. Go for it. I'd consider it cheap thrills.
Be careful. Thar be dragons in that thar internet.
 
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