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2. But more importantly, this really sounds more like a description of who you'd like for a friend. Where's the romance? What do you imagine when you imagine being in love? long-term relationship?

I think my profile is somewhat "niche" but the number of "Other" closes has led me to wonder if it might be abrasive, intimidating, or even bland. I'm considered attractive by most people's standards, so I don't think that's it. Your thoughts are greatly appreciated!

What are you most passionate about?

Nature is important to me. I wouldn't call myself a "hippie", but I strongly believe we are stewards of the earth and try to do my part to keep our planet clean, including adopting a 99% vegetarian diet. I'm working on my undergrad in psychology, and will continue on to get a master's or doctorate degree and hope to one day open my own practice. I'm also passionate about backpacking and catch & release fishing during the summer!
Your profile is very unique. I would maybe want to communicate with you but would wonder if I measured up to your expectations. I am an altruistic person and eat meat occasionally. I would not describe myself as a "steward of the earth" which is what you seem to be looking for.

What are the THREE things for which you are MOST thankful?

1. Family. Especially my mom's awesome siblings. They're hilarious!
2. Interesting and dependable friendships.
3. Living in a beautiful city that supports ecocentrism.


Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and why?

Sorry, I can't choose just one! My best friend since high school keeps me fresh, we are always challenging each other to better ourselves, and my two amazing mentors: they're highly respected, wonderful psychologists. I'm so lucky to know people like them.

The four things your friends say about you are:

Caring, Perceptive, Good Listener, Dependable

What are your three BEST life skills?

1. Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things
2. Remaining calm and resilient during a crisis
3. Communicating my innermost thoughts and feelings

What is the most important quality that you are looking for in another person?

I'm looking for a kind, empathetic (I'm pretty sure it's EMPATHIC not empathetic. I just googled it and found both though. Not a big deal) You could probably just write kind or empathetic here since they mean more or less the same thing. Stating it twice is overstating it. It sounds like a tall order. and insightful woman who I can share my interests with. Someone whose passions and goals in life include embettering (impoving?) the world and the lives of others. Of course, this means different things to different people; maybe it's in the way you live or want to raise a family, maybe it's your career choice or what you do in your spare time.. I'm looking for someone who isn't letting life just pass her by!
Many of my matches state more than one quality but the question is really asking you to state the most important one. Giving a list here could be intimidating. After you initiate communication with someone they will see your Must have/can't stand list which will give them more insight into what you are looking for. You may not need to state it upfront.

Other than your appearance, what is the first thing that people usually notice about you?

I'm not sure what the very first thing would be, but the first compliment You do sound like a great person so I'm sure you do receive a lot of compliments. Maybe not necessary to state it. Again you may sound too good to be true or like you are looking for something almost unattainable in another person. I usually receive is that I am a great listener and easy to open up to.
How about "people say that I am a great listener and easy to open up to".

What is the ONE thing that people DON'T notice about you right away that you WISH they WOULD?

I believe meeting new people is a wonderful part of life, and always ( really? Always?? You sound perfect. ) maybe say I "try" to put my best foot forward put my best foot forward. I think the best way to get to know somebody is to let them get to know you. Because of this, getting close to important people in my life is inevitable, I find it hard to wish for a different first impression than the one I made.

How do you typically spend your leisure time?

I like to be with my friends, especially if it involves drinking wine, laughter, and playing board/card/video games. I love cooking, especially with and for others. Bowling is my sport of choice.. can't wait for spring league! I like to volunteer on the weekend, and I also have time for a little reading, usually nonfiction.
This is good. Sounds like fun!

What are five things that you "can't live without?"

1. Being close to nature
2. Good times with friends
3. Intimate conversation
4. Good, home-made food
5. Love!

Describe the last book that you read and enjoyed. What was it about? What did you like most about it?

A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius by Dave Eggers. It was amazing how well he caricatured his life and way of thinking. It was funny at times, but what I really enjoyed was how raw and emotional it was. Getting inside his head was incredible!

Is there any additional information you would like your matches to know about you?

While I don't practice the faith or religion of my Christian upbringing, I still believe in their principles of goodwill and altruism.Good. Though having kids isn't ideal for me at this moment in my life, raising a family is important - be they adopted or children of my own - Not very clear. How about "I would like to have a family at some point. I am looking forward to being a father some day." and my life experiences have given me valuable insights and resources to be a good father.

I think my profile is somewhat "niche" but the number of "Other" closes has led me to wonder if it might be abrasive, intimidating, or even bland. I'm considered attractive by most people's standards, so I don't think that's it. Your thoughts are greatly appreciated!

What are you most passionate about?

Nature is important to me. I wouldn't call myself a "hippie", but I strongly believe we are stewards of the earth and try to do my part to keep our planet clean, including adopting a 99% vegetarian diet. I'm working on my undergrad in psychology, and will continue on to get a master's or doctorate degree and hope to one day open my own practice. I'm also passionate about backpacking and catch & release fishing during the summer!
Most of us do want to live in a good earth and I would put myself in a camp that cares a little more about the environment than many. That said, the way it is presented here, I get the idea you could be what I think of as a "rabid" environmentalist ... ie the ones who almost think mankind should not be allowed to tread the earth. If that's not you, you may want to tone this down a bit. Vegan is another of those items that becomes a dealbreaker for many ... I have been judged for the immorality of eating a steak at dinner by a couple of these folk and it's just not something I'd choose to endure from a romantic partner.

I'm not saying this is who you are or that this is what you think btw. I'm saying these are some concerns and questions yer profile could raise for some as they areI reading it.

If however these things do characterize your views accurately, then your profile is just fine. The closes are people you wouldn't have been compatible with anyway.



What are the THREE things for which you are MOST thankful?

1. Family. Especially my mom's awesome siblings. They're hilarious!
2. Interesting and dependable friendships.
3. Living in a beautiful city that supports ecocentrism.
This list is fine if environmentalism is paramount and central to your life.


Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and why?

Sorry, I can't choose just one! My best friend since high school keeps me fresh, we are always challenging each other to better ourselves, and my two amazing mentors: they're highly respected, wonderful psychologists. I'm so lucky to know people like them.
fine fine


The four things your friends say about you are:

Caring, Perceptive, Good Listener, Dependable

What are your three BEST life skills?

1. Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things
2. Remaining calm and resilient during a crisis
3. Communicating my innermost thoughts and feelings

What is the most important quality that you are looking for in another person?

I'm looking for a kind, empathetic and insightful woman who I can share my interests with. Someone whose passions and goals in life include embettering the world and the lives of others. Of course, this means different things to different people; maybe it's in the way you live or want to raise a family, maybe it's your career choice or what you do in your spare time.. I'm looking for someone who isn't letting life just pass her by!

You have very high expectations of the woman eh?

Other than your appearance, what is the first thing that people usually notice about you?

I'm not sure what the very first thing would be, but the first compliment I usually receive is that I am a great listener and easy to open up to.
OK


What is the ONE thing that people DON'T notice about you right away that you WISH they WOULD?

I believe meeting new people is a wonderful part of life, and always put my best foot forward. I think the best way to get to know somebody is to let them get to know you. Because of this, getting close to important people in my life is inevitable, I find it hard to wish for a different first impression than the one I made.

This question is poorly worded. It's not asking you what other impression do you wish you'd make. It's asking you to tell the match one more distinctive attractive quality about you that isn't readily apparent. In my answer, I say that I'm hiding a science geek beneath the curly head of hair. So pick something fun about yourself and go with that.

How do you typically spend your leisure time?

I like to be with my friends, especially if it involves drinking wine, laughter, and playing board/card/video games. I love cooking, especially with and for others. Bowling is my sport of choice.. can't wait for spring league! I like to volunteer on the weekend, and I also have time for a little reading, usually nonfiction.
fine fine


What are five things that you "can't live without?"

1. Being close to nature
2. Good times with friends
3. Intimate conversation
4. Good, home-made food
5. Love!

I always think it's cheesy when people put love in this list. I usually hit close when they put sex on the list. I think I would try to make this list a little more fun and a little more distinctive.

Describe the last book that you read and enjoyed. What was it about? What did you like most about it?

A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius by Dave Eggers. It was amazing how well he caricatured his life and way of thinking. It was funny at times, but what I really enjoyed was how raw and emotional it was. Getting inside his head was incredible!
This seems fine.
Is there any additional information you would like your matches to know about you?

While I don't practice the faith or religion of my Christian upbringing, I still believe in their principles of goodwill and altruism. Though having kids isn't ideal for me at this moment in my life, raising a family is important - be they adopted or children of my own - and my life experiences have given me valuable insights and resources to be a good father.

I find myself wondering why you wrote the first sentence. Is that an apology for not being a devout Christian? I don't really think it works if it's meant to reassure people that you're really OK in spite of not practicing yer faith. It comes off more that you feel guilty you don't and then the question is why don't you if that makes you feel guilty ... Well I would just lose that first sentence altogether.

I am not sure about the second paragraph either. You want kids but it's not ideal right now. Why not? The whole thing just sounds complicated. Too complicated for a profile. This is something better explored in open communication I think.

I view this paragraph as sort of the last chance to encourage communication, as well as the last chance to say something memorable. Tell the person something that makes them want to click that button with you or that at least gets their attention.