sirchelsea is offline sirchelsea Post #1  March 16,2010, 6:01pm
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Hello. I am curious about something. I have psoriasis on my face. It has been a really big issue for me finding a lady that can look beyond it and get to know the person I am on the ind side first. I just joined e-harmony for the first time. Anybody have any advice on when should I mention my condition? Should I mention it in my profile? Cheers
 
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Hi Sirchelsea,

Welcome to eHarmony and eHarmony Advice!

I’m really glad you asked your question, and I think you’ll get a lot of good responses. Personally, since this is a physical trait, you may want to mention it in a positive light on your About Me page. For example, how has it helped you grow as a person? Do you understand others better in some way because of it? Have the challenges you’ve met because of it strengthened you or taught you something?

If it is something that is apparent through appearance, you may want to post a variety of nice, clear photos of yourself – both headshots and full body shots – it’s especially affective if your photos depict you involved in activities and settings you enjoy. That way, you’re not just projecting your image, but a sense of your personality, your interests, and what you might be like to be with.

Here is a recent article written by eHarmony Jack on photo-posting for guys: Online Profile Photo Tips for Guys

I hope you find this and other feedback helpful.

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eH_Advice_Host_Kate wrote :
If it is something that is apparent through appearance, you may want to post a variety of nice, clear photos of yourself – both headshots and full body shots – it’s especially affective if your photos depict you involved in activities and settings you enjoy. That way, you’re not just projecting your image, but a sense of your personality, your interests, and what you might be like to be with.

This is especially good advice.

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I do not favor disclosing a medical diagnoses, per se, as your matches will usually not understand it (I would need to google this to know anything about it.)

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Thinking of the people I know in the real world (meaning, the part that produces paychecks), I know a bunch of people with all manner of injuries, and they are as likely to be married as others.

So, I think there is more to your situation than this issue; and, that being the case, is part of the solution.
 
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Hi there,

I agree with the previous poster, and I wouldn't necessarily disclose this in your profile. I would lean towards posting accurate pictures.

I responded to this thread because my ex had pretty severe psoriasis. He was very self conscious about it to the point that he wouldn't wear short sleeve shorts or shorts in public. (Like you, he also had it on his face and around his scalp). I always told him not to be so self conscious about it. I know that's easy for me to say, but it honestly didn't make a difference to me. I cared about him as a person.

Anyway, I'm sure you have gone through plenty of treatment, but just in case you haven't tried it already, I thought I would mention that phototherapy did wonders for his case.

Best of luck.
 
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