twiggy149 is offline twiggy149 Post #1  March 15,2010, 2:07pm
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Hi there...I have been on here before, and I never paid for a subscription. I used the free times. This time i have decided to subscribe and I am finding that people are just not reading the profile. I state an age and height requirement and yet I am still getting matches for outside of my "must halfs" How do you make sure people actually read the profile and not just look at the "pretty face"?? I am getting tired of this and find it is wasting my time.
 
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Hi there...I have been on here before, and I never paid for a subscription. I used the free times. This time i have decided to subscribe and I am finding that people are just not reading the profile. I state an age and height requirement and yet I am still getting matches for outside of my "must halfs" How do you make sure people actually read the profile and not just look at the "pretty face"?? I am getting tired of this and find it is wasting my time.
People don't get to pick who they are matched with so I don't think your pretty face has anything to do with it. You also may want to post this in the using eHa section.
 
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Hi there...I have been on here before, and I never paid for a subscription. I used the free times. This time i have decided to subscribe and I am finding that people are just not reading the profile. I state an age and height requirement and yet I am still getting matches for outside of my "must halfs" How do you make sure people actually read the profile and not just look at the "pretty face"?? I am getting tired of this and find it is wasting my time.
Maybe they figured if you said at least 6'1"...they halfed it and they think they are well within your height requirement.
 
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Maybe they figured if you said at least 6'1"...they halfed it and they think they are well within your height requirement.
Good one.
 
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That was cute, halfed it......I understand the matches are done my computers, but if they want children and I do not...why would they match me with that?? They see I do not want children and yet they still go forward rather then just close the match?? Just wondering would you consider that someone that is just looking to be hooked up and will accept anything or anyone?
 
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That was cute, halfed it......I understand the matches are done my computers, but if they want children and I do not...why would they match me with that?? They see I do not want children and yet they still go forward rather then just close the match?? Just wondering would you consider that someone that is just looking to be hooked up and will accept anything or anyone?

If it's something like having children...then I don't know...ya can't blame them for trying...better too many people responding rather than being frustrated because nobody contacted you.

Specific to age/height...I've actually contacted my matches (on match..not on EH) saying that even though I'm slightly outside their age/height range (just by a year or two or by a couple inches) I still try in case they're interested.
 
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I don't even bother reading most times. So many matches flake on you or are inactive that it's a waste of time to read every one.

My criteria for initiating communication is:

1) Attractive photo
2) More than a one line response to questions

Other than that they could have written they were a psycho serial killer and I would still initiate contact.
 
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That was cute, halfed it......I understand the matches are done my computers, but if they want children and I do not...why would they match me with that?? They see I do not want children and yet they still go forward rather then just close the match?? Just wondering would you consider that someone that is just looking to be hooked up and will accept anything or anyone?
Well, as in life, some people don't read, or care to read.

But in general, most people will read your Profile, and if they see that they have a reasonable amount of things in common, they will initiate.

You always have the option to Close them.

Granted, you seem to have a bunch of demands in your Profile, so I am surprised you get many guys initiating contact...

If I get a Profile that has a slew of demands in it, even if I fit into the demands, I generally Close her, because that kind of Profile indicates a "Me, me and only me" kind of personality...
Not exactly the most endearing quality that I want in a potential partner.
 
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Your set age and height requirements are not listed on your profile.
The way I read her post, is that she actually calls out the Age and Height requirements again in her Profile, presumably in her "More info..." section.
 
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