livenlearn is offline livenlearn Post #11  March 15,2010, 2:51pm
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twiggy149 wrote :
Hi there...I have been on here before, and I never paid for a subscription. I used the free times. This time i have decided to subscribe and I am finding that people are just not reading the profile. I state an age and height requirement and yet I am still getting matches for outside of my "must halfs" How do you make sure people actually read the profile and not just look at the "pretty face"?? I am getting tired of this and find it is wasting my time.
No, I dont think they all read either.
Its not a waste of your time. It just means more work on weeding out the ones who are not being truthfull.
 
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ScottK wrote :
The way I read her post, is that she actually calls out the Age and Height requirements again in her Profile, presumably in her "More info..." section.
yup just read it again myself..
 
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livenlearn is offline livenlearn Post #13  March 15,2010, 3:05pm
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coffeeaddiction wrote :
I don't even bother reading most times. So many matches flake on you or are inactive that it's a waste of time to read every one.

My criteria for initiating communication is:

1) Attractive photo
2) More than a one line response to questions

Other than that they could have written they were a psycho serial killer and I would still initiate contact.
LOL, thats what I thought.
At least your honest.
 
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livenlearn wrote :
LOL, thats what I thought.
At least your honest.
It's a shame, and I don't WANT to do that, but I have no choice. I have been burnt so many times by matches going poof on me with no explanation, I _have_ to, am _forced_ to cast a wide a net as possible.

And I seriously don't have time to gaze into everyone's bloody photo and find the meaning of life in their eyes.

It's more like yeah, you look alright, okay, you can write English without too many mistakes, let's initiate a conversation, and I'll assume you will close it or ignore me 99% of the time.
 
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livenlearn is offline livenlearn Post #15  March 15,2010, 3:35pm
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coffeeaddiction wrote :
It's a shame, and I don't WANT to do that, but I have no choice. I have been burnt so many times by matches going poof on me with no explanation, I _have_ to, am _forced_ to cast a wide a net as possible.

And I seriously don't have time to gaze into everyone's bloody photo and find the meaning of life in their eyes.

It's more like yeah, you look alright, okay, you can write English without too many mistakes, let's initiate a conversation, and I'll assume you will close it or ignore me 99% of the time.
The way I see it we are all playing the odds. I am not a gambler but it sure seems like we are all gambling here. Playing the odds of hitting it off with someone.
It seems like one will feel chemistry the other not. So I guess the more you play the odds at some point it will be ( ding ding ding, we have a winner) with all (reasonable) requirements being met and both feeling the chemistry.
 
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I think coffee addict is right. This is the only way to get something out of your money spent for this service. I went further and changed all settings and requirements to Zero. Unfortunately this did not help me much either. Matches will stare at me(look at the profile), may be 2-3 out of 10 will close, the rest usually do not act at all. And this has been ongoing for the last 4 days. What can I say except: I can get no satisfaction!
Therefore you must help yourself and may be expect some help from God. I've posted in my profile short note- saying :- "My subscription expired last week. I would respond on the next free weekend. Hold your questions till then" . Indeed matches who remained in communication, (Matching is turned off) still sending their questions. It shows clearly they did not bother reading too much the profile, as they should be. And I as coffeeaddict have paid money for this service too. With the result achieved none of us is happy. It comes to the point where you have left 2 choices only for your efforts and time spent in the matching process -Use it -Try to get what's left or loose it- be empty handed ! I'll rephrase it- Better have a sparrow in the hand, than a falcon in skies.
 
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coffeeaddiction wrote :
I don't even bother reading most times. So many matches flake on you or are inactive that it's a waste of time to read every one.

My criteria for initiating communication is:

1) Attractive photo
2) More than a one line response to questions

Other than that they could have written they were a psycho serial killer and I would still initiate contact.
So you were one of those people who contacted twiggy?
 
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coffeeaddiction wrote :
I have no choice. I have been burnt so many times by matches going poof on me with no explanation, I _have_ to, am _forced_ to cast a wide a net as possible.

It's more like yeah, you look alright, okay, you can write English without too many mistakes, let's initiate a conversation.
Is coffee the only thing you are addicted too?
 
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Is coffee the only thing you are addicted too?
Apparently I am also addicted to posting on this board, and messaging random strangers I hardly know.

And the odd crack pipe or two.

I keed, I keed!
 
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EMTZ wrote :
So you were one of those people who contacted twiggy?
Nah, height is the one thing I am pretty conscious about. I am not a big guy (5'7") and I have had exes (well one particularly traumatic ex) harangue me about my physical height, so the tallest girl I will date is 5'8", and even then she has to have a really similar background or some strong reason for me to do so.
 
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