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Well, here we go again with the no answer/no communication matches! Yes Folks, it's the 4 day Freebie Weekend. Non-Memebers can match and communicate untilTuesday, I believe. You'll be lucky if you can get through the musthave's/can't stands by the end of the weekend.

irealize EH must generate business, I just wish they would flag the non-members. At least then, I would know which matches are serious about a relationship and which are not.

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- May 23rd, 2008, 03:14 pm
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I really can't believe how much people cry about the free weekends. Big deal if you end up with a match half way through communication. Maybe they'll decide later on down the road that they WOULD like to pay for the service.
- May 24th, 2008, 11:46 pm
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I originally signed up for EH becuase of a freebie weekend....in a way I think it lets people test the waters and see if a website such as this is the right route for them.....on the other hand you also get a lot of people who have no interest and just want to kill time...those are the people that frustrate you.
- May 25th, 2008, 09:47 am
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Won't matter to me because I turned my matching off. It's not EH's fault. I just never could get anybody to communicate with me. grr!!
- May 25th, 2008, 11:47 am
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wow.. you wish they would flag the non-members???? why - so you can tell who is on the website all the time looking for sex???

I am one of those dreaded non-members, and here is how my first three days have gone...30% don't respond, 30% close match you for distance or whatever...and 29% want someone who is not afraid to express themselves sexually in one way or another...if you are lucky you will get 1 or 2 that is actually a real person....looking fora relationship for the right reasons

based on this - will I subscribe? doubtful......
- May 25th, 2008, 08:51 pm
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User78055 wrote :
Won't matter to me because I turned my matching off. It's not EH's fault. I just never could get anybody to communicate with me. grr!!
I never understood why someone would turn matching off. I mean, if you're plunking down money for a matching service, why would you purposely not want matches? Unless you are in communication with someone and you'd like to see how it goes uninterrupted. Then I could see it making sense.

I wish more people would turn matching off instead of sending out the old "I'm pursuing another relationship" line. If you're not interested in other people because you are concentrating on one, there ought to be a way to let others know BEFORE they initiate contact at all. It’s disheartening to be closed by someone who is seemingly open to matches for the reason that they are not available to said matches. Creates confusion and sends mixed signals.
- May 26th, 2008, 08:59 am
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technokat wrote :
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Won't matter to me because I turned my matching off. It's not EH's fault. I just never could get anybody to communicate with me. grr!!
I never understood why someone would turn matching off. I mean, if you're plunking down money for a matching service, why would you purposely not want matches? Unless you are in communication with someone and you'd like to see how it goes uninterrupted. Then I could see it making sense.

I wish more people would turn matching off instead of sending out the old "I'm pursuing another relationship" line. If you're not interested in other people because you are concentrating on one, there ought to be a way to let others know BEFORE they initiate contact at all. It’s disheartening to be closed by someone who is seemingly open to matches for the reason that they are not available to said matches. Creates confusion and sends mixed signals.
How would that work, if you turn off matching and then turn it back on? Would you then receive all the matches that would have been delivered during the "off" phase? Or have you, in effect, lost them forever?



I'd think that if the profiles stay in the system that the former scenario would play out, and you'd still get all those matches from the free weekend.



I'm thinking of turning off my matching three or four days before my subscription ends, to avoid those rumored "last-minute" match avalanches. Good idea or no?
- May 26th, 2008, 09:19 am
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My subscription ended on Friday. I left my match setting on and no avalanches of match was delivered.

I put my eH Advice screen name in my profile with instructions so any matches can contact me here after the my subscription ended.
- May 26th, 2008, 10:40 am
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OH, that explains it! I left for a camping trip on Thursday night and this morning had 50 new matches, 99% without photos. Hhmmm.... and just when I thought my prospect pool had increased...
- May 26th, 2008, 07:50 pm
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I confess, unabashedly, I am one of those non-subscribing members. I have been an EH subscriber and was disappointed with the service for many of the reasons stated by a number of other contributors throughout the advice section of the site. I was not a member, subscribing nor non-subscribing for a few years. I decided to re-establish a non-subscribing membership to see if the site had improved since my last contact. It is through my current status that I "found" the advice section. This area of the service has proved beneficial on many levels, including; information, understanding, and a place to interact.


I have read many extremely interesting and helpful articles and posts. Sometimes I have felt like an eavesdropper. But I've become addicted. Everyone has something important to contribute and I enjoy much of the repartee.


Although it is not likely EH's intention for folks to find their significant others through the advice section of their site, I think it could lend itself to that very endeavor. And, perhaps, accomplish the task significantly better.


I beg the forgiveness of anyone I may have offended by not responding to the matchmaking system of the site. There are some ladies I would like to have contacted but was unable to do so: And, at this point, because of the complaints lodged by many of the disappointed subscribers, I am unwilling to pay for the privelege of doing so. I am a paying member of another well-known site that I think provides a more convenient service.


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