Does the "Passionate" Must Have throw up a red flag for women?


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stylebook is offline stylebook Post #1  February 21,2010, 8:04pm
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So one of the Must Haves (and one that I have selected) reads: "Passionate...I must have someone who is willing to explore our sexual desires with passion and understanding."

Now, what's the female opinion on this when a guy has selected that as one of their Must Haves? I think sex is a healthy part of a good relationship. Not something that should be taken lightly, but certainly a big part of a relationship.

But, does having that there make a guy come off as a creep who's only on eHarmony to get sex?

I guess you should also assume that the other Must Haves are normal and the "Passionate" one is not the first thing selected.
 
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I have that as one of my MHs, and I am always happy to see it on a guy's list.
 
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I agree that it is a healthy part of a good relationship.

I had that as one of my MHs. There were a lot of guys that closed me, now I'm wondering if the guys thought that was a red flag?!
 
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I see nothing wrong with this being on a list. I think it's on my list still. Healthy bedroom life is very important.
 
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I'm sitting here having a good laugh. THANK YOU!!

2 months on eH. 300 matches. 1 female that listed PASSIONATE. She was GOOD LOOKING. She lived 20 miles away. Everything was going perfectly and...




























Poof.

She was gone!!!

God I love this place!!!

:-O
 
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Honestly OP, it depends on each individual woman and how she reads and interprets things as well as her personal dating experiences. You may be matched with a woman who likes an active sex life, but she just had 3 bad dates with guys who had the passionate about sex MH on their profiles and turned out to be dogs looking for a one night stand - she will close you out.

The point is that the sooner you get to meet face to face and start getting to know the real live person the better. This may mean that you need to stay away from certain topics to get to that point. Personally, I find that keeping things as light as possible initially works the best. There is always time later for the more serious get to know stuff. The thing is that until you are sitting face to face, neither one of you knows if there will ever be a later.
 
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Not a woman but have vast experience on eHarmony. That experience has led me to choose only the most benign MHCS because having anything that has any hint of controversy or interpretation is a sure way to get closed as soon as I send my MHCS.
 
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stylebook wrote :
So one of the Must Haves (and one that I have selected) reads: "Passionate...I must have someone who is willing to explore our sexual desires with passion and understanding."

Now, what's the female opinion on this when a guy has selected that as one of their Must Haves? I think sex is a healthy part of a good relationship. Not something that should be taken lightly, but certainly a big part of a relationship.

But, does having that there make a guy come off as a creep who's only on eHarmony to get sex?

I guess you should also assume that the other Must Haves are normal and the "Passionate" one is not the first thing selected.
It will turn off women you are not compatible with, so that's a good thing. the women that either have that in their own MH/CS or feel the way you do about sex will not care.

bottom line is if you change your profile just to communicate with more women, you'll be wasting your time since they may not be compatible to you in the long run.
 
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FredFarkel wrote :
I'm sitting here having a good laugh. THANK YOU!!

2 months on eH. 300 matches. 1 female that listed PASSIONATE. She was GOOD LOOKING. She lived 20 miles away. Everything was going perfectly and...
















Poof.

She was gone!!!

God I love this place!!!

:-O
maybe you will have better luck with the ugly fat girls.
 
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