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So, I am overweight and I was on Chemistry before I came here. I went out with a few people there but I think it's easier there because when you look someone up it tells you their body type. On eharmony I guess you just go by the pictures? You can't really tell I'm fat in my picture. I just don't want to talk to someone on the phone before you meet and have to say "Oh, just to give you a heads up, I'm fat". I just want to know how it works. Thanks
 
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meri75 is offline meri75 Post #2  March 16,2010, 5:27am
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Hopefully, you already know not to excuse away, or apologise for your shape.

In your EH profile, make sure you post full body shots where you are wearing clothing which fits (not baggy, not too-tight) and in good lighting. Your matches (if they are paid members) will have the ability to see you befoe even commencing contact.

On these Boards, there is a forum called Using eHarmony ... you may find some older threads there which are useful reading for you.
 
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meri75 wrote :
Your matches (if they are paid members) will have the ability to see you befoe even commencing contact.
Um, Meri, not all matches won't be able to see your picture. I just finished the four bases of eHarmony with a guy who was here for the FCW and he asked for me to privately e-mail him a picture. I asked him why, and he said because he can't see pictures because he isn't a paying member.
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punkbeetle wrote :
So, I am overweight and I was on Chemistry before I came here. I went out with a few people there but I think it's easier there because when you look someone up it tells you their body type. On eharmony I guess you just go by the pictures? You can't really tell I'm fat in my picture. I just don't want to talk to someone on the phone before you meet and have to say "Oh, just to give you a heads up, I'm fat". I just want to know how it works. Thanks
Paying members will be able to see your photos. (They're the only ones that count anyway). So just pick a few of your best pictures and roll with the punches. If a guy isn't interested because of your weight, then do you really want him? I wouldn't. That's his loss... not yours.
 
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VolGal wrote :
Um, Meri, no all matches won't be able to see your picture. I just finished the four bases of eHarmony with a guy who was here for the FCW and he asked for me to privately e-mail him a picture. I asked him why, and he said because he can't see pictures because he isn't a paying member.
Yes, I know. That's why I wrote (if they are paid members) in my response.
 
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meri75 wrote :
Yes, I know. That's why I wrote (if they are paid members) in my response.
Sorry, Meri, my bad.
 
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