Tina65 is offline Tina65 Post #1  February 13,2010, 5:54am
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I'm sorry to come across so negative but I am very disappointed in eharmony. There should be a better screening process to avoid all of the matches that one receives and end up being dead ends. Meaning, more times than not, they are likely non paying members. What is the point in receiving them when you can't communicate with them??

I was truly hoping for more by joining this club...
 
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Yeah, in a way too I was expecting to have more communications going on. But I realize this is not like the other sites where it sooo easy to contact other matches and get communications going faster, but also have communications kind of pushed on you too. So for that, I am enjoying the experience of it being different for now. Not sure if I will renew when my three-months comes up. Even if I don't I will still likely give it another go another time if I do cancel for a while.
 
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I hear you on that goosie. I think I've already decided that it is not worth the money just to read profiles online. I can think of better things to be doing with my time; not to mention spending money on!

Their tv commercials are great though aren't they?? haha
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Tina65 wrote :
Their tv commercials are great though aren't they?? haha

Yep, they sure are. lol. In fairness though, I have a few things going on in my life that may not be so conducive to having a super serious romance either. But your sentiments have been expressed by many others. Time and patience, applies to this as with many other things in life.
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This is a very common complaint. You will find that most (about 90%) of your matches are non-paying members. The reason that you get matched to non-paying members is because eHarmony believe that when you send First Questions to a match that is a non-paying member they will be enticed to pay their money to join.
 
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I am very disappointed too, and I am thinking of discontinuing and join another.
 
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The reason that you get matched to non-paying members is because eHarmony believe that when you send First Questions to a match that is a non-paying member they will be enticed to pay their money to join.
I've got about 25 in communication matches that would say otherwise. Not a reply nor a close. The system works well huh?
 
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I am not sure how EHarmony does the matching. I filled out the distance for around 60 miles, and I am given matches several states away. I also have certain things that are extremely important to me, such as amount of education, but the matches I get do not seem to, well, 'match.' Has this happened to any one else?
 
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The business model is apparently working for someone.

I'd still love to know an official tally of the percentage of paying members. The 90% number is disputed by the hosts here, but it is not backed up with much more than "that's not accurate."
 
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Tina65 wrote :
I'm sorry to come across so negative but I am very disappointed in eharmony. There should be a better screening process to avoid all of the matches that one receives and end up being dead ends. Meaning, more times than not, they are likely non paying members. What is the point in receiving them when you can't communicate with them??
You can communicate with them; they just can't communicate back.

It's not a screening problem. It's intentional and designed to let new people sample the site for free by being able to interact someone with paying members, to get them to join. I'm sure it works as intended, or they would change the process.

A lot of people would never join without a way to test drive the site. I joined during a free weekend and ended up paying for a year, so it definitely works, and I wouldn't expect the site to stop doing this.

It would be nice if they would indicate to paying members whether a match is also a paying member, so we could choose to avoid those who are not... but I wouldn't hold my breath for this.
 
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