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AndieIsMe is offline AndieIsMe — Advice Member-Moderator Post #21  February 11,2010, 7:17pm
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I will ask this question if my match has the Attractiveness MHCS listed. It makes me question what their ideas of "very attractive" is. Or if their questioning seems to be focused on the looks side of things. I had one match that asked me several questions regarding my style and "who" I dress for when going out for an evening.
 
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I will ask this question if my match has the Attractiveness MHCS listed. It makes me question what their ideas of "very attractive" is. Or if their questioning seems to be focused on the looks side of things. I had one match that asked me several questions regarding my style and "who" I dress for when going out for an evening.
Some of my matches have it listed. Yes, since they communicate with me (a quite average guy), I take it as a compliment
The style question I interpret positively, since I had too many show up on a 1st date in a sweatshirt (while being attorneys, CPAs and MBAs). So if she cares and wants her partner to care, it's all good to me.
 
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Personally I never asked that question of a match; but I got asked that question many times. It seems that question and the question about body preference went hand in hand. As a guy in my upper 40's I didn't see the relevance in asking these types of questions but for some reason women did. In the end it was just a question and I didn't put much emphasis into it. Again, my main rule with regards to matches (and EH in general) was to never make assumptions about anything. Meeting a match in person is the real test, that is the main goal for anyone using EH (at least one would think so, you never know).

I believe that trying to be to specific early on during the GC process hampers getting to OC and then actually meeting someone. I did pay attention to what was listed on a matches MH/CS, but I wouldn't close because of what they had listed (again, it's easy to make assumptions at this point). Open communication is a great forum for asking more specific questions, you can get a better feel of the person in general at that point.

Good luck to all.
 
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