dukeofurl is offline dukeofurl Post #1  February 10,2010, 8:04pm
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I tried EH several years ago, and after answering the questions, the site told me that I was one in a million, and that it couldn't help me.

Worst of all, I couldn't "reset" it so that I could try answering the questions again.

Well, one time recently I tried it again, and it seemed to forget me, because it let me answer the questions again. And again it told me that it couldn't help me.

Well that really disappoints me, because I want to be in love, I want to find my soulmate, I know she's out there somewhere. I thought that EH could help. I guess I was wrong.
 
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I was joking with a friend saying that eharmony keeps finding me people I'm not compatible with (And I can do that just fine on my own - online dating is not all it's cracked up to be ) and she told me that a few years ago she signed up for eharmony and they rejected her on the same premise as you- she said she was angry and felt like a freak...but about a year later she met someone perfect for her...and they are engaged now. I think you will meet her somewhere- try to meet people in conventional ways- join a book club, an outdoors club, a weekly meet for wings and beer group...try googling your city and clubs. Worth a try. Good luck! She's out there- don't give up!
 
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Well, ordinarily, I would be fascinated as to why you have been rejected from EH... Twice.

However, looking at one of your posts in a different thread, I suspect it is obvious why EH has rejected you, rightly or wrongly.

I believe it has been suspected, (stated?) that EH will reject people that are seriously depressed.

I think the assumption would be that a lot of people probably would not like being Matched with someone with serious depression issues, or that such a person would not be a good candidate for getting into a real relationship.

My only thought here would be that perhaps EH could match a depressed person with other depressed people? Or does that simply just end up making both partners worse off?

Of course, being rejected on EH just feeds on itself, and sends the person into a deeper depression....

Anyway, you should just keep plugging along, and perhaps try joining a different dating site? There are so many out there, don't just assume EH is the only one that would work for you.
 
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dukeofurl wrote :
I tried EH several years ago, and after answering the questions, the site told me that I was one in a million, and that it couldn't help me.

Worst of all, I couldn't "reset" it so that I could try answering the questions again.

Well, one time recently I tried it again, and it seemed to forget me, because it let me answer the questions again. And again it told me that it couldn't help me.

Well that really disappoints me, because I want to be in love, I want to find my soulmate, I know she's out there somewhere. I thought that EH could help. I guess I was wrong.
Geesh, I don't know what to say, that astounds me! One in a million? I'm not sure how you answered your questions but that would have baffled me for sure. I'm sorry that happened to you but try to look on the bright side....you may just be the one people are truly looking for because you are one in a million. I wish you all the best and keep your chin up and like the other poster said, get out and get busy in activities, maybe that will lead you to that other one in a million person.
 
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ScottK wrote :
However, looking at one of your posts in a different thread, I suspect it is obvious why EH has rejected you, rightly or wrongly.

I believe it has been suspected, (stated?) that EH will reject people that are seriously depressed.

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Yup, saw that post. I agree.

OP are you seeking any help with it? The things you post on the other thread are a very good reasons to be depressed . There really isnt anything wrong with you that isnt normal for human beings to go through in your situation. In other words your far more normal then you think. But to be matched now would not be good for either of you. I can asure you it is a recipe for disaster. And how would you want what could be percieved as a failure, already fortold for you.
I know there are mental health agancies that go by a sliding scale fee. Seek and you shall find. Get going on your self esteem, so you can even think about moving to a place with higher employment opertunites. Then retake take that test again. In the mean time it doesnt hurt for you to keep posting on this sight to stay social and get prepared for when you ready.
 
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ScottK wrote :
Well, ordinarily, I would be fascinated as to why you have been rejected from EH... Twice.

However, looking at one of your posts in a different thread, I suspect it is obvious why EH has rejected you, rightly or wrongly.

I believe it has been suspected, (stated?) that EH will reject people that are seriously depressed.

I think the assumption would be that a lot of people probably would not like being Matched with someone with serious depression issues, or that such a person would not be a good candidate for getting into a real relationship.

My only thought here would be that perhaps EH could match a depressed person with other depressed people? Or does that simply just end up making both partners worse off?

Of course, being rejected on EH just feeds on itself, and sends the person into a deeper depression....

Anyway, you should just keep plugging along, and perhaps try joining a different dating site? There are so many out there, don't just assume EH is the only one that would work for you.
Actually, you're on the right track with this one. According to a counsoler friend of mine, eH screens for people with existing chronic or pathalogical mental "conditions". I'm not sure what "conditions" they're looking for, exactly, or if any other dating sites do it too.
 
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dukeofurl wrote :
I tried EH several years ago, and after answering the questions, the site told me that I was one in a million, and that it couldn't help me.

Worst of all, I couldn't "reset" it so that I could try answering the questions again.

Well, one time recently I tried it again, and it seemed to forget me, because it let me answer the questions again. And again it told me that it couldn't help me.

Well that really disappoints me, because I want to be in love, I want to find my soulmate, I know she's out there somewhere. I thought that EH could help. I guess I was wrong.
How many times have you been married?
 
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How many times have you been married?
Might be something to this, too....I know they won't accept you if you're "separated".
 
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