goldengirl7676 is offline goldengirl7676 Post #31  February 9,2010, 7:35am
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I agree that it is a really stupid decision on eH's part. I am single, never married and have no children. Nothing against all of the wonderful single parents out there, but I personally would not want to date someone who already has children, whether they live at home or not. That information ought to be up front on everyone's profiles and it shouldn't come down to each of us having to decipher from what is/isn't mentioned in the profiles.

EH should follow the model of match.com, which provides several options for this subject -- 1) No; 2)Yes, and they live at home; 3) Yes, and they live at home part-time; or 4) Yes, but they do not live at home with me
 
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ScottK is offline ScottK Post #32  February 9,2010, 9:38am
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Wow!

Very rarely do I come out and absolutely, positively say that EHarmony has made a horrible decision here...

But it has to be said.

Seriously, this has to be one of the biggest broken decisions I have ever seen EHarmony make.

What is the WORLD does removing that line accomplish???

I don't care if there are settings for me in my Preferences to set Yes/No for whether I want a Match that has kids or not.

Most of us don't use that option as a hammer filter, because we are not willing to automatically filter out everyone who has kids/no kids.

But we sure as heck do want to know after we receive a given Match, whether they have kids or not.

This is such a broken change, that I really have to question the logic behind it.
There is something more that you aren't telling us Kate/Renee.
 
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MicMan is online now MicMan Post #33  February 9,2010, 2:49pm
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I wonder what the uproar would be if they removed something like, oh, say height?
 
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nunayabizness is offline nunayabizness Post #34  February 10,2010, 11:41am

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I can think of two possible reasons.

1) People with kids must have complained, because they do not want prospective mates to know they have kids.

2) It could also be to discourage pedophiles from joining eHarmony to target single mothers.

The second reason is valid. The first one less so.

I guess it is up to you to check off the box in preferences as to whether you mind if your matches have kids. If it makes a difference to you if your match has kids, then you probably should not be open to accepting matches with kids.
 
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ScottK wrote :
Wow!

Very rarely do I come out and absolutely, positively say that EHarmony has made a horrible decision here...

But it has to be said.

Seriously, this has to be one of the biggest broken decisions I have ever seen EHarmony make.

What is the WORLD does removing that line accomplish???

I don't care if there are settings for me in my Preferences to set Yes/No for whether I want a Match that has kids or not.

Most of us don't use that option as a hammer filter, because we are not willing to automatically filter out everyone who has kids/no kids.

But we sure as heck do want to know after we receive a given Match, whether they have kids or not.

This is such a broken change, that I really have to question the logic behind it.
There is something more that you aren't telling us Kate/Renee.
Eharmony is a business, and they know that having women on here is key for their success. If their research and feedback shows that enoough single mothers do not want "has kids" on the profile, then eharmony will take it down. Look at how the matching process completely avoids the subject of weight. That is not by mistake.
 
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nunayabizness wrote :
I can think of two possible reasons.

1) People with kids must have complained, because they do not want prospective mates to know they have kids.

2) It could also be to discourage pedophiles from joining eHarmony to target single mothers.

The second reason is valid. The first one less so.

I guess it is up to you to check off the box in preferences as to whether you mind if your matches have kids. If it makes a difference to you if your match has kids, then you probably should not be open to accepting matches with kids.
nunayabizness wrote :
Eharmony is a business, and they know that having women on here is key for their success. If their research and feedback shows that enoough single mothers do not want "has kids" on the profile, then eharmony will take it down. Look at how the matching process completely avoids the subject of weight. That is not by mistake.
Hmmm, interesting that both responses are from the same person, isn't it?

From the first post, your #1 is so off base. I am a single parent and I know a lot of single parents. They, myself included, WANT the matches we are introduced to, to know that we have kids. They are a huge part of our lives and can be time consuming as well as emotion consuming.

Second post. Again, I am a single parent. If a match really doesn't want to be matched with someone who already has children, I would rather not be introduced to them as well. Why would ANY single mom or dad want to hide that most precious part of their life?

I think you have a very narrow view on how single parents (probably women in general, based on your posts) think about online dating. Even dating in general. I have yet to meet a woman (or man) who has said that they lied on an online profile about having children. Yeah, that is a small slice of the online world. But really? Do you truly think a single parent is dumb enough to try to hide something that cannot be hidden? Maybe you have met crazy, uptight, self conscious women online, but most of the people I know would never do a hide and seek game.
 
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