DDjr is offline DDjr Post #11  February 4,2010, 6:28pm
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JerzyGirl527 wrote :
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My age range is 28-36.



I get plenty of matches per day; I just don't get any that want to talk to me.
Up your age range a couple of years and see if you get more response. (Getting matched with someone & even communicating with them is not a promise to marry.)
 
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JerzyGirl527 is offline JerzyGirl527 Post #12  February 4,2010, 7:58pm
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DDjr wrote :
Up your age range a couple of years and see if you get more response. (Getting matched with someone & even communicating with them is not a promise to marry.)
So you're saying men under 37 don't respond? I find that hard to believe.
 
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chemgal is offline chemgal Post #13  February 4,2010, 8:13pm
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I'm new but having the same issue. I've probably been closed by 15-20 guys and only had 1 contact me (well, one more with an icebreaker but then he disappeared too).

I'm sure there are things I could do to jazz up my profile, but right now it's me, and if I change it too much, it becomes not-me. So far, I only have one pic (full body but face is clear); I'm working on that.
 
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Rustman is offline Rustman Post #14  February 9,2010, 10:13pm
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..and this is only one reason of many why I love this site. The classic dating problem of competition is deliciously turned on its head. I have no problems getting contacts that communicate, even to open communication, several on the phone, a couple in person, and two that went on to...something. One so-so relationship that ended more or less amicably and we still talk and are friends...and another that was a complete disaster...but well...it's something I guess. Welcome to our world, ladies. Just think of this as a computer simulation of what it's like to try dating as a guy in this modern world. I'm sorry, is my schadenfreudeshowing? :-p
I couldn't help myself. Anyway, in seriousness, it's simple ratios unfortunately. There really are more women on here than men (and most importantly, way more paying women than paying men) and with the limited and staggered matching, its even more pronounced. I only really close people for two things...extreme distance (just because the realities of an extremely long distance relationship just don't really make it worth it when I can look much closer to home) and a..ummm..."extreme" lifestyle (I'm talking extremely unhealthy lifestyle). Obviously I couldn't really say if any of youall have been on my page or not, but you seem pretty cool from what I've seen on here. It's really just going to take time, unfortunately.
 
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VolGal is offline VolGal Post #15  February 10,2010, 2:45pm
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JerzyGirl,

I am here in the deep South and I got matched with Grizzly Adams on Monday. You can have him and perhaps we can switch some Matches?

I am in the same boat as you, Gal, and the best thing is that it is 5:00 somewhere. I continue to work on myself while I work on this site, and we'll see what happens. If it wasn't meant to happen, it won't. But perhaps I'm a bit more sanguine because I have had the love of my live (a 25 year marriage), I have three lovely children, and I am getting back into the pool after being out since 1981.

It can be frustrating (I've only been on 2 weeks), but wake up each morning with a positive attitude, get some coffee, and start your new day fresh again.
 
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Suggestion, since you have been on for 7 months you could request to re-take the Questionnaire. Then set aside an hour or two to carefully consider each question and how it really relates to you.
I agree. The question is: do you like your matches? My friend was on for a while, and all his matches were a very narrow type and a bad fit for him. Once he re-took the test, the type of his match has changed for the best (and they are replying).
 
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So is it safe to say that in this situation, its best to rewrite your profile? Just curious because Im havent been trying as long, but Im getting there.
 
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What I don't get are the guys who close the match as "I think the physical distance between us is too great" when they are about 2 hours from me. If you think a two-hour drive is too much, why are your settings such that you get matches from that distance? I understand that some could be flexible matches, but ALL of them? I've got over 180 closed matches and fully half of them are "distance" cited as the reason. Most of the other half have used "other" which I hate. I think they should make you write a real reason if you are going to select "other" when you close the match.

I have been using eHarmony since October 2009 and so far I've gotten to open communication with 10 or so people, and I have met no one. I had a date for V Day, but he canceled a couple days ago. I got to the giving out my phone number stage with one guy who called me twice and then said he didn't feel the chemistry (in 90 minutes worth of talking on the phone, total). I got one guy who I believe is dating someone, but using eHarmony to find a piece on the side. And most of the rest have just stopped responding, or never started responding in the first place.

I even widened my search base (age and how important distance was to me) and I'm still not getting anywhere. Now, I know I haven't been at this long, but I expected something a little more than what I've gotten, particularly since I'm not as picky as I used to be (that was WAY before eHarmony). I guess I expected to hit open communication with more people, but since 90% of my matches don't respond, I'm wondering how that will ever happen. I realize many of them may not be paying members, but why am I wasting my money when they aren't, I guess? I mean, if 90% of the people they are matching me with are non-paying members, why am I paying for a service that I can't use?

Or am I just doing something wrong?
 
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