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A huge turnoff for me is misspelling. But I also think that the age thing is too restrictive. The men can go after younger women but women, like me, who are very yong for their age in looks , attitude and lifestyle, are locked into getting matches who are too old because of the age double-standard. If I see a photo and the guy looks like my dad (but my dad was cute!) it's an immediate delete. I need to be physically attracted to someone. Two other thinkgs - I hate it when guys don't post their pictures - what are they hiding, or, are they too lazy to get one taken? And, most just never check their matches and don't respond or even look at their matches pictures! Why join an online dating service if you're not going to check in? Duh
- March 27th, 2008, 08:33 am
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I agree with Caleurogal, I've had guys close before I had my picture posted because they couldn't see me and most of them don't have pictures posted. Also, out of how many matches, no one tries to respond and so many of my matches are as old a my Dad. The ones I've tried to communicate with don't respond, close or anything. I think I wasted my money.
- March 27th, 2008, 08:11 pm
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I just checked in again to see if someone had even *viewed* my profile, let alone responded to it. I am certainly beginning to agree with those of you who feel that this site is, perhaps, a waste of time and money.

I do believe the practice of forwarding to paid members"matches" who have only filled out a free profile is what leads to continual disappointments: I regularly receive dozens of "matches" but virtually *no* communication (even on "free" weekends!).

Something else thatreally irks me are the fellows who barely write any kind of answer to only half of the questions (along withthe fact that eHarmony then sends them to me); if these men arenot completing the profile questions, why am I being forwarded their profiles as "matches"?

Interestingly, along with so many of you, I thought I was, perhaps, being too picky about basic spelling and grammar. I don't expect perfection, but some of the errors just seem *so* blatant! However, I also know that communicating via computer is a skill that not everyone excels at. In fact, right now I'd be happy to overlook even significant spelling mistakes in orderto actually hear from someone!
- March 27th, 2008, 10:56 pm
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heartandsoul wrote :
I agree with Caleurogal, I've had guys close before I had my picture posted because they couldn't see me and most of them don't have pictures posted. Also, out of how many matches, no one tries to respond and so many of my matches are as old a my Dad. The ones I've tried to communicate with don't respond, close or anything. I think I wasted my money.
Wake up and smell the coffee.... We live inan age of"no substance"....I want it NOW generation... If your picture wasn't up, then no eye candy for the boy...In the old days the girl with the shortest dress, fishnetsand low-cut top got all the attention at the bar-scene...Let's not forget the Daisy Duke look... Then there's the guy with no-neck and showing off all muscles with a small tight shirt whochecks himself outin the mirror every chance he gets... So it's all a visual show...these folks usually never went home alone at the end of the night, butI will bet mostof them are probably on EHarmony still looking right now... The science of attraction is deep..you can spend years studying Masters and Johnsonand work toget your PhD in Psychology and still come home to a wife/nag that screams at you..go figure... Window shopping for dates like you are looking for shoes can be disastrous, but as they say.... if the shoe fits.....

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- March 28th, 2008, 04:38 pm
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Ladybug1 wrote :

I just checked in again to see if someone had even *viewed* my profile, let alone responded to it. I am certainly beginning to agree with those of you who feel that this site is, perhaps, a waste of time and money.

I do believe the practice of forwarding to paid members "matches" who have only filled out a free profile is what leads to continual disappointments: I regularly receive dozens of "matches" but virtually *no* communication (even on "free" weekends!).

Something else that really irks me are the fellows who barely write any kind of answer to only half of the questions (along with the fact that eHarmony then sends them to me); if these men are not completing the profile questions, why am I being forwarded their profiles as "matches"?

Interestingly, along with so many of you, I thought I was, perhaps, being too picky about basic spelling and grammar. I don't expect perfection, but some of the errors just seem *so* blatant! However, I also know that communicating via computer is a skill that not everyone excels at. In fact, right now I'd be happy to overlook even significant spelling mistakes in order to actually hear from someone!
I agree wholeheartedly with you. Have you ever noticed that just before your membership expires that your mailbox is full of matches? I have given this thing my best shot, been shot down repeatedly, had 1 "sort of date: and one no show (over three years!).



I surrender.

I will be single for the rest of my natural life at this rate!
- March 28th, 2008, 08:25 pm
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This is the third time I've actually joined this site, with obviously little to no success previously, and it will be the last time I try. I joined yet again in response to a challenge from a relative, that I should try once more before giving up. Thus far, its been a waste of time and money. It appears that even though I receive many matches, rarely does a man contact me. Rather, they wait until I contact them, which I'm not averse to doing. I figure it is wortha shot. I would like to see the "close match" section add a place for us to write in a comment of our own as to the reason for closing. I confess that I do close those matches who cannot spell, and those whose best friend is their 'dog'! I've had a few matches who went all the way to open communication, and then inexplicably closed the match. The last match was the most entertaining of all! I received a "first communication" to the effect that the angels in heaven even thought I was beautiful, and would I please go straight to "open communication"....he addressed me as "queen" and said he was "missing me"!!! It was scarcely a week later when I received a 'close match', stating 'other' for the reason. Thank God I have a good sense of humor, as this site has given me a lot of laughs, and I have been able to entertain my friends on the excitement of online dating ...well, almost dating!
- March 28th, 2008, 11:24 pm
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This is the third time I've actually joined this site, and it will be the last time I try. It was in response to a challenge that I should try before giving up. Thus far, its been a waste of time and money. It appears that even though I receive many matches, rarely does a man contact me. Rather, they wait until I contact them, which I'm not averse to doing. I figure it is worth a shot. I would like to see the "close match" section add a place for us to write in a comment of our own as to the reason for closing, rather than a check mark routine. I confess that I do close those matches who cannot spell, and those whose best friend is their 'dog'! I've had a few matches who went all the way to open communication, and then inexplicably closed the match. The last match provided was the most entertaining of all! I received a "first communication" to the effect that even the angels in heaven stopped what they were doing to admire my beauty…called me ‘queen’ and that he was ‘missing me’! He requested going straight to ‘open communication’… however, soon after that, I received a ‘close match’ message with a reason of ‘other’! Thank God, I’ve got a good sense of humor. The site has provided me with endless material for comedy monologues, which I have used to successfully entertain my friends on the finer points of online dating!

- March 28th, 2008, 11:41 pm
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dy19 wrote :
What I want to know is: Is it a bad idea to list that you have children? I'm asking because I haven't had many communicated matches. I wonder if it is because I have it listed on my intro page. I feel that that they are such a huge part of my life that it would be really deceiving not have that part of my life out in the open from the get go. Does anyone have any thoughts on this?
Seems to me that is a problem. I have my child listed in my profile. I have had maybe 6 matches, I sent questions to 5 of them. NO ONE RESPONDED! Why did I waste my time and money on this? What I don't get is these guys have kids too! So what's the problem? They can have kids but the women can't? What's up guys?
- March 29th, 2008, 05:50 pm
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eharmonyadvice, wrote :
Posting a photo will guarantee more clicks on your profile, but the text that goes along with it is just as important. What you reveal about yourself on your profile is crucial for enticing or turning away potential mates. Are you saying the right thing?
(i am putting mistakes in this intentionally)

I find this amusing ... the simple number of ppl that think spelling and grammer is that important. Y is it so damn improtant ... "it goes to a persons personality" Did u ever think that not all ppl wright well .. and maybe just maybe they have .. i dont know DYSLEXIA!! Yet u all think that there wrighting is the end all of there personality.

So by that theory Einstine was the worst person in the world at math.. becouse HE sucked at the Basics of math. Its a fact that he failed math in school.

any one that is so stuck on spelling and grammor as u are needs to have there head examined. You ALL need toJust give uplooking for a "perfect" person. I got news for u, YOU WILL NEVER FIND IT!!

A person is more then just one aspect of there personality. A personality is Defined as: the complex of all the attributes--behavioral, temperamental, emotional and mental--that characterize a unique individual. That means .. GET OVER YOURSELF .. andlet a person have a chance to REALY show u who they are.Your desire for perfection, will be the reason that u niver find"True love". Youwill be Whining for the rest of your LIFE!! U are far from perfect yourself and at the rate u are going u WILL NEVER BE HAPPY.
- March 30th, 2008, 04:25 am
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As a woman with children, I believe it is important to say you have children. They are a part of you and who you are.I don't look at profiles that don't list kids. Guys that don't have kids may want them (and the baby factor is closed here!) or they may not understand the complexities and responsibilities of being a parent. Especially if you have teenagers! Good luck to all of us on our search
- March 30th, 2008, 08:25 am
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