Scammers - Glad I listened to my gut


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citrusblossom is offline citrusblossom Post #1  May 17,2008, 8:33pm
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Hello beautiful people:

I want to know if anyone else has hada similar experience.

I got a match on EH from my state. Profile was good, lots of mis-spellings, but said he was from Italy, so thought nothing of it. Only (1) picture, but seemed attractive. He immediately requested fast track communication.I accepted. First communication, he poured on the compliments about my pictures, and how much he'd like to get to know me "more better". We started chatting via fast track.I asked him to post more pictures on his profile, he said he would email them to me. I gave him my gmail address. He sent lots of pictures of himself posing in a mansion, pictures of different rooms in this house, and pictures of his son and dog. I thought it was strange that there were no pictures of him and his son together. During the course of our conversations, he said he was living in England, but also has a house in Florida.Strange, then why does your profile say Illinois. Chatted some more. He is awidower with (1) son. Wife died 3 years ago in a car accident. Then more strange, he works in the "Auto Business" and was in Africa for a few weeks on business.I kept asking questions about things that didn't make sense, like if he lives in England, why his profile says Illinois. What exactly did he do in the "auto business". He never answered any questions I had about specifics. He would always respond back with some glorious praise. He then asked if we could chat on yahoo, and when couldhe talk to me. Already aware of the warning signs, I told him thatalthough he "seemed" like a nice guy, you never really know who is behind the computer. I went on to say that for all I know you could be one of those internet dating scammers. So until we get to know eachother better, I liked our communication to remain just email. Never heard from him again.

So, I called EH to find out how I got a match from England, that had a profile stating Illlinois. They told me they would send me an "incident" report via email. I should fill in info on my interactions with this match, and return to them.They would then do an "investigation". Two days later I got an email from EH stating that they have terminated the EH account for the match in question, and they advise that all communicaiton outside of EH stop....they went on to say that due to their privacy policy they can't reveal the details of the temination...and yada yada yada...

One of my biggest fears about this "internet" thing is just this. For some reason, becasue EH is a paid service, I thought that would weed out the usual suspects, but I guess they're everywhere. I'm sure now that this guy was not on the up and up, and I am sooooo glad thatI listened to my gut and did not get caught up in all his compliments. He was really pouring it on, even asking about marriage some day, and moving back to anywhere in the USA that the woman of his dreams would want to live. BIG WARNING SIGN.

Has anyone elsecrossed paths with "scammers", and what other warning signs should we be looking for?

Thanks for your thoughts.

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cavin is offline cavin Post #2  May 18,2008, 12:23pm
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YES!

Mine was from Alberta Canada, but then said he had another house in Indianapolis. Has a son, lost his wife. Desperate to communicate anywhere BUT eHarmony.

When I asked him to be patient and stay on eHarmony a little longer, he dropped me.

Then I got that same message from eHarmony.

I think the scammers are everywhere now. (He said he only paid for one month) But eHarmony does afford you those protections.
 
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riley is offline riley Post #3  May 18,2008, 1:02pm
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Scammers are easy to spot, but if you can't do this:

Never use your ISP mailbox at first. Set up a hotmail or gmail mailbox. And then take your time. If it's a scammer, the pitch will come soon enough.
 
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julesmobtown is offline julesmobtown Post #4  May 18,2008, 1:02pm
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OMG!!! I had the same guy! wife died in a tragic car accident, single dad looking for a wife, living in Northern VA but originally from Scotland looking to live here in the US. Open to relocation. I joked, what, you looking for a wife or for permanent residency??? Pics in front of the mansion as well!! He said his name was martin....I closed him out after I got pics of his son...didn't look at all like him...He AND his son looked like pediphiles....
 
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PinkChampagne is offline PinkChampagne Post #5  May 24,2008, 8:55am
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I am also tired of this! If eharmony is not wanting or willing to deal with this, then we all should start a list of who we think are the con man. I guessed 10 out of the 11 that ehamrmnoy closed. Eharmony has closed 11 of my matches in 5 months. I think that is a record. I'm not sure if they were all scammers or liars. Maybe some of this would stop if eharmony would disclose what they did wrong. I also have had a very bad experience with eharmony's customers care when I tried to report a user that I thought was lying he did not want me to report it and told me that I didn't need to tell him what this persons name was or where he lived because ehamony could figure it out by who I talking to on open communication. The eharmony customer care person did nothing about my complaint. I now know that you can report someone and eharmony will email you a "Your Recent Call to eHarmony [Incident:######-######]" where you can reply and give detailed information about the person you are having problems with. I hope this information can help someone. Never give a real email to the ones you think are scammers.
 
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PinkChampagne,121443 wrote :
I am also tired of this! If eharmony is not wanting or willing to deal with this, then we all should start a list of who we think are the con man. I guessed 10 out of the 11 that ehamrmnoy closed. Eharmony has closed 11 of my matches in 5 months. I think that is a record. I'm not sure if they were all scammers or liars. Maybe some of this would stop if eharmony would disclose what they did wrong. I also have had a very bad experience with eharmony's customers care when I tried to report a user that I thought was lying he did not want me to report it and told me that I didn't need to tell him what this persons name was or where he lived because ehamony could figure it out by who I talking to on open communication. The eharmony customer care person did nothing about my complaint. I now know that you can report someone and eharmony will email you a "Your Recent Call to eHarmony [Incident:######-######]" where you can reply and give detailed information about the person you are having problems with. I hope this information can help someone. Never give a real email to the ones you think are scammers.
OK, just made it to level 4 after 6 days of being on eH. Does this sound familiar:

Roberto, lives in Denver.

Born in Venice to a successful family, moved to London where his father tragicaly died of an illness.

Wife died, (hasn't said why yet.) Hasa son who lives inItaly w/ his mom who he appears to visit once a month.

Talks alot about life being hard and tragic. But God will help us overcome, etc., etc

Heavy on the mispellings, and in only our 2nd OC exchange, lots of talk about "when I meet his son" and "when I cook for you" and tons of waxing philosophical.

Seems to come on strong with the compliments. And funny, his answers in levels 1-3 and profile "voice" do not seem to match his new Open Communication "voice".

So -- I think I'll sniff this one out and have a little fun with it.
 
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GWhiz is offline GWhiz Post #7  May 24,2008, 9:53am
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GWhiz,121466 wrote :
PinkChampagne,121443 wrote :
I am also tired of this! If eharmony is not wanting or willing to deal with this, then we all should start a list of who we think are the con man. I guessed 10 out of the 11 that ehamrmnoy closed. Eharmony has closed 11 of my matches in 5 months. I think that is a record. I'm not sure if they were all scammers or liars. Maybe some of this would stop if eharmony would disclose what they did wrong. I also have had a very bad experience with eharmony's customers care when I tried to report a user that I thought was lying he did not want me to report it and told me that I didn't need to tell him what this persons name was or where he lived because ehamony could figure it out by who I talking to on open communication. The eharmony customer care person did nothing about my complaint. I now know that you can report someone and eharmony will email you a "Your Recent Call to eHarmony [Incident:######-######]" where you can reply and give detailed information about the person you are having problems with. I hope this information can help someone. Never give a real email to the ones you think are scammers.
OK, just made it to level 4 after 6 days of being on eH. Does this sound familiar:

Roberto, lives in Denver.

Born in Venice to a successful family, moved to London where his father tragicaly died of an illness.

Wife died, (hasn't said why yet.) Hasa son who lives inItaly w/ his mom who he appears to visit once a month.

Talks alot about life being hard and tragic. But God will help us overcome, etc., etc

Heavy on the mispellings, and in only our 2nd OC exchange, lots of talk about "when I meet his son" and "when I cook for you" and tons of waxing philosophical.

Seems to come on strong with the compliments. And funny, his answers in levels 1-3 and profile "voice" do not seem to match his new Open Communication "voice".

So -- I think I'll sniff this one out and have a little fun with it.


I really thnk there are 10 of these guys sitting around in some European druglord's basement tooting coke and taking shifts in answering us.
 
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GWhiz is offline GWhiz Post #8  May 26,2008, 8:08pm
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GWhiz,121468 wrote :
GWhiz,121466 wrote :
PinkChampagne,121443 wrote :
I am also tired of this! If eharmony is not wanting or willing to deal with this, then we all should start a list of who we think are the con man. I guessed 10 out of the 11 that ehamrmnoy closed. Eharmony has closed 11 of my matches in 5 months. I think that is a record. I'm not sure if they were all scammers or liars. Maybe some of this would stop if eharmony would disclose what they did wrong. I also have had a very bad experience with eharmony's customers care when I tried to report a user that I thought was lying he did not want me to report it and told me that I didn't need to tell him what this persons name was or where he lived because ehamony could figure it out by who I talking to on open communication. The eharmony customer care person did nothing about my complaint. I now know that you can report someone and eharmony will email you a "Your Recent Call to eHarmony [Incident:######-######]" where you can reply and give detailed information about the person you are having problems with. I hope this information can help someone. Never give a real email to the ones you think are scammers.
OK, just made it to level 4 after 6 days of being on eH. Does this sound familiar:

Roberto, lives in Denver.

Born in Venice to a successful family, moved to London where his father tragicaly died of an illness.

Wife died, (hasn't said why yet.) Hasa son who lives inItaly w/ his mom who he appears to visit once a month.

Talks alot about life being hard and tragic. But God will help us overcome, etc., etc

Heavy on the mispellings, and in only our 2nd OC exchange, lots of talk about "when I meet his son" and "when I cook for you" and tons of waxing philosophical.

Seems to come on strong with the compliments. And funny, his answers in levels 1-3 and profile "voice" do not seem to match his new Open Communication "voice".

So -- I think I'll sniff this one out and have a little fun with it.


I really thnk there are 10 of these guys sitting around in some European druglord's basement tooting coke and taking shifts in answering us.
Haha!

So after a few days of playing cat & mouse with "Robert from Denver", (the contracterfrom Venice, who hailed from a prominent family, is a widower whossonlives in Italy, but he visits him monthly while also internationally traveling to China, Iran, Iraq and other places on behalf of his lucrative oil business, but who steals movie clips and tries to pass them off as his real life experiences, and never answers any of my questions with any level of specifics, etc, etc, etc.)

... I just alled him out as a scammer, letting him know that I never loan money to anyone, ever. But invited him to continue to chat if he liked.

He reponded that I was "cold" and Closed me.

Ciao, Robert--
 
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technokat is offline technokat Post #9  May 26,2008, 8:20pm
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You know, you could always tell him that my Uncle Vinnie Boombatz would like to pay him a visit... [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-cool.gif[/img]
 
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Nice suggestion, Technokat. Maybe your Uncle V can get a job at eH "putting the hurt" on all thosescum we locate, surely a full-time job!

I've got another scammerright behind the last.This time before I call him out, I think I will declare my love and start talking all metaphysical about how we are perfectly alligned with the spirits and stars and that I've already received my family's blessing to marry him -- only THEN would he receive my lucrative family dowry, but nota penny beforehand.

I'm afraid I have too much downtime theselong weekends ...
 
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