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beachcomber80 is offline beachcomber80 Post #51  October 10,2010, 6:56pm
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I have to disagree with you on that. i think women are far more discriminating then men when it comes to looks. Yes men are players and charmers but women have their games as well and theirs are based on a man's looks. Women feel that they have to be pretty all the time or they won't even go outside the house if they don't have their "face" on. They only focus on how buff and cut men are and go immediately after those types.

Even the so called "bad boys" who would treat them like crap they go after because they present that little bit of danger or rush of excitement that an old fashioned gentleman wouldn't or can't provide. Why else do we see so many cases of domestic violence on TV today anyways,not to mention the divorce rate today as opposed to say 50 yrs ago? It's because we've become such a use and abuse and discard society(not to mention shallow and egotistical, I'm talking both sides) that it has become that much harder to find anyone truly kind and decent that would take the chance to look past someone's looks to see what's in their hearts. Everyone should look up the movie Hitch, that movie nails it right on the head as to how men and women operate today. You can't even say something as simple to a girl that you've been talking to for awhile anymore that you simply like them without them going all weird on you and pull back. It's as if that has become such a dirty phrase to say almost like cussing. We are not psychics and god knows that many men would love the chance to read women's minds to see how they tick but that's just not going to happen. So why can't we just say something like that to someone without all the fallout that usually follows? I myself am slender, athletic(love to workout to keep healthy), i may not be the hottest man out there but i do consider myself to be somewhat handsome and was raised to know how to treat a lady right, but for some reason every women i have come across has either pretended to be nice to me just because they can't bring themselves to be total stuckups or they just flat out treat me like I'm some sort of infectious disease to be eradicated. And this is coming not only from the "hot" women but the ones who you would view as average or even a little on the chunky side. So either women are all screwed up or i keep finding ones with serious confidence issues and feel that they have to take it out on good and decent guys like me. I'm jut basing this on my own years of bad experiences with women that's all. I'm not saying that all women are like this it's just that that's all i keep finding. To you readers that would view this, if any of it offends you, I apologize but that's just how I feel and I always tell it like it is and speak from the heart.I don't believe in deceiving anyone when they are going to find out eventually anyways so I just tell it like it is.
 
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ok this is for beachcomber80's comment. You are kind of being a hypocrite! You talk about how women just look at the physical side of men and judge them only on the way they look. But then you mention "Its not just from the hot girls, but the so called average ones and even the chunky ones." What constitutes a "Hot girl" or an "average one"?? Is that not looking at them from a physical stance. Like, OMG, even the chunky ones are being rude to me- how could they?? They should be ok with me because they are not the hot ones! Really? thats how your rant sounds... maybe you should check that one out and then question why you get attitude!
 
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BeachComber,
All you're showing is that you don't get it. It's a combination of things. If they don't feel attraction for you, whether sooner or later, then they're going to show it sooner or later. That's the way it is. It's because of you and you not being adequately able to 'keep' their attraction. It's not merely a matter of being nice/gentleman, in shape, nice face, nice face, nice hair, nice teeth, nice skin, though that all helps, the more of those qualities the better your chances of success with women, done appropriately of course. But, equally important is your 'inner person' and how it relates to the world. Don't get stuck with 'right' and 'wrong' per se. Consider this, there's should be an element, kind of, that 'you don't need women', but you enjoy, appreciate, and love women. Don't get too emotionally attached, but thoroughly enjoy being with them, and being there for them. But, don't 'lose' yourself. Be of strong character, but not 'overly' attached to a woman. They like that, that you're not 'too attached', - if they(women) are of a quality that they have many attractive male options for suitors. Live with a mindset of abundance, and live appropriately for you and those in your life. Abundance, not scarcity. Enjoy. Gladly let them go if they don't fit mutually.
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harmonicsexplorer wrote :
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All you're showing is that you don't get it. It's a combination of things. If they don't feel attraction for you, whether sooner or later, then they're going to show it sooner or later. That's the way it is. It's because of you and you not being adequately able to 'keep' their attraction. It's not merely a matter of being nice/gentleman, in shape, nice face, nice face, nice hair, nice teeth, nice skin, though that all helps, the more of those qualities the better your chances of success with women, done appropriately of course. But, equally important is your 'inner person' and how it relates to the world. Don't get stuck with 'right' and 'wrong' per se. Consider this, there's should be an element, kind of, that 'you don't need women', but you enjoy, appreciate, and love women. Don't get too emotionally attached, but thoroughly enjoy being with them, and being there for them. But, don't 'lose' yourself. Be of strong character, but not 'overly' attached to a woman. They like that, that you're not 'too attached', - if they(women) are of a quality that they have many attractive male options for suitors. Live with a mindset of abundance, and live appropriately for you and those in your life. Abundance, not scarcity. Enjoy. Gladly let them go if they don't fit mutually.

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