Online Dating 101: Photos

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MicMan is offline MicMan Post #31  February 17,2010, 6:02am
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2. Tiny photos where we cannot see your face. Yeah, your hair is black, but what color are your eyes?
I get a lot of those. It is kind of frustrating when a match has multiple pictures and they are all postage stamp sized.

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3. All taken on the same day, in the same clothing.
That doesn't bother me a bit.


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4. Scowls.
Seems like there are a lot of women that also have an aversion to smiling.

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5. Obviously cropped out the ex girlfriend or wife. If it's a sister or cousin, say so in the caption.
Someone cropped out doesn't bother me that much, but I know it does bother a lot of people. I guess I'd rather have a cropped out picture than one where a guy is hanging all over a girl.

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6. Blurry. All of them. Please, I may need glasses but come on.
With digital cameras so available, it shouldn't be that hard to get good pictures.

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7. Pick the man shots. A shot of three men, all about the same age. Caption does nothing to identify. (If I don't like the first can I exchange him for one of the other two?)
I cannot stand the "Where's Waldo?" pictures. I've had plenty of profiles where all of the pictures are group pictures, sometimes with helpful captions like "Out with friends." The caption function is great. Use it to clearly identify who you are.

One of the biggest photo tropes that I'm seeing right now is the "I'm in a car" phenomenon. Just about every day I get a least one match with a picture of her sitting in a car where the shot has been taken from the dashboard POV. I guess I didn't get the memo about that being a standard shot in online dating profiles. Maybe that's replaced the MySpace bathroom mirror shots.
 
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Ok, the cropped photo can be fine, IF there isn't a girl half on top of you while you're sitting on a couch or lawn chair and her hand is on your thigh!


Another match just came up that has some great photos except, I cannot see his full face in ANY of them. They are of him with his daughters, walking away from the camera. On a web cam thing with his daughters, half of his face is blocked by one of them (They are cute, though). And one where he is with one of his daughters again, and sideways to the camera. I get it, you're a good dad. Now, tell (show) me something about you.
 
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Things not to post as your profile picture.

I've seen a lot of profiles in the last couple of months, and certain trends have been noticeable.

1. Images altered with a Nintendo DS or similar device. I have seen these three times now, two posted by women, 1 by a man. Of the former, one had elongated and twisted her neck (about 360 degrees) in a shot which showed her side-on from the waist up in a relaxed sitting position. The second was a headshot, over which she had superimposed a Papa Smurf type beard, moustache and cap (in three different pastel colours,no less). The male had enlarged the smile in a head and shoulders shot. One would suspect that they were not serious. Or a little odd.

2. A tattoo, presumably the poster's own tattoo, and that's all. Nothing else. I've seen this once.

3. A collection of body shots, in none of which was the poster's face visible. This really makes one wonder. Sure, it is intriguing, and will certainly attract the type of viewer who is primarily interested in sex, but the rest will find themselves without a sense of who you are. I have seen one profile like this.

4. Shots showing someone sitting on a motorcycle, presumably the poster themselves, but how could one possibly know, because the rider is wearing a full face helmet. I have seen quite a few of these.

5. Though dealt with elsewhere on this page, sunglasses, especially where of all the photographs posted (or the single photograph), show the poster wearing dark glasses.

6. Un-captioned group shots in which it is not evident who you are.

7. This is probably a personal preference but any photograph which depicts the poster holding liquor bottles, or glass-ware which might be presumed to contain alcoholic beverages. Obvious intoxication especially provides a less favourable impression, and is discernible, because the muscle tone of the face is altered, in addition to the usual signs like a flushed appearance to the skin.

8. Also dealt with elsewhere, but I agree, half of the shot in which the poster is with someone who most will presume to have been in a relationship with the poster. I suppose it would be possible to caption the the photograph, with an explanation of the disembodied arm/hand around the shoulder or waist of the poster, but....

and 9. A cat, dog, or other animal (I've seen a ferret, several horses, a snake and a boxer (the human type not the canine type posted as the only photograph in the profile of a woman). I think it would be ideal that there is at least one photograph of a human, which could be the poster. Where there are multiple pictures, a picture of a pet, someone else's pet or clip art the poster has downloaded are perfectly reasonable, provided there is that one photograph. I've seen dozens of these, however. Or maybe there are a lot of people out there who look exactly like kittens, and I simply failed to notice.
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I would like to say i hope this will be an enjoyable experience.  I havn't dated in a long time.  Hope to find someone out there that is interested in the same things i am.  Thankyou eharmoney for giving me this chance,bonnielee
 
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Hi,I am a new member to eharmoney.I dont have a photograph either but will get one.I hope there are alot of happy people that have met the right person.Hope to meet some also.
 
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Lady21 is offline Lady21 Post #37  May 18,2010, 3:59pm
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I am new to Eharmony as well. I don't know if I have the right photos or not. I have tried all kinds of photos so far! We'll see!
 
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Hi Lady21,

Welcome to eHarmony Advice!

Well the photo you have here looks great. You read the article, so you’ve got a head start. There are also other articles about photos and profile writing on our Using eHarmony articles page:

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i ve tried to put a photo up thats a good one of me but you guys keep on denying me its modest i have tried it 3 or 4 times but yall dont like it so i will just have to put up my ugly photos
 
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Hi Jennieterry,

Welcome to eHarmony Advice!

Sorry your photos have been repeatedly denied. I’m guessing that it’s not because they are indecent or inappropriate, but maybe because they are unclear or small?

Have you asked our Customer Care team the reason for denial? You can contact them through our FAQs page: eHarmony Support Home Page.

I’m sorry that this confines you to using less-preferred photos. Have you considered having a friend take new photos? It could be fun…

We encourage members to get the best photos of yourself possible, because this will make it most likely for you to receive communications from the best matches. People tend to respond to clear faces and seeing their matches in various settings doing various activities in photos.

I hope you’ll consider joining us for more discussions!
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