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wow there are some shallow people on here...........thats sad that some of you guys are having a hard time
- November 6th, 2009, 01:45 pm
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Unfortunately online dating is 99% about the photo that you put up.
With my normal profile on match,
I would get a couple of women a month that write to me.
So I tried an experiment, I replaced my photo with one of a hot looking unknown actor 1/2 my age (I'm almost 50). Within 24 hours I had 30 emails.
Then I used the same attractive photo and wrote the text so that he was an arrogant jerk. Still the ladies hit on him like flies on a fresh turd. These very same women go on in their profiles about how they want someone who is nice and caring for their life long love blah blah blah. What total BS! What would this young guy want with a bunch of middle aged women? And the only lasting thing they would get would be an STD....

I was going to invite them all to meet "me" at the same location at the same time. Imagine how funny it would be to see all these lovely ladies dressed to the max standing in a row waiting for Mr wonderful.

Anyway Eharmony does work better, and feeds your matches to you slowly enough that you look beyond the photo. I have since found someone so I no longer need to do this....
- November 11th, 2009, 11:52 pm
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Kudos princess1085! Not only is that an excellent list but also very similar to my own. There's no need to repeat your list, though. Mine is just in a different order. I look at statements made first. While I am doing that I check spelling and evaluate grammar, etc.

Before the guys jump on this, let me inform you that the photo is that absolute last thing I look at on a profile. If everything else looks good to me, only then will I scroll back up to see the photo. If I am completely repulsed, I will close. There have been very few (less than 10) men that I have closed out due to looks. Everyone else gets a chance if they want one.

I know that I am nowhere near the best looking female out here. There are many more who are much better looking than I am. I do, however, get tired of being evaluated on looks alone. It comes with the territory, unfortunately.

We all need to present ourselves in the best possible manner while we search for our best possible mate. Sadly, I also have to agree with juswanna help. There are some extremely shallow people out here. On the good side, there are a lot of magnificent people out here, too. If you are patient, you will find your match.
- November 20th, 2009, 11:16 pm
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rotnrobie wrote :
Unfortunately online dating is 99% about the photo that you put up.
With my normal profile on match,
I would get a couple of women a month that write to me.
So I tried an experiment, I replaced my photo with one of a hot looking unknown actor 1/2 my age (I'm almost 50). Within 24 hours I had 30 emails.
Then I used the same attractive photo and wrote the text so that he was an arrogant jerk. Still the ladies hit on him like flies on a fresh turd. These very same women go on in their profiles about how they want someone who is nice and caring for their life long love blah blah blah. What total BS! What would this young guy want with a bunch of middle aged women? And the only lasting thing they would get would be an STD....

I was going to invite them all to meet "me" at the same location at the same time. Imagine how funny it would be to see all these lovely ladies dressed to the max standing in a row waiting for Mr wonderful.
This is good stuff. Internet dating is definitely slanted far more to looks and physical attraction than one would think or tries to believe.
- November 21st, 2009, 08:36 pm
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I'm not going to lie. The photo is the first thing I look at. I look for men who match my own level of attractiveness and personality. I think most people look for the same. I feel that photos give me very good idea of the person's personality, more so than the written profile. I can see if they're fun, sloppy, goofy, insecure, introvert, life of the party, sporty, casual, serious, who they surround themselves with, etc. And yes, I want to be attracted to my date. What's wrong with that? If that means I am shallow, so be it. I think that men are pickier than women when it comes to looks so I don't understand why they get so bothered when they get closed. I'm sure many guys have closed me because they didn't like my photos. That's ok. I don't get all bent out of shape. I can't be everyone's type. If the photo is good but the profile is not what I'm looking for, I will close. Why waste my time, right?
- December 29th, 2009, 10:44 pm
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StPaulGuy wrote :
This is good stuff. Internet dating is definitely slanted far more to looks and physical attraction than one would think or tries to believe.
Of course, with traditional dating, looks don't matter at all.
- December 29th, 2009, 11:01 pm
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I hope this dateing site works better than the other ones .


 

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