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I had a match that only had one photo and it was about 1/4 the size of these avatar photos. I couldn't tell if she was good looking but I could tell she wasn't too bad. Turned out she was actually kind of nice looking. But that's not why she's my SO.
- October 13th, 2009, 09:49 am
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vinny0677 wrote :
i dont want to have my photo on display all the time. does anyone know how to adjust the setting so it is available on demand only?
Hi vinny0677,

Any photos posted on your profile will be available -- but only available -- to matches who are subscribed members.

However, if you are not comfortable posting a photo on your profile, you may want to let your matches know this on your About Me page -- it's up to you if you want to explain why this is. And you may also want to let them know that, once you reach Open Communiction , you'll be glad to share photos.

Viewing photos is important to many members so giving your matches a heads up regarding your decision may help encourage them to still communicate with you. Though we encourage members to make sure that their About Me page is thoroughly and thoughtfully filled out and that they provide detailed answers, it is even more important if you won't be posting photos on your profile.

If you haven't already done so, I encourage you to check out the Profile Workshops going on here on our Advice site. Each profile highlights a specific About Me page question and staff and eHarmony members provide their thoughts on the best way to answer these questions. Here's a link to the various workshops:
http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...sted-here.html (eHarmony Profile Workshop Threads (Links listed here))

Also, our Customer Care team is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to provide suggestions and support. You can e-mail Customer Care from the Help link located at the bottom of all our Singles site pages or by clicking here: http://help-singles.eharmony.com/. From the FAQ page, click on any topic, and you will see an e-mail link.

Once your e-mail is successfully sent, you will receive a confirmation number, and a Customer Care agent will be glad to follow up with you.

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- October 15th, 2009, 10:10 pm
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I have a few suggestions for men and their profiles: 


1) While it is nice that you have a mother, children, grandchildren that you highly value ... if all your pictures are of you and your teenage kids or you with your aging mother  --- it's really hard to envision you romantically. Save the package for later.


 2) Please don't post a picture of your Harley as your primary photo on dating sites ..... unless you seriously have nothing else to offer.


3) If you post photos that are representative of how you look ... you don't need to describe yourself in your profile as "attractive" or "younger-looking than my age"  ..... the beholder will make that judgment.  And frankly, it sounds rather arrogant which can be a turn-off.

- October 28th, 2009, 02:00 pm
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For the guys - PLEASE, please take of your hats! I don't care what kind of cool hats you have, I would like to see all of you - not your head cut off right above the eyes. Thanks!
- October 30th, 2009, 10:10 am
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Wow I have been on a lot of dating sites, and you heft to be prince charming, and attractive for women to respond on these sites. The women that do respond on these sites are the one's from other countries. I been on so many sites, and I know how women play us guy's. No wonder there is so many single women out there. Remember personally is first, faith is second, and looks is third! One other thing to remember you can't always go by photo's because I look much cooler that what I look like on photo. (laugh) I'm just loving it... When women close out my profile I don't even bother to send a final message, I just close out the match like they did, and (laugh) to myself saying there a other went for looks. By the way here a example I have been on this site for 3 months (as a paying member) total matches close out 575 matches, Wow!


Next month is my last month (as  a paying member). Total money spent on dating sites this year (450.00). Next year as the new year rolls in, I will give up looking for love, and lived happy ever after being single. But for now see what happens!


Undecided 

- October 31st, 2009, 07:11 pm
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Sweetest wrote :
Wow I have been on a lot of dating sites, and you heft to be prince charming, and attractive for women to respond on these sites. The women that do respond on these sites are the one's from other countries. I been on so many sites, and I know how women play us guy's. No wonder there is so many single women out there. Remember personally is first, faith is second, and looks is third! One other thing to remember you can't always go by photo's because I look much cooler that what I look like on photo. (laugh) I'm just loving it... When women close out my profile I don't even bother to send a final message, I just close out the match like they did, and (laugh) to myself saying there a other went for looks. By the way here a example I have been on this site for 3 months (as a paying member) total matches close out 575 matches, Wow!


Next month is my last month (as a paying member). Total money spent on dating sites this year (450.00). Next year as the new year rolls in, I will give up looking for love, and lived happy ever after being single. But for now see what happens!


Dude I totally know how you feel. I seriously feel your pain. I've been on here for about a month. I'm dreading the next 2 months. I have nearly 700 closed matches. I had 2 women talk to me however 1 has straight up ignored me after SHE initiated conversation and the other has deleted her profile. Talk about a let down. I don't think I'm an ugly person but this is downright frustrating. I just don't get it. Anyways man, good luck on finding someone. Again, I'm in the same boat lol
- November 2nd, 2009, 06:11 pm
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Sweetest wrote :

Wow I have been on a lot of dating sites, and you heft to be prince charming, and attractive for women to respond on these sites. The women that do respond on these sites are the one's from other countries. I been on so many sites, and I know how women play us guy's. No wonder there is so many single women out there. Remember personally is first, faith is second, and looks is third! One other thing to remember you can't always go by photo's because I look much cooler that what I look like on photo. (laugh) I'm just loving it... When women close out my profile I don't even bother to send a final message, I just close out the match like they did, and (laugh) to myself saying there a other went for looks. By the way here a example I have been on this site for 3 months (as a paying member) total matches close out 575 matches, Wow!


Next month is my last month (as  a paying member). Total money spent on dating sites this year (450.00). Next year as the new year rolls in, I will give up looking for love, and lived happy ever after being single. But for now see what happens!


Undecided 

I am going to be very candid with you (especially because I have been following another thread where people have been discussing whether matches should be able to write in exactly why they are closing someone out, and I think they should). Regardless of your photo, I would close your profile if it is written like this post. Your comment is full of typos and grammatical errors. That may not matter to some but from what I have read it matters to many. I sympathize with your feelings about having so many people close you (it happens to everybody, I promise you), and about the money invested without better results. But before you assume that women (or men as the case may be) are passing you over for superficial or unfair reasons, be sure that you have done everything you can to present yourself in the best light. Get a friend to look things over for you, use spellcheck, or take advantage of the profile workshops. It may help.
- November 4th, 2009, 03:45 pm
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Mr or Ms. Sweetest was a troll and has already been deleted.
- November 4th, 2009, 06:48 pm
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I wanted to put a quick note on here, especially for the guys who automatically assume that they are being deleted for their looks.
Here are my top 5 reasons (in the order I use them) for deleting a guy off of my profile:
#1. His profile is not filled out completely
#2. His profile is filled out, but 50% of the sections have random characters or words so that it only looked like it was done.
#3. Typos, typos, typos. Most women are very big on spelling and typos. Think of it as an entrance essay for college. If that profile is your best effort, what does your everyday effort look like?
#4. I truly don't think I want to date this person based on statements they have made. I don't think we're compatible. An example: His hobbies are things I am not interested in; he has children already, and I personally want to start my own family with someone else just starting theirs (btw: KUDOS to single parents!!); or that he is not into missions, as I am.
#5. No picture posted, or not someone I am attracted to.
Guys, please don't take it personally if a girl closes your profile because you are not attractive to *her*. Would you stick around with a girl you weren't attracted to? We're making sure neither of us waste time with someone. Don't worry about the 500 or so girls that close your profile. There are billions of people out there. There may not be *one* person for everyone...but *everyone* probably isn't right for you either. Don't feel bad. Someone is there for you. Definitely don't blame the girl. Thank her that you can now focus on someone right for you. That's what I do for every guy (and there are hundreds) who close the match with me.
- November 5th, 2009, 10:21 pm
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KOOL I can comment. I agree to the above. I am IMHO good looking, in great shape for 47. 6'1" 180# hardly any grey. Very energetic, fun, open minded. With most of the guys I see my age, I IMO think I am in the top 30%. BUT I have NO LUCK on Singles websites. I have joined and ended quit a few singles since 2006. Always saying to myself-"This is a waste of time ". I am open minded and figure I would give it a try again as I am NOT a quitter. I will just hope GOD will give me a hand in this journey. I am looking for female friends to have fun with, go out to eat, drive around and see new things, play pool, go bowling, dancing, most anything. You would think many women would like my profile and what I want and can give, It almost makes me feel like this is all fake??? Anyway, GOOD LUCK to all men and women, I HOPE you have MUCH better luck then me. JEFF ))

- November 6th, 2009, 03:21 am
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