SiriusBraveFan is offline SiriusBraveFan Post #1  December 27,2009, 6:12pm
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I find I am getting lots of matches who I would describe as the "travel and adventure" type. Although I like traveling to a certain extent (I like going on vacation and don't mind going to a new destination), I don't really travel much at all. And I certainly would not describe myself as very adventurous. So I am thinking it must be one of two things going on:
1.) The socioeconomic class I am being matched with, because
of education level for example, has matches who have just had
lots of those types of opportunities and grew up liking that
kinda thing. Or...
2.) I didn't do a good job of answering some of the questionnaire
when I signed up. I assume there were travel / adventure /
energetic lifestyle type questions in it (I don't remember
all the questions). Maybe I answered some thinking "yea,
I kinda like to travel or do new things," but should have
just answered that I didn't really like it??

I don't know, maybe I'm just thinking too much about the matches' profiles. Maybe a given match doesn't really want as much adventure as it may seem. Any thoughts?
 
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A lot of people list "travel and adventure" type activities in their profile. It doesn't necessarily mean they're constantly on the go with these activities, but maybe do them once a year or so. Actually, for a lot of matches they list things that they've *ever* done but don't actually do on any regular basis at all. Why? I don't know... maybe to seem more adventurous than they actually are.

If their profile is otherwise appealing to you, go ahead with communication. You can always ask about their activities later to find out how big a role they actually play in their lives.
 
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I agree with the above post.

Communicate with them and don't try to over-think something like this.
 
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You'll go nuts trying to analyze the reasons behind every match you get.

It might be a case of profile padding to sound more interesting or they might honestly love traveling and adventure and do that all the time. You won't know until you ask.
 
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I kind of agree with this ... so many people put travel and yet I wonder how many of them actually do. It seems more like its a wish they have that they'd like to do someday rather than something they really do a lot of.

And they all put that they want someone who likes adventure. But how many people really have adventures where they'd do something really crazy like say crash an amateur militia meeting just to see what's up with them. (I have for work.)

I begin to wonder if the adventurous tag is code for something else sometimes ...
 
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Maybe you could go back and see your answers and do some corrrecting.


SiriusBraveFan wrote :
I find I am getting lots of matches who I would describe as the "travel and adventure" type. Although I like traveling to a certain extent (I like going on vacation and don't mind going to a new destination), I don't really travel much at all. And I certainly would not describe myself as very adventurous. So I am thinking it must be one of two things going on:
1.) The socioeconomic class I am being matched with, because
of education level for example, has matches who have just had
lots of those types of opportunities and grew up liking that
kinda thing. Or...
2.) I didn't do a good job of answering some of the questionnaire
when I signed up. I assume there were travel / adventure /
energetic lifestyle type questions in it (I don't remember
all the questions). Maybe I answered some thinking "yea,
I kinda like to travel or do new things," but should have
just answered that I didn't really like it??

I don't know, maybe I'm just thinking too much about the matches' profiles. Maybe a given match doesn't really want as much adventure as it may seem. Any thoughts?
 
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Thanks for all the replies. I think I may be overthinking it, but the adventure part of it can be rather annoying sometimes.

As for going back and seeing my answers...not sure how to do that. But I presume that at some point I will re-take the questionnaire like eHarmony recommends. Thank again.
 
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Hey Sirius !

I feel for ya...I really do. I completely understand what you are talking about. I'm probably getting matches a little older than yours, but still, 'travel and adventure' is a common theme. Part of it I chalk up to living in California, but some of it is a bit of fantasy. We all come to these cites with visions of the kind of person we want and who would really fill our dreams. Sometimes these dreams can get lofty.

Like you, I do some travel, but I don't enjoy it...or at least not as much as what I hear from many others. Just got back from a nice trip in the tropics and it was a good trip. But, not without stress and thank goodness I have a few days afterwards to myself. I have a stressful job and a very demanding career, 'quiet time' is far more important than generating cocktail conversation about where I was over the Holidays. Part of this, may come from your matches looking for 'social status.'

One of my cousins knows a lot about traveling and adventure. He's been in the Third World (Middle East/Africa) over the last five or so years, mostly with the Peace Corps. He loves it, and he certainly has a lot of stories. But, we are very different people and I should note, he's about 26/27, and Mom and Dad are getting on him to 'come home and get a job.' Outside of Summer jobs at school, he hasn't been in the working world, the other 'real world,' and he'll be going through that transition soon. Conversely, there are those who are retired and wish to spend their last active years with 'adventures' of these sorts. Nothing wrong with that either. But, in my early 40's, still working on my career, that type of stimulation doesn't appeal to me.

I think a lot of matches may put this kind of thing on their profiles to try to sound more interesting. Take it all with a grain of salt. But, if it is a heavy theme on their profile, they may not make a good match for you...or me, for that matter. Typically, if it's that ubiquitous on their 'about me,' then it's a close, 'statements made on their profile.'

Good luck.
 
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