Fast to slow response - lack of interest?


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MQRegan is offline MQRegan Post #1  December 18,2009, 10:46am
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Was matched up with this one. First question was responded to in a couple of hours. Took her then a week to send over her must wants/can't stands. Now waiting for her second set of q&a's. Should I scratch another one off as lack of interest?
 
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some people they may only be checking it once a week.

If they have work and have kids then it may take a while in between correspondence.

It seems that she is a paying member so it may take her some time.

It is possible she forgot where she read answers but didnt send the cant stands. After 7 days you can nudge her.
 
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MQRegan I've noticed the same thing...
 
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Hi MQRegan and Everyone,

Boy, that's always a tough one: Deciding when to move on. As, ami1uwant, shared, there are many legitimate reasons why there may be a delay in a match responding, and I whole-heartedly agree with her recommendation to send a Nudge when available.

Another reason for a delayed response may have to do with the time of the year. During the Holiday Seasons there are even more time constraints!

It is up to each member to decide when to close a match, but our general recommendation is to at least send a Nudge and wait another week before considering closing the match.

However, if you are particularly interested in a match, being patient can pay off. It did for a successfully-matched member who shared recently with us that he waited just over 3 weeks for his, now wife, to respond.

Successes like that are the reason I always recommend that members err on the side of being patient.

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What harm is there leaving the match open? It isn't like eHarmony has a set limit of the number of matches you're allowed to have open at a time.
 
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MicMan wrote :
What harm is there leaving the match open? It isn't like eHarmony has a set limit of the number of matches you're allowed to have open at a time.
Reason being why should I wait for them to have an interest in me? Already wasted 80.00 for someone else to meet me for drinks and TAPAS. Never heard from her again. Granted, her personality was about as enthusiastic as a doorknob, but still. I think I have to stop being a gentlemen and just let things fall where they may. I mean, she offered to pay at least, I stupidly, declined. Took three weeks to get a meet date. Shoulda known it was going to be a waste. Closed her out today after a week for her to get back to me.
 
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You spent $80 on a meeting? You've been here long enough to know that's not how a first meeting should go. Tsk tsk.
 
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Its Manhattan. Everything is more there. Used to date outside Manhattan and I got no where. Hoping for better odds in Manhattan; assuming I don't go broke in the process.
 
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Read some of the threads about first meetings... there are many, many cheaper ways to go. And not just to be a cheapskate, either.
 
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MQRegan is offline MQRegan Post #10  December 19,2009, 7:43pm
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Yea, not sure of that in NYC.
 
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