Hesitation in communication -- do you do it?


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eHA_Admin_Lori is offline eHA_Admin_Lori — Advice Official Moderator Post #1  December 15,2009, 11:01am
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How often do you view a match's profile and are interested in them, but don't start communication?

What are your reasons for doing so?

Do you feel as if you've missed opportunities because of it?
 
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gonefishing68 is offline gonefishing68 Post #2  December 16,2009, 7:59am
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The only reason I've done it and I don't that often is when the match prefers fastrack. My preference is GC.
I have had it happen to me very often, I don't know if the match has been interested in my profile and not responded but I certainly think they missed an opportunity...lol
 
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I am not sure if this applies. But at thanksgiving I had been in the GC with someone and a few of his questions he had answered didnt sit that well as a match to me. I was being flooded with new matches at the same time and was having to do the full Turkey dinner. The communication went into OC and I really didnt even know where to begin (being a newby). So the day before Thanksgiving I put my matches on hold to stop the flood. I sat down at the puter the evening after Thanksgiving and he had closed me stating I had put him on hold. So all together it was three days. I didnt think that was too long. He professed to be a patient person but his actions kinda told me different. So I was kinda actually relieved.
 
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I check all my new matches when they arrive. If I have several matches in communication then I may not start communication with the new match right away. But I may go back and review her profile from time to time, particularly if she has viewed my profile.

I have many matches that will keep viewing my profile but never initiate communication. When they view my profile several times but don't initiate communication then I will go ahead and send First Questions even if I am already communicating with several other matches. In almost all cases they will never respond nor close.
 
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If I remember a match well enough to revisit their profile a second time, I will usually send them first questions if they haven't sent theirs. I've only opened two matches myself, though, as I like to take things a little slow perhaps. The rest were opened by the guy.
 
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I start communication with every match I get. Why wouldn't I? It only takes a minute, and I never know which ones are going to reply.

Rejecting someone because they prefer Fasttrack is pretty dumb, unless you just want cyber friends and are afraid of the real world.
 
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