Users Share - Tips for Building an Effective eHarmony Profile

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classicliberty is offline classicliberty Post #1  December 15,2009, 8:12am
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Great article -- to emphasize, combination of bad spelling and poor grammar, canned answers and one photo is what I see most often -- it isn't hard to add just a little more.
 
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MW77009 is offline MW77009 Post #2  December 15,2009, 6:52pm
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The most important for me are as follows: 1) Posting a good quality picture that is not a glamour shot nor a self portrait from a cell phone or a group shot in a photo booth at the dime store; 2) COMPLETING a profile; Removing all spelling and grammatical errors.   I get a lot of matches every day and I find that 75% of them violate those rules.  The end result is that they are out.  It makes the initial sort very quick.  Its too bad people choose to waste their money like that.
 
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eH_Advice_Host_Renee is offline eH_Advice_Host_Renee Post #3  December 19,2009, 5:52pm

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Hi Everyone,

Just two comments regarding this wonderful resource! How can that be!

As we all know, your profile is what inspires matches to communicate with you! So, if you're an eHarmony member who is discouraged by the amount of communication you are experiencing, these tips from actual eHarmony users can be just the thing to help you enhance your profile and get to communicating with your matches!

Also, if one of the tips really speaks to you or is one that you've followed and had success with, please share your experience.

And while there are a lot of great tips regarding photos and creating your About Me page, if you have a tip that isn't on the list, please share your wisdom with your fellow eHarmony members!

Lastly, though creating the best profile possible is important, it can take new members a little time to get it together. They may even need to see Tips like these to fully understand the best way of creating their profile. So, I encourage MW77009 and others who close new matches quickly, to give them some time to work on their profile. Nothing to lose by being patient, but you may miss out on someone wonderful because you didn't give them a little more time.

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dinger2003 is offline dinger2003 Post #4  December 21,2009, 10:11am
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I know this man who goes to a professional photographer('cause he's rich ) then posts the awesome looking picture of his, and he's getting a lot of feedback. The sad part is that, he's using it to play his famous game: "Hunt and Gather." He's in Yahoo Personal, Match.com, and all the other dating websites. He uses, manipulates,and exploits women for his own satisfaction and addiction. His profile is written beautifully and almost without a flaw. He's getting dates everyday, practically 4 to 7 women a day. To make it worst, he hooks all these women until the women have/had invested so much in the relationship with him and be difficult to get away without feeling devastated and being traumatized.


What bothers me though, is that part where it says: Drinks:.......a social drinker......in fact, he drinks everyday. By the time it's 4:00 p.m., he starts drinking until he goes to bed.( intoxicated) People don't tell the truth and fabricate information about themselves online. That's why I'd rather tell people about myself in person.


A great profile can be enticing, but watch out for the PLAYERS and WOMANIZERS out there!
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charlie990 is offline charlie990 Post #5  December 30,2009, 10:04am
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what I find hard to come to terms with is we live an a society that is phony ..the values are superficial..especially when it comes to finding a partner .. what one see's in well presented profiles is to me, geneerally a total turn off because I can see it has little to do with whats real .. the above advise given is sound advice.. it may well help one chances of meeting people..but.. whats inside is what really matters and we are ALL flawed..I mean..its incredibly EASY to trick someone into believing one is something other than oneself ..but..for how long?? .. women are ,very commonly, by neccessity  masters of deceit... when the sexual attraction wanes and close scrutiny is employed after a few years the whole deal begins to come apart..which is why most relationships in western society rarely last more than 7 yrs.. if even that long.. on top if which ..In America wisdom is eschewed in favour of the instant gratification of youth.. great for all types of consumerism ..but terrible for the long term health of humanity, the survival of ALL life we co-exist with and total disaster the very systems that ACTUALLY support us..    
 
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As a writer, my book answer is as lengthy as the site allows!  Writing and language usage, mine and others', is one of the most wonderful things in life to me.  Contrary to one particularly sad bit of advice above, I say tell me about your literary passion!  If I write well about the books and authors I love (and BTW, I love being read to and vice versa) and someone can't see the value of that beyond their blinders, then I suspect they are intimidated by my passion, experience and mind- and that just won't work anyway!
Also, if you have more than "one thing you're most passionate about" why pretend otherwise in order to conform to a questionaire format?  Please, mention your multiple passions.  I think I mentioned 27 or so in my "one passion" field.  Some men have found my doing so humorous, most have found my answers at least informative.
 
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RickyJoy wrote :
As a writer, my book answer is as lengthy as the site allows! Writing and language usage, mine and others', is one of the most wonderful things in life to me. Contrary to one particularly sad bit of advice above, I say tell me about your literary passion! If I write well about the books and authors I love (and BTW, I love being read to and vice versa) and someone can't see the value of that beyond their blinders, then I suspect they are intimidated by my passion, experience and mind- and that just won't work anyway!

Also, if you have more than "one thing you're most passionate about" why pretend otherwise in order to conform to a questionaire format? Please, mention your multiple passions. I think I mentioned 27 or so in my "one passion" field. Some men have found my doing so humorous, most have found my answers at least informative.
The goal of your profile and your e-communications is to attract a match's interest, and to hold onto it long enough to meet the person. You will find many threads here where we talk about the importance of "being yourself" and giving brief snapshots into your life and your personality. Long essay answers and long lists of interests are both bad things to do. Your matches will often lose interest simply due to the verbosity, or because you're simply giving away too much information, too soon.
 
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ATTN MEN IN THEIR 30's and 40's...please, please, please start looking for a woman in your own age range!  we are out there and want to meet you...we are really nice, nice looking, happy, interesting people with a lot to offer a relationship partner...besides, every time you mention something that happened before 1990 you won't have to explain to your date what or who you are talking about!
 
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And what does this have to do with creating an effective profile?
 
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ggardner2009 wrote :
ATTN MEN IN THEIR 30's and 40's...please, please, please start looking for a woman in your own age range! we are out there and want to meet you...we are really nice, nice looking, happy, interesting people with a lot to offer a relationship partner...besides, every time you mention something that happened before 1990 you won't have to explain to your date what or who you are talking about!
I think men that age can decide for themselves what age range they prefer.
 
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