Closing Your Matches - What Does "Other" Mean?


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kim613 is offline kim613 Post #381  August 2,2010, 9:34am
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How do you find out why your match decided to close the match?
 
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Sassafras54 is offline Sassafras54 — Advice Official Moderator Post #382  August 2,2010, 9:38am
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Hi kim!

This is an old thread ... EH used to provide an option, when you closed a match, to tell your match why you were closing. You could pick from a list of 10 or 12 reasons, or "other".

EH got a lot of negative feedback on it, and they have deleted the option. So now, there is no way to know why someone closed you.

Please don't assume it's something negative about you. There are 100's of reasons -- distance too far, I met someone else, I've decided not to date right now, our values don't match, whatever -- none of which have anything much to do with you really.

Best to just let it go, forget that match, and focus on matches who are progressing.

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mspriss is offline mspriss Post #383  August 8,2010, 5:32pm
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harmonicsexplorer wrote :
Why not just close with 'I want to pursue other matches on eHarmony' ?
A little redundant aren't we?
 
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mspriss wrote :
A little redundant aren't we?
Hi Mspriss,

Welcome to eHarmony Advice!

Well, I'm not sure how long you've been on eHarmony, but this thread started back when eHarmony used to give members a list of reasons that they could close the match, and "I'd like to pursue other matches on eHarmony" used to be on that list.

There were many reasons why we removed the ability for people to list why they were closing the match. I personally think it's nice to just close with no reason.

I hope you'll join us in more discussions!

All the best,

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simplya is offline simplya Post #385  October 7,2010, 3:59pm
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After agreeing to communicate by telephone, I had a guy close our match because I inadvertently typed one digit wrong in my number. When he sent a message stating he tried calling and provided the number he dialed, I realized the error, I profusely apologized for the typo (one digit off...), provided the correct number. He never tried calling with the correct number. The next day, I received a message that he requested to close the match. One thing this experience reminded me of - I do not want to be in a relationship with someone who does not allow room for errors, so in retrospect, it was better to have found that out sooner rather than later.
 
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ErikkaT is offline ErikkaT Post #386  January 17,2011, 8:20am
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This must be an old post.........

When I have Closed a match, I am not allowed to choose a reason..........
I click on "Close Match", and thats it....................
 
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TrekRyder10 is offline TrekRyder10 Post #387  January 17,2011, 9:27am
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Yup the thread was started in 2007..

The close reasons were removed in the spring 'upgrade' of 2010
Last edited by TrekRyder10; January 17,2011 at 9:27am. Reason: and I don't miss'em
 
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Sassafras54 wrote :
Hi Frankie and welcome to EHA!

You will get more response to your post if you start a new thread for it ... you've tacked onto a really old thread that isn't relevant anymore, so a lot of people won't read it. To start a new thread, go to the forum's main page and pick "forum tools" then "post a new thread". Give it a title like "How to get people to respond?" then write your post.

But here's an answer: It's possible your profile isn't presenting you well; that happens a lot. You can post your profile here to get feedback on ways to improve it: see the thread at the top of this forum called "PROFILE REVIEW INSTRUCTIONS".

Also make sure you have good photos. People pay a lot of attention to those!

Good luck!

Hello,I am new to eh and am not really getting any profile responses. how would I go about doing the Profile Review? I searched it but nothing is coming up for me....is still availible for eHadvice? Thank you for your help.
 
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Hi jbreezy ... welcome!

Here are the instructions for getting your profile reviewed by EHAdvice members here in this forum: http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...12-1-10-a.html (PROFILE REVIEW INSTRUCTIONS AND GUIDELINES - updated 12/1/10)
 
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jbreezy is offline jbreezy Post #390  May 10,2011, 12:10pm
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Thank you for the info. I am really finding the advice here helpful!
 
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