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eHA_Admin_Lori is offline eHA_Admin_Lori — Advice Official Moderator Post #1  December 2,2009, 9:05am
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Hey folks,

I have an idea for an article that will really help our subscribers make their profiles the best they can possibly be.

As someone who uses, or has used, the eHarmony Service, please share your Top 3 Tips for a Great eHarmony Profile.

Once we have a good amount of responses I will go bug my boss about turning it into an article!

Looking forward to seeing your tips!

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1. Have a photo that is large enough to see and of good quality. And share it from the beginning.

2. Spell check and grammar check what you write.

3. Put something for each section.
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Iconography is offline Iconography Post #3  December 2,2009, 10:09am
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Trying not to overlap with Gr8Guy's list:

1) Be "yourself": show your profile to people who know you and are capable of providing insight and feedback. If they recognize specifically "you" in your profile, you're at the very least on the right track. (After that, if you're having no luck or you otherwise aren't satisfied, ask for help here on eHA.)

2) At least two CURRENT photos: a good head shot with a smile, and a full-body shot.

3) Minimize the use of texting "slang"/abbreviations, even if you're of one of the younger generations, just as you would when writing a resume.

(For #4 I'd add: "in your photos, avoid wearing Luftwaffe uniform jackets and wife-beater T-shirts", but then, if they show some aspect of you... um... yeah, go ahead!)
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1. To quote an old song, you've got to "accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative, and don't mess with Mister-In-Between." In other words don't go on about things you hate or dislike, and drop the baggage from past relationships. Baggage belongs on a plane, not in a relationship.

2. Check your ego at the door. If you are that interested in yourself, why are you looking for a relationship?

3. Have a close friend review your profile for you. Having a second set of eyes will catch spelling/grammatical errors and can provide perspective in answering the questions.
 
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Great tips so far!!!!

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1. Have several photos of you where I can see you clearly. Make sure they are large enough to see and if there are multiple people in the picture, clearly identify yourself.

2. Write your profile as who you really are, not who you want to be.

3. It isn't a bad idea to have some friends of the opposite sex take a look at your profile so you can get their advice.
 
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Never list an attribute which should be conveyed directly: "I have a sense of humor" has always been a sign they don't; "I'm intelligent" means they are not. Along these lines, never use an outside reference ("my friends say I'm fun, my mother says I'm attractive.")

Never try to mitigate a failure with an offsetting claim: "I'm overweight but I recently joined a gym. I'm out of work but I'm going to school." With this, don't bother with any defensive language, for any reason. While you're at it, don't blame your failure on your ex-partner(s), either.

Never be so ignorant as to get confused by your ignorance of reality: "all men cheat if they can get any with it" only ensures I'll close you extra fast. "Dogs are more important than men" ... and on and on.

All of the above are instant closes, whereas I meet women without photos.
 
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dogs are more important than cheating men who work out to lose fat.

1. Use some humor with information about yourself. We've all read the boring profiles ... make us laugh.
2. Post of photo that, if I decided to meet you, would let me recognize you.
3. Read the questions carefully. When it says list the *one thing* you feel most passionate about ... really: list the one thing. I don't like reading recycled Match profiles with their "resume lists" of likes.
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clearlyoblique wrote :
3. Read the questions carefully. When it says list the *one thing* you feel most passionate about ... really: list the one thing. I don't like reading recycled Match profiles with their "resume lists" of likes.
Yes, please, enough with the "I'm passionate about the following 834 things."

And with the book question...it is the last book you read and enjoyed. I don't want to know your library. I don't want to know that you consume a book a day. At most that should be two books: the last book you read and the last book you enjoyed. I'd argue that it truly should be the last book that you read that you really enjoyed. One.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
Never try to mitigate a failure with an offsetting claim: "I'm overweight but I recently joined a gym. I'm out of work but I'm going to school." With this, don't bother with any defensive language, for any reason. While you're at it, don't blame your failure on your ex-partner(s), either.

Never be so ignorant as to get confused by your ignorance of reality: "all men cheat if they can get any with it" only ensures I'll close you extra fast. "Dogs are more important than men" ... and on and on.

All of the above are instant closes, whereas I meet women without photos.
Along the lines of both of these, be positive. Don't show me that you're an angry, bitter person that blames the world on your own shortcomings.
 
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