_Lisa_ is offline _Lisa_ Post #1  November 21,2009, 3:39pm
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I am sure this has been posted before but how can you tell if one of your matches is a non paying member.

The reason I am asking is because I have been trying to communicate with a match that is someone I would be very interested in and I have received NOTHING in return. I have sent 1st questions, nudged him for a picture and I know that he has viewed my profile....

So what's up with him?
 
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Iconography is offline Iconography Post #2  November 21,2009, 4:15pm
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Sadly, it's impossible to distinguish the non-paying from the otherwise disinterested. If his profile is really attractive to you, make sure your profile looks as good as it can and just leave him in your queue, without closing him out. He might--just might--become interested enough to join, in order to communicate with you.

Meanwhile, move on to the next-most-interesting match.

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You cannot distinguish paying from non-paying. If you are willing to wait a few days to view new matches, you can see if they view your profile (their status will change from "New" to "1 2 3 4" when they view you IF you do not view them first). All this tells you is that they are "active" (logging in and viewing matches).
 
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Don't dwell on a match that isn't communicating.

There is no real way to tell if someone is a non-paying member. Some of the usual signs are incomplete profiles and no pictures, though those aren't always 100% non-members.

If he is a member, you may just have to face the reality that he isn't as interested in you as you are in him.
 
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Would you recommend fast track?
 
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_Lisa_ wrote :
Would you recommend fast track?
I personally don't use it and I don't think it would change the situation you are in now with this match.
 
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I don't think non-paying matches can view your profile, so wouldn't show up under "Who's Viewed Me"? I'm not sure though.

I vaguely remember that before I paid, if I clicked on a match I got a window telling me to subscribe if I want to view a profile.

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Sassafras54 wrote :
I don't think non-paying matches can view your profile
Absolutely incorrect. Why would they run incessant TV commercials telling prospective marks to "log in and view your matches for free"?
 
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Ditto Melman.
 
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