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I've been reading through some threads on the boards and have seen a lot of angst around match closings and the reason they choose to do so: 'Other', 'No Chemistry'- seems you can't win.

So I wonder, why do we have Close reasons at all- particularly for those matches that are not yet communicating with each other? I look at it as the equivalent of a guy seeing me in a lounge and deciding not to come over to talk to me- I don't need a reason why!

I can kind of understand wanting a reason if you've made it to a certain stage of Guided Communication or Open comunication, though I tend to think it's a bit unneccesary even then since they are canned responses, but are Close reasons necessary when you've done no more than view someone's profile?
- November 20th, 2009, 07:48 am
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You are absolutely correct that these close reasons are completely unnecessary and something that EH should do away with. It would certainly reduce the anxiety and anger that people feel. Something that I've been saying in every single thread like that, but I don't think EH wants to hear that....lol....
- November 20th, 2009, 08:01 am
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I understand closing it initially without reason. But after taking a few steps I would be nice to know why. I would prefer they had open ended comment blocks that you can be specific as to why. Sometimes it could be a simple misunderstanding. This is the same true with replies on closing. Imagine someone closes your match because you havent responded in a week because you were in the hospital or away on business.
- November 20th, 2009, 11:07 am
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Hear Hear! I agree completely!
- November 20th, 2009, 04:28 pm
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